Remembering Yesterday
Viewing comments for Chapter 48 "Home Life and Yet Another Job"A widow's journey into her relationship with her
17 total reviews
Comment from Rosemary Everson1
Your jobs were very challenging indeed. Good thing you never gave up. I was wondering about your son...I hope things worked out well with him as he grew into a teenager. Boys usually don't like to sit still as much as girls.
reply by the author on 07-Jul-2020
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Your jobs were very challenging indeed. Good thing you never gave up. I was wondering about your son...I hope things worked out well with him as he grew into a teenager. Boys usually don't like to sit still as much as girls.
Comment Written 06-Jul-2020
reply by the author on 07-Jul-2020
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Thank you so much for continuing to review my stories. I enjoy your comments. My son had a way to go yet in this story, but he turned out fine. He is a chiropractor now and a very caring son. I have a standing appointment with him ever week and we eat together at least once a week.
Beth
Comment from Diana Barnum
What a wonderful way to build a foundation for your children, for generations to come. Thanks for sharing this special time period ! Good flow and clearly written.
reply by the author on 06-Jul-2020
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What a wonderful way to build a foundation for your children, for generations to come. Thanks for sharing this special time period ! Good flow and clearly written.
Comment Written 06-Jul-2020
reply by the author on 06-Jul-2020
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Thank you so much Diana, I appreciate you reading and commenting on this.
Beth
Comment from Iza Deleanu
From this chapter I feel that you are feeling more relax at this new company, and you managed to get a family environment, which is the best when you are working outside the house. The kids seems to have a happy childhood and no black clouds on your married life:) Thank you for sharing and good luck with the next chapter.
reply by the author on 06-Jul-2020
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From this chapter I feel that you are feeling more relax at this new company, and you managed to get a family environment, which is the best when you are working outside the house. The kids seems to have a happy childhood and no black clouds on your married life:) Thank you for sharing and good luck with the next chapter.
Comment Written 06-Jul-2020
reply by the author on 06-Jul-2020
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Thank you for the review and the comments. For one reason or another my jobs don't last too long but I did male friends here and I did like this job.
Comment from Sankey
Wow! What a chapter this was! Well done and lots of drama and queer stuff going on. A few spags and suggestions for you. I bought all kind(s)
summer work to hope(fully) boost
OR summer work (in the)[to] hope (it would)boost
Many restaurant(s) had two
reply by the author on 06-Jul-2020
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Wow! What a chapter this was! Well done and lots of drama and queer stuff going on. A few spags and suggestions for you. I bought all kind(s)
summer work to hope(fully) boost
OR summer work (in the)[to] hope (it would)boost
Many restaurant(s) had two
Comment Written 05-Jul-2020
reply by the author on 06-Jul-2020
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Thank you so much for the wonderful review and the six stars
Thanks also for finding the spags.
Beth
Comment from Mary Kay Bonfante
There's quite a lot of action in this chapter, with your children and especially in your career. I think boys are naturally more aggressive than girls, and sometimes they have trouble handling the effects of the hormone testosterone coursing through their systems, even at a young age. (My husband tells me that he "hung" his sister Maureen's Barbie doll, something that didn't sit well with Maureen at all!)
Although it helps them develop sexually in adolescence, I think it makes them more aggressive even as young children, and so we depend on men for their greater physical strength (unless we, or the women we know, are seriously pumping iron). I was always getting black and blue marks from my younger brother John, who liked to wrestle. (God rest his soul, John died suddenly at the age of 44.) My parents were separated, and I think John needed a sparring partner. I wasn't into it! But you were right to be concerned. Some boys never grow out of such hyper-aggressive tendencies, and become psychopaths. Apparently the imbalance in your son corrected itself, and in the absence of any psychological trauma, never developed into a serious problem.
The mixed-race client you worked with walked a thin line regarding race relations, because she was easily mistaken for a white woman. She could have found herself in a bad situation, in the South. I'm glad she didn't.
Henry also walked a thin line with his gambling debts and womanizing. It's likely that his affair with Judy, and his attempt to have an affair with you, were because he wanted to escape the reality of those debts. Both of his vices could have been some form of escapism, actually. How sad that he ended his life! And how odd that you were able to open that safe! I have had office drama, but that really tops anything I've experienced (and I've experienced a lot).
I didn't find too many errors, but here they are, with suggested revisions:
Then another printing plant [there's a hidden line break before "printing" that needs to be removed]
Henry, the plant manager and part owner was a heavy drinker and was also a gambler.
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Henry, the plant manager and part owner, was a heavy drinker and was also a gambler.
I soon learned, that although he was married,
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I soon learned that although he was married,
He agreed to talk to the accountant and get the extra check set up, but then he begin talking about himself.
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He agreed to talk to the accountant and get the extra check set up, but then he began talking about himself.
...segregation was still very much alive in Mississippi, I was surprised...
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...segregation was still very much alive in Mississippi, and I was surprised...
Even though the civil rights act had been passed in 1964 allowing blacks to eat wherever they chose,
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Even though the Civil Rights Act of 1964 had been passed allowing blacks to eat wherever they chose,
One morning a few weeks later, Henry didn't come in to work. [close up space before "work]
It was then, we learned that Henry had committed suicide by shooting himself.
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It was then we learned that Henry had committed suicide, by shooting himself.
We learned that Henry had gotten deeply in debt by gambling, and apparently, he was about to lose everything. [remove invisible line break after "gambling"]
Doris and I had both tried dozens of times but to no avail.
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Doris and I had both tried dozens of times, but to no avail.
"It had happened years before when I first met her, and that time I'd been the one who had the realistic dream." -- I don't know if "realistic" is the right word here. Maybe "prophetic" describes it better -- or even "prescient" or "predictive."
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Whew! You did quite a lot of living during those years. You were a supermom, before the term was created.
reply by the author on 05-Jul-2020
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There's quite a lot of action in this chapter, with your children and especially in your career. I think boys are naturally more aggressive than girls, and sometimes they have trouble handling the effects of the hormone testosterone coursing through their systems, even at a young age. (My husband tells me that he "hung" his sister Maureen's Barbie doll, something that didn't sit well with Maureen at all!)
Although it helps them develop sexually in adolescence, I think it makes them more aggressive even as young children, and so we depend on men for their greater physical strength (unless we, or the women we know, are seriously pumping iron). I was always getting black and blue marks from my younger brother John, who liked to wrestle. (God rest his soul, John died suddenly at the age of 44.) My parents were separated, and I think John needed a sparring partner. I wasn't into it! But you were right to be concerned. Some boys never grow out of such hyper-aggressive tendencies, and become psychopaths. Apparently the imbalance in your son corrected itself, and in the absence of any psychological trauma, never developed into a serious problem.
The mixed-race client you worked with walked a thin line regarding race relations, because she was easily mistaken for a white woman. She could have found herself in a bad situation, in the South. I'm glad she didn't.
Henry also walked a thin line with his gambling debts and womanizing. It's likely that his affair with Judy, and his attempt to have an affair with you, were because he wanted to escape the reality of those debts. Both of his vices could have been some form of escapism, actually. How sad that he ended his life! And how odd that you were able to open that safe! I have had office drama, but that really tops anything I've experienced (and I've experienced a lot).
I didn't find too many errors, but here they are, with suggested revisions:
Then another printing plant [there's a hidden line break before "printing" that needs to be removed]
Henry, the plant manager and part owner was a heavy drinker and was also a gambler.
-->
Henry, the plant manager and part owner, was a heavy drinker and was also a gambler.
I soon learned, that although he was married,
-->
I soon learned that although he was married,
He agreed to talk to the accountant and get the extra check set up, but then he begin talking about himself.
-->
He agreed to talk to the accountant and get the extra check set up, but then he began talking about himself.
...segregation was still very much alive in Mississippi, I was surprised...
-->
...segregation was still very much alive in Mississippi, and I was surprised...
Even though the civil rights act had been passed in 1964 allowing blacks to eat wherever they chose,
-->
Even though the Civil Rights Act of 1964 had been passed allowing blacks to eat wherever they chose,
One morning a few weeks later, Henry didn't come in to work. [close up space before "work]
It was then, we learned that Henry had committed suicide by shooting himself.
-->
It was then we learned that Henry had committed suicide, by shooting himself.
We learned that Henry had gotten deeply in debt by gambling, and apparently, he was about to lose everything. [remove invisible line break after "gambling"]
Doris and I had both tried dozens of times but to no avail.
-->
Doris and I had both tried dozens of times, but to no avail.
"It had happened years before when I first met her, and that time I'd been the one who had the realistic dream." -- I don't know if "realistic" is the right word here. Maybe "prophetic" describes it better -- or even "prescient" or "predictive."
***
Whew! You did quite a lot of living during those years. You were a supermom, before the term was created.
Comment Written 05-Jul-2020
reply by the author on 05-Jul-2020
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Mary Kay, you are amazing. I love it when you read my post because I feel they have been well checked, and I love your in depth comments.
I was sorry to learn you younger brother died so young.
In the near future, in the story, I will have another child. It is amazing she survived her brother who was ten years older. He used to hang her on the door knob by her panties and do other things when I wasn't looking. I hope you keep reading.
Beth
Comment from Suzanna Ray
Dear Beth, you have certainly had more contact with the fifth dimension than me. Your gypsy woman's predictions were particularly from that realm.
I continue to find your memoir fascinating reading. it is almost a classic stream of consciousness novella. Keep writing!
reply by the author on 05-Jul-2020
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Dear Beth, you have certainly had more contact with the fifth dimension than me. Your gypsy woman's predictions were particularly from that realm.
I continue to find your memoir fascinating reading. it is almost a classic stream of consciousness novella. Keep writing!
Comment Written 04-Jul-2020
reply by the author on 05-Jul-2020
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Thank you so much Suzanna, I really appreciate your lovely comments.
Beth
Comment from Elizabeth Emerald
High time I toss you a six for this series---gripping, amusing, heartrending, and eerie all in one episode. I was howling reading about Don destroying his creations and torturing his toys. I was touched by the tale of your boss. Quite a closer with the dream. Cheers. LIZ
reply by the author on 05-Jul-2020
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High time I toss you a six for this series---gripping, amusing, heartrending, and eerie all in one episode. I was howling reading about Don destroying his creations and torturing his toys. I was touched by the tale of your boss. Quite a closer with the dream. Cheers. LIZ
Comment Written 04-Jul-2020
reply by the author on 05-Jul-2020
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Thank you Liz, that is quite a review. You're giving me a ego trip with all that praise. I'm flattered. Thank you, my friend, especially for those rare stars.
Beth
Comment from royowen
I think you have a greater connection to God than you realise. I relate to the hyper by syndrome, our two local grandchildren one girl, one boy, the girl is focused and a well behaved studious chid, the boy very close his mother and nannie, ( my wife ) and He is hyper. I can remember cruel boys at school, pulling wings off butterflies and blowing up trapdoor spiders. Beautifully written Beth. Love it, blessings Roy
reply by the author on 04-Jul-2020
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I think you have a greater connection to God than you realise. I relate to the hyper by syndrome, our two local grandchildren one girl, one boy, the girl is focused and a well behaved studious chid, the boy very close his mother and nannie, ( my wife ) and He is hyper. I can remember cruel boys at school, pulling wings off butterflies and blowing up trapdoor spiders. Beautifully written Beth. Love it, blessings Roy
Comment Written 04-Jul-2020
reply by the author on 04-Jul-2020
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Thank you so much for the review. I really appreciate your comments and I hope you are right about my connection to God. I know He answers my prayers and things seem to work out of the best for me but I feel so unworthy.
Beth
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I'm sure you're right, I knew that connection very early, because He's no respecter of persons, very reassuring Beth,
Comment from lyenochka
Wow! So many interesting things in this post.
It's interesting that you say "start to school" because we just say "start school." Maybe you're using school as a verb not a noun?
I laughed when you said that Don would crash his well made models! So true to a boy! I'm sure his school smarts showed up later in life.
I was worried that Henry would try to take advantage of you. But it seems he really was serious about the suicide!
Hooray that you opened the safe! I'm intrigued about your meeting with the lady artist from the black university. So interesting that she didn't take advantage of her light skin color to defy the discrimination laws or not even live there at all. Thanks for telling us about what was happening back then!
reply by the author on 04-Jul-2020
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Wow! So many interesting things in this post.
It's interesting that you say "start to school" because we just say "start school." Maybe you're using school as a verb not a noun?
I laughed when you said that Don would crash his well made models! So true to a boy! I'm sure his school smarts showed up later in life.
I was worried that Henry would try to take advantage of you. But it seems he really was serious about the suicide!
Hooray that you opened the safe! I'm intrigued about your meeting with the lady artist from the black university. So interesting that she didn't take advantage of her light skin color to defy the discrimination laws or not even live there at all. Thanks for telling us about what was happening back then!
Comment Written 04-Jul-2020
reply by the author on 04-Jul-2020
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Thank you so much for the review and comments. Maybe it is a Southern thing. We've always said that. I'm sure my fellow Southerners understand but your way works, so maybe I'll change it.
I've heard it that way all my life. You go to school. You don't go school. I tried it the other way and my daughter said I left the "to" out. lol
Beth
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Yes, we go to school (building) but we start school (the establishment) It depends on the verb. It's completely up to you!
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I guess I've always thought of school as the building. The learning part is the lessons or classwork. I'll try rethinking it.
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Stay with what feels most natural to you! 💕
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I think you are right, but I've said it that way so long it will be hard to break the habit. I'm glad you pointed it out.
Beth
Comment from nancy_e_davis
You sure did change jobs a lot didn't you. I want to compliment you on the attention you paid to your children's learning skills. That had to be difficult having a full time job. That is strange the psychic connection you and Doris had. Poor Henry, He was heading full speed down a dead end street. Very interesting. Well done, Beth. Nancy:)
reply by the author on 04-Jul-2020
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You sure did change jobs a lot didn't you. I want to compliment you on the attention you paid to your children's learning skills. That had to be difficult having a full time job. That is strange the psychic connection you and Doris had. Poor Henry, He was heading full speed down a dead end street. Very interesting. Well done, Beth. Nancy:)
Comment Written 04-Jul-2020
reply by the author on 04-Jul-2020
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Thank you so much Nancy, I really appreciate the comments and the six stars.
