Safe To Remember
Viewing comments for Chapter 16 "Corking a Volcano"Writing for healing
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Comment from scongrove
I'm so sorry about the five stars. I am all out of sixes, and believe me, after reading your story, it deserves a ten. You tell your story so well. I'm captivated from the beginning to the end, girl! It's like you are opening your soul to us here. I have so much compassion for you. I hear you so loud and clear. I pray for you so much.
I know Todd loves you. I think he gets frustrated just like most men get with their wives. We get frustrated with the men too. I know I do. I think no one is secure in their relationships. I'm sure as hell not. Sometimes men will say the stupidest things to make us feel like they no longer love us. Believe me, Carl has said many things to me to think that. He's said them so much, I have put up that 'wall.' You know what that is I'm sure.
What your mom has said to you is not appropriate. I'm sure she loves you, but those words hurt and you need to say that to her. I remember one time I was little (maybe 6 or 7) and we were in the car driving. I was in the back and my parents thought I was asleep. I wasn't although. They were arguing (they always argued and yelled). I heard my father say, "If you hadn't gotten pregnant." I knew he never wanted me. I think he blames me for having to marry my mom because she got pregnant at 15 and he was 18. So, I know how you feel. Now, my father should be happy. He got what he wanted. I'm not longer in his life and for that matter ... no one else in the family is either.
You are strong. I know you will get through all your struggles. It's hard, but just like me, God gives us the strength to survive anything. Your story gives me strength, knowing I'm not alone in life's struggles. I believe in you and your wonderful gift. Thanks for sharing! :)
Spotted 2 typo's: We talked it out and he (siad)
"The Doctor was very angry that I (watied) so long ...
Always your fan,
Shana :)
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2020
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I'm so sorry about the five stars. I am all out of sixes, and believe me, after reading your story, it deserves a ten. You tell your story so well. I'm captivated from the beginning to the end, girl! It's like you are opening your soul to us here. I have so much compassion for you. I hear you so loud and clear. I pray for you so much.
I know Todd loves you. I think he gets frustrated just like most men get with their wives. We get frustrated with the men too. I know I do. I think no one is secure in their relationships. I'm sure as hell not. Sometimes men will say the stupidest things to make us feel like they no longer love us. Believe me, Carl has said many things to me to think that. He's said them so much, I have put up that 'wall.' You know what that is I'm sure.
What your mom has said to you is not appropriate. I'm sure she loves you, but those words hurt and you need to say that to her. I remember one time I was little (maybe 6 or 7) and we were in the car driving. I was in the back and my parents thought I was asleep. I wasn't although. They were arguing (they always argued and yelled). I heard my father say, "If you hadn't gotten pregnant." I knew he never wanted me. I think he blames me for having to marry my mom because she got pregnant at 15 and he was 18. So, I know how you feel. Now, my father should be happy. He got what he wanted. I'm not longer in his life and for that matter ... no one else in the family is either.
You are strong. I know you will get through all your struggles. It's hard, but just like me, God gives us the strength to survive anything. Your story gives me strength, knowing I'm not alone in life's struggles. I believe in you and your wonderful gift. Thanks for sharing! :)
Spotted 2 typo's: We talked it out and he (siad)
"The Doctor was very angry that I (watied) so long ...
Always your fan,
Shana :)
Comment Written 08-Feb-2020
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2020
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Oh wow, really? You are such a great friend. I'm sorry your Dad said that. You do understand how I feel. I'm afraid too many people probably do.
I am opening my soul. Probably because it would be like trying to cork a volcano. It's coming out and and this is the best way for me to channel it right now. I'm grateful that anyone would want to read it. It does help though. Hearing your story and others. Knowing we are not alone helps. Thank you for opening up to me. I appreciate it so much! Yes, he loves me. I have a lot of childhood stuff to wade through. I don't think I have enough life left to fix it all, but I AM better today than I was...that is a reward I hold highly. Thanks for the review and five stars. It's ok on the 6 stars. Too many fantastic writers on here. Besides, I don't know that it does deserve a six. I'm just grateful for the reviews. Love ya girl .Your fan, Rebecca
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You are very welcome! And very deserving of the best! :)
Comment from robyn corum
Bec,
This post was really horrible and made me furious. It also gave me a lot of insight into what makes you you.
I can't imagine how a mother could be so hateful and ignorant. Even if she was so... I don't know... whatever the word might be -- she should have the decency NOT to voice those kinds of thoughts OUT LOUD. Ugh.
It's a pretty good thing I am not able to speak to this la- woman.
Anyway. Here are a few notes for you:
1.) Friday we had an(no comma) end of the year meeting for the company
2.) We talked it out and he (said) he really didn't want to leave,
3.) Grandma raise her twelve (brothers) and sister.
4.) angry that I (waited) so long to come
5.) She seemed, '(satisfied)' about that choice.
6.) That 'wish' (no comma) that (I'd) not been around.
I'm sending hugs-- Bless your heart!
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2020
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Bec,
This post was really horrible and made me furious. It also gave me a lot of insight into what makes you you.
I can't imagine how a mother could be so hateful and ignorant. Even if she was so... I don't know... whatever the word might be -- she should have the decency NOT to voice those kinds of thoughts OUT LOUD. Ugh.
It's a pretty good thing I am not able to speak to this la- woman.
Anyway. Here are a few notes for you:
1.) Friday we had an(no comma) end of the year meeting for the company
2.) We talked it out and he (said) he really didn't want to leave,
3.) Grandma raise her twelve (brothers) and sister.
4.) angry that I (waited) so long to come
5.) She seemed, '(satisfied)' about that choice.
6.) That 'wish' (no comma) that (I'd) not been around.
I'm sending hugs-- Bless your heart!
Comment Written 08-Feb-2020
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2020
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Oh, thank you. I did have a good chapter, a few back, that were much lighter. I'm sorry you caught a rough one. :) But it feels good to hear your reaction about this. It's validating and really helps me. Thank you! I appreciate the help in catching my mistakes. I read and re-read trying to get them all but I still miss so many...UGH! :) I love ya girl. Thank you for reading. It means a lot. Hugs
Comment from Teri7
This is another very well written chapter you have penned. Just reading this makes me think we could be adopted sisters or something. I had those feelings due to abuse all my life and it makes it hard for me to trust men especially. Even though I have a great husband he is a man. When I feel that way that is when I turn to God and ask Him to hold me and help me. It is a hard thing to deal with my friend. You are in my prayers. love and blessings, Teri
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2020
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This is another very well written chapter you have penned. Just reading this makes me think we could be adopted sisters or something. I had those feelings due to abuse all my life and it makes it hard for me to trust men especially. Even though I have a great husband he is a man. When I feel that way that is when I turn to God and ask Him to hold me and help me. It is a hard thing to deal with my friend. You are in my prayers. love and blessings, Teri
Comment Written 07-Feb-2020
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2020
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Thank you for your review and five stars. I appreciate you taking time to read.
It's funny how you can find others who've walked a similar road. I agree, clinging to God has kept me alive. I can't wait to meet you in Heaven someday.
Thanks for your support in my writing, your prayers and friendship. Hugs :))
Comment from Mastery
This is wonderful writng about a more-than-sad subject. Rwilliam. It reads like a daily diary of the events in your life since the prognosis.
I would suggest a spag to be corrected however it is minor. Here:
"I've always struggled with feeling like I'm (NOT) worth anything.
Good job my friend. Bob
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2020
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This is wonderful writng about a more-than-sad subject. Rwilliam. It reads like a daily diary of the events in your life since the prognosis.
I would suggest a spag to be corrected however it is minor. Here:
"I've always struggled with feeling like I'm (NOT) worth anything.
Good job my friend. Bob
Comment Written 07-Feb-2020
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2020
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Thank you SO much, Bob! I am over the moon at your review. You made my night. Thank you for the six stars too! Wa-HOO :-D!
I will fix that mistake. Thanks for catching it for me! Hugs :))
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:) Bob
Comment from Katherine M. (k-11)
This was a very fluid piece that read easily. The stress and tension was extremely obvious, for example "Come on! What is taking you so long?" I yelled from the front entryway works very well.
I am not as keen on the description of the early birth of the writer with respect to her parents' wedding, and am left wondering what is meant by "The numbers didn't add up." I feel that this should have been developed to its proper ending.
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2020
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This was a very fluid piece that read easily. The stress and tension was extremely obvious, for example "Come on! What is taking you so long?" I yelled from the front entryway works very well.
I am not as keen on the description of the early birth of the writer with respect to her parents' wedding, and am left wondering what is meant by "The numbers didn't add up." I feel that this should have been developed to its proper ending.
Comment Written 07-Feb-2020
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2020
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ok I will work on that part. I wasn't sure if it made sense. THANK YOU! I will go the a look at that.
It's nice to meet you. Thank you for taking time to tread and review! Hope to see you again.
