You Chose Him
The sacrifices of divorce18 total reviews
Comment from NickieT
That last line really hit me in the feels. Wow. This is a wonderful and honest poem. I love that you actually used your own photo, it added a truly genuine feel.
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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That last line really hit me in the feels. Wow. This is a wonderful and honest poem. I love that you actually used your own photo, it added a truly genuine feel.
Comment Written 04-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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Thank you NickieT. I think if she saw it, she'd be furious, but she won't, so I'm safe lol! Glad you "got" the sentiment of that last line too...it still really hurts 7 years after the fact, truth be told xoxoxo
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Even if she won't see it, maybe your words will help encourage someone else to reach to a loved one =)
Comment from Rosemary Everson1
what a sad poem. I wish she would have considered your feelings, too. The picture of you and your daughter is something you should be able to cherish for the rest of your lives. Prayers.
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what a sad poem. I wish she would have considered your feelings, too. The picture of you and your daughter is something you should be able to cherish for the rest of your lives. Prayers.
Comment Written 04-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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Thanks Rosemary, for your thoughtful review xoxoxo
Comment from judester
This poem is so sad and you are brave to share your story. I hope this poem opens the way to a relationship with your daughter, even now. We all have our journey and choices. I wish you both peace, love and clarity.
The extra star is to light your way.
Bravo, judester
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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This poem is so sad and you are brave to share your story. I hope this poem opens the way to a relationship with your daughter, even now. We all have our journey and choices. I wish you both peace, love and clarity.
The extra star is to light your way.
Bravo, judester
Comment Written 04-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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You're too kind judester! One day soon my chance will come. She's still too young yet, and waay too busy with her graphic design career, so I just wait in the wings.
Thank you for your exceptional review and I do appreciate the addition of that sixth shiny star to light my way lol! Bless ya xoxoxo
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I bet that she is just as anxious to connect one day also. Bless you both, j
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Ah, she'd be too busy to think on it much at the moment. Still, every dog has its day - as the saying goes - so I'll wait for her to throw me a bone (preferably chicken) lol!
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Bless you too, by the way xoxoxo
Comment from lyenochka
Oh my - on the sadness meter - this wins! I can't imagine the pain of your sadness. The teen years are such a hard time between mom and daughter. But to not have that daily conflict may be even harder.
Don't blame yourself or anyone. We writers are often introverts and though we love words, when those deepest things that weigh our hearts come up, we can't say those words in person. It's not really until a daughter has her own kids, that the relationship really grows closer.
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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Oh my - on the sadness meter - this wins! I can't imagine the pain of your sadness. The teen years are such a hard time between mom and daughter. But to not have that daily conflict may be even harder.
Don't blame yourself or anyone. We writers are often introverts and though we love words, when those deepest things that weigh our hearts come up, we can't say those words in person. It's not really until a daughter has her own kids, that the relationship really grows closer.
Comment Written 04-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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Thanks lyenochka. It is hard because in many ways, girls tend more towards Dad than Mum in their teens, but I guess they come back to Mum once they have a family of their own. If I tried to talk to her about all this now, it would be of no benefit due to the fact she's 25, single and career driven. And so I wait...
Thanks again for your thoughts and review xoxoxoxo
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The time will come and I hope you'll have an even deeper connection soon. ♥
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I think it's closer than I think, because I've been delving into those feelings, and thinking of her in that context, more than I had been.
Comment from poeandhungry
Wow. Powerfully personal poem. Beautiful and sad. I too am the product of divorce and have also been a parent with a child caught in the middle. It's impossibly hard on everyone and we all end up with scars. I'm convinced time will heal most wounds. You're her mother. When young we dont realize the significance of our parents but we start to as we age. I wish you the best of luck. Stay strong and let writing be your therapy.
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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Wow. Powerfully personal poem. Beautiful and sad. I too am the product of divorce and have also been a parent with a child caught in the middle. It's impossibly hard on everyone and we all end up with scars. I'm convinced time will heal most wounds. You're her mother. When young we dont realize the significance of our parents but we start to as we age. I wish you the best of luck. Stay strong and let writing be your therapy.
Comment Written 04-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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It is one of the hardest things we have to do as parents! I hid how I felt and still do, and I'm pretty certain she has done the same.
Thank you for such a heartfelt review, and your kind thoughts. And yes, writing is a therapy for me. Just wish exercise was lol!
Comment from Alcreator Litt Dear
Your sadness continues, you think it is the fruition of your sacrifice of divorce, you expected your only girl might have chosen you instead, but she had chosen her father, but you noted her sadness; well said, well done; enjoyed the read; visit my profile; thanks for sharing this.
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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Your sadness continues, you think it is the fruition of your sacrifice of divorce, you expected your only girl might have chosen you instead, but she had chosen her father, but you noted her sadness; well said, well done; enjoyed the read; visit my profile; thanks for sharing this.
Comment Written 04-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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Thanks Alcreator xoxo
Comment from Patty Palmer
Sadly things don't always work out the way we hope they would. I'm so sorry about your daughter choosing not to stay with you. I agree that it would break my heart too. Keep your chin up@@ (((((hugs))))
Patty
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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Sadly things don't always work out the way we hope they would. I'm so sorry about your daughter choosing not to stay with you. I agree that it would break my heart too. Keep your chin up@@ (((((hugs))))
Patty
Comment Written 04-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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Thanks Patty. It's been ten years and it still makes me tear up because I can't tell her 😥
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Why can't you tell her> too worried to tell her?
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I never wanted to make things harder for her, she wouldn't let me or her dad talk much about any of it. So I bide my time
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Well, she's not a little girl anymore and she can't keep her head buried In the sand. I would tell her that I need to talk about it for your own sake. It's been bothering you for many years and you deserve some of the responsibility but not ahead enough to get very far, I can't tell ya what to do since we've just met lol.but ('m a good listener/
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Thank you Patty, really. I believe in waiting for the right time, which hasn't come yet. He would've filled her head with lots of stuff that was untrue, but he was a clever manipulator. I am, however, getting tired of still suffering for it. She's also time poor which doesn't help. As my notes said: one day...
Comment from Dolly'sPoems
There's much sadness in these words and I feel your heartache here as your daughter chose to live with her father. Even if you had fought to keep her it would not have worked. She has choices now. I don't see my youngest daughter very often, about three times a year and she has a family now and I and torn apart by it. Your poem is heartfelt and sad, love Dolly x
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reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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There's much sadness in these words and I feel your heartache here as your daughter chose to live with her father. Even if you had fought to keep her it would not have worked. She has choices now. I don't see my youngest daughter very often, about three times a year and she has a family now and I and torn apart by it. Your poem is heartfelt and sad, love Dolly x
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Comment Written 04-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 04-Oct-2019
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It's awful isn't it? We try to do what's best for our children, even at the expense of our own happiness sometimes. I miss her, plain and simple. I wasn't going to post this but ... did. As I said in my notes I haven't written anything about how I felt after the separation/divorce. I just got on with it. As we do. Thanks for sharing your own sadness, and for your sensitive review xoxoxoxox
