Heart Cafted Poems - 2020
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Comment from RShipp
'was seeing his new world from a different lens was real'
and 'too much activity, causing him to meltdown into a primodial
stew of fear and uncontrollable tension' ... What a precise description!
Brought tears. Thanks for sharing.
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2020
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'was seeing his new world from a different lens was real'
and 'too much activity, causing him to meltdown into a primodial
stew of fear and uncontrollable tension' ... What a precise description!
Brought tears. Thanks for sharing.
Comment Written 10-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2020
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Thank you!
Comment from To Write Is To Live
God bless your grandson, John, his family, and you, too, for recognizing and accepting John for the unique, special, and gifted young man he is today. I know from personal experience that we, who are blessed to be able to love an autistic family member, experience challenges and joys that other folks can not understand. My daughter required movement to calm herself, stimming is the term. She was very kinetic, moving her hands and arms in a rhythmic, undulating motion, or dancing around the room when she felt uneasy or unsure about a situation. I remember she once asked me, "Why can't I just be? Perhaps it's only in heaven that perfection can be found." My daughter knew she was different from other children around her, and it broke not only her heart, but also the hearts of my wife and me, that she was judged by other kids, that they just wouldn't let her be herself.
May you always have the serenity to love and accept John for who he is; the strength and courage to advocate for John all the days you are blessed to be with him; and the wisdom to accept wholeheartedly all the joys and challenges that John blesses you with!
Thank you for writing and sharing, "On the spectrum."
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2020
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God bless your grandson, John, his family, and you, too, for recognizing and accepting John for the unique, special, and gifted young man he is today. I know from personal experience that we, who are blessed to be able to love an autistic family member, experience challenges and joys that other folks can not understand. My daughter required movement to calm herself, stimming is the term. She was very kinetic, moving her hands and arms in a rhythmic, undulating motion, or dancing around the room when she felt uneasy or unsure about a situation. I remember she once asked me, "Why can't I just be? Perhaps it's only in heaven that perfection can be found." My daughter knew she was different from other children around her, and it broke not only her heart, but also the hearts of my wife and me, that she was judged by other kids, that they just wouldn't let her be herself.
May you always have the serenity to love and accept John for who he is; the strength and courage to advocate for John all the days you are blessed to be with him; and the wisdom to accept wholeheartedly all the joys and challenges that John blesses you with!
Thank you for writing and sharing, "On the spectrum."
Comment Written 10-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2020
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To Write is to Live, Your passionate comments are so honest, pure, and, important. Thank you for sharing and yes John will be loved and admired for every part of him being John and all that this entails Bless you!
Comment from jake cosmos aller
very powerful and poignant. Nicely captures what it is like to be born different with perhaps a broken down brain that is just wired differently from the rest of us. glad that John seems to be recovering a bit and hope that he will grow up to be a fine man although he will always be a bit different that is the nature of mental illness In Asian societies the mentally ill are seen as being shamans but the underlying condition is the same. perhaps the Asian way is a better way of looking at it
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2020
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very powerful and poignant. Nicely captures what it is like to be born different with perhaps a broken down brain that is just wired differently from the rest of us. glad that John seems to be recovering a bit and hope that he will grow up to be a fine man although he will always be a bit different that is the nature of mental illness In Asian societies the mentally ill are seen as being shamans but the underlying condition is the same. perhaps the Asian way is a better way of looking at it
Comment Written 10-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2020
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JAke I think we can all learn through observation and come to the realization that we know so little about the real capability our minds have to offer us in new discoveries..
Comment from Janice Canerdy
This is one of the most beautiful and touching poems I have read lately--one that made me tear up while smiling. Your descriptions are vivid, specific, and powerful.
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2020
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This is one of the most beautiful and touching poems I have read lately--one that made me tear up while smiling. Your descriptions are vivid, specific, and powerful.
Comment Written 09-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2020
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Janice, you are so kind, thank you for the strong validation and six-stars. I am very grateful.
Comment from Veenbee
It's hard when you don't know how to help or the learning curve of understanding that reveals what's really happening in the head of your little genius. We pray they can grow and partake in this grand word of ours. Thanks for giving me understanding of this condition. Veenbee
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2020
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It's hard when you don't know how to help or the learning curve of understanding that reveals what's really happening in the head of your little genius. We pray they can grow and partake in this grand word of ours. Thanks for giving me understanding of this condition. Veenbee
Comment Written 09-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2020
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Veenbee, I thank you! Yes, each child has gifts that come packaged in each individual uniqueness, some just approach life in ways that others would dare not follow.
Comment from royowen
What a precious boy. We have a young friend, close friend of my daughter, who has three children, but two with autism, but through her love and devotion to them, she has guided them on a good path, and like your grandson they exceptionally gifted, so well done, she is likewise a Christine, she lived with us in a difficult period in her life. Well done, beautifully written, and a great help to others, blessings, Roy
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2020
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What a precious boy. We have a young friend, close friend of my daughter, who has three children, but two with autism, but through her love and devotion to them, she has guided them on a good path, and like your grandson they exceptionally gifted, so well done, she is likewise a Christine, she lived with us in a difficult period in her life. Well done, beautifully written, and a great help to others, blessings, Roy
Comment Written 09-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2020
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Roy, thank you for sharing, it saddens me that worldwide their is a seeming alarming increase in the numbers of children that are now being diagnosed with this condition, Your daughters friend must be an exceptional person and blessed to maneuver around the her children's world with loving kindness.
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Yes I think you?re right, it?s a dark time
Comment from roof35
This is a poignant story but shows how those on the spectrum function well in society and bring happiness to many. It is very well written with no errors. Nicely done.
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2020
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This is a poignant story but shows how those on the spectrum function well in society and bring happiness to many. It is very well written with no errors. Nicely done.
Comment Written 09-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2020
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roof, thank you for your review and comments.
Comment from estory
You speak here in a language straight from the heart about the joys and pains and frustrations of forming a relationship with someone who has autism. Someone you love. And the images here are vivid, images of lambs and lions bring to mind the gentleness but also the abrupt mood swings that can happen in people with this spectrum disorder. How simple things like water on your face can feel like scalding water. And yet how a child can build lego buildings just like any child. In the end, it is love that binds us all together and overcomes these physical barriers in the world. estory
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2020
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You speak here in a language straight from the heart about the joys and pains and frustrations of forming a relationship with someone who has autism. Someone you love. And the images here are vivid, images of lambs and lions bring to mind the gentleness but also the abrupt mood swings that can happen in people with this spectrum disorder. How simple things like water on your face can feel like scalding water. And yet how a child can build lego buildings just like any child. In the end, it is love that binds us all together and overcomes these physical barriers in the world. estory
Comment Written 09-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2020
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estory, thank you for your time to read and comment on this poem.
Comment from karenina
I can feel your heart. Your love for John is matched only by your unconditional acceptance that being on the spectrum is only one of many blessings God has given him. Blessing, some will say? Yes. We may not be able to enter the world of those Autism--but with patience and love we are granted the great gift of glimpsing a view of their vision, from their space... I have a dear friend who just recently discovered her toddler is Autistic. At first devastated...she now enters his world while learning what it is in our world he can tolerate. He is loving and sweet and, ironically, has the same aversion to water your John does! I have recently noticed that each time I go to visit (masked and socially distant)--his violent rocking slows and he self soothes by stroking his "favorite blanket." Thank you for so eloquently and lovingly educating us to the many facets of this disorder.--Karenina
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2020
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I can feel your heart. Your love for John is matched only by your unconditional acceptance that being on the spectrum is only one of many blessings God has given him. Blessing, some will say? Yes. We may not be able to enter the world of those Autism--but with patience and love we are granted the great gift of glimpsing a view of their vision, from their space... I have a dear friend who just recently discovered her toddler is Autistic. At first devastated...she now enters his world while learning what it is in our world he can tolerate. He is loving and sweet and, ironically, has the same aversion to water your John does! I have recently noticed that each time I go to visit (masked and socially distant)--his violent rocking slows and he self soothes by stroking his "favorite blanket." Thank you for so eloquently and lovingly educating us to the many facets of this disorder.--Karenina
Comment Written 09-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2020
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karenina, thank you for sharing your story, I know that your friend will grow in leaps and bounds to find the right path to reach and soothe her child. What a friend you are to support her in this uncharted water, kudo's!
Comment from nomi338
As a so called advanced society, I am encouraged by our experts waking up to the many faceted varieties of human development. There is not now, nor have there ever really been a one size fits all diagnosis for human developmental variations, that is accurate or effective. I hope that we are still learning how to not jump to conclusions about what is wrong with John or how to best deal with Suzy's perky behavior. This is a heart warming story about what appears to be a remarkable young man, your grandson.
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2020
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As a so called advanced society, I am encouraged by our experts waking up to the many faceted varieties of human development. There is not now, nor have there ever really been a one size fits all diagnosis for human developmental variations, that is accurate or effective. I hope that we are still learning how to not jump to conclusions about what is wrong with John or how to best deal with Suzy's perky behavior. This is a heart warming story about what appears to be a remarkable young man, your grandson.
Comment Written 09-Sep-2020
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2020
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I agree fully with your insights. We have so much more to discover about the human mind and all the intricate aspects surrounding how much more we could further develop our capabilities. Quite intriguing to think about all the possibilities and discoveries. Be well, friend!
