Mom's Vehicular Homicide Revisited
I received a phone call from my oldest brother last Saturday22 total reviews
Comment from LaRosa
It is so hard to comprehend the pain your family must survive; and it's so grievous, to lose your nephew on top of everything else...
You are amazing to have picked up and been able to write at all. To write about the evil moments...I hope and pray it will be cathartic for you. God surely has you wrapped in His angels' wings.
In light of this whole moment/event, it seems petty to show the following SPAG. Hope you'll forgive...
"...(left) the scene of the accident, (dumped) the stolen car, and (walked) away...
"...children, grandchildren,
"...in my mother's name, (I refused) to believe...
reply by the author on 01-Feb-2017
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It is so hard to comprehend the pain your family must survive; and it's so grievous, to lose your nephew on top of everything else...
You are amazing to have picked up and been able to write at all. To write about the evil moments...I hope and pray it will be cathartic for you. God surely has you wrapped in His angels' wings.
In light of this whole moment/event, it seems petty to show the following SPAG. Hope you'll forgive...
"...(left) the scene of the accident, (dumped) the stolen car, and (walked) away...
"...children, grandchildren,
"...in my mother's name, (I refused) to believe...
Comment Written 29-Jan-2017
reply by the author on 01-Feb-2017
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Thank you, once again, LaRosa. What a beautiful RR&R and such kind thoughts expressed within. I've been sick in bed since posting the second entry, so maybe I shouldn't have opened up the old wounds...I appreciate the spags catch, and all have been corrected. I appreciate you! Have a wonderful afternoon.
Comment from Donya Quijote
Tragic, horrifying, fishing. I think my spidy sense like your brothers sixth sense would be tingling away too. I do not understand people sometime and this is one of those cases. I think it is a good thing that you work for and have much knowledge of how insurance works. It is terrible what they do. From my understanding, it is almost a give that a person making a left turn is charged in an accident, but a proper investigation is supposed to determine other mitigating circumstances and I think you have hinted at some. If you take on this fight, I wish you all the best and for a righteous outcome.
There was a terrible accident a few years ago around here involving a drink drive and the death of the other motorist. At his trial lawyers tried to downplay the events and the actions of the drunk driver and the blame the other motorist who was a woman. Neither judge nor jury bought their arguments. And young man who was a college student at the time got a long sentence. Karma is a.... well I know you know the phrase. Good luck with your endeavor and may you find peace...
reply by the author on 01-Feb-2017
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Tragic, horrifying, fishing. I think my spidy sense like your brothers sixth sense would be tingling away too. I do not understand people sometime and this is one of those cases. I think it is a good thing that you work for and have much knowledge of how insurance works. It is terrible what they do. From my understanding, it is almost a give that a person making a left turn is charged in an accident, but a proper investigation is supposed to determine other mitigating circumstances and I think you have hinted at some. If you take on this fight, I wish you all the best and for a righteous outcome.
There was a terrible accident a few years ago around here involving a drink drive and the death of the other motorist. At his trial lawyers tried to downplay the events and the actions of the drunk driver and the blame the other motorist who was a woman. Neither judge nor jury bought their arguments. And young man who was a college student at the time got a long sentence. Karma is a.... well I know you know the phrase. Good luck with your endeavor and may you find peace...
Comment Written 28-Jan-2017
reply by the author on 01-Feb-2017
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Hi Donna, sorry for the delay in acknowledging your review. I've been down for the count with the flu bug and today is my first day back with any gumption. It should be noted however, it's nearly noon and I'm still in my jammies and bunny slippers. I appreciate your RR&R on this writing.
To be clear, this is a closed issue and I hope to post the subsequent entries now that I am feeling a bit better. Perhaps I shouldn't have opened up the old wounds...I found myself sick in bed for a few days after the last post.
It was good to hear justice prevailed in your own community with a hit and run. There are far too many of them and people will continue to do it when it is so easy to get away with it, seemingly. Only 8 out of 29 were solved the year my mother was struck.
Have a wonderful day, and thank you so much for stopping my. I hope to post the ending chapters very soon.
Comment from Dawn Munro
Mary, I am tempted to simply place two lines of x's across this box so that I can escape this review because I am without words to describe the emotions I am feeling right now reading this - all I can say is I wish I was there with you, though it's probably a good thing I am not. (reference the very private story I told you about my sister, her breast cancer and her passing)
I am so sorry! This must have been next to impossible to write.
reply by the author on 01-Feb-2017
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Mary, I am tempted to simply place two lines of x's across this box so that I can escape this review because I am without words to describe the emotions I am feeling right now reading this - all I can say is I wish I was there with you, though it's probably a good thing I am not. (reference the very private story I told you about my sister, her breast cancer and her passing)
I am so sorry! This must have been next to impossible to write.
Comment Written 28-Jan-2017
reply by the author on 01-Feb-2017
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Hey Dawn, thank you. I read this the day you wrote it but was too sick to get the energy to respond. Thank you seems so
blase'. Then your followup private message...It would seem opening up the old wound may have had a hand in my weekend demise and dance with the flu or whatever beast this is I'm still fighting.
Regardless, as always, I appreciate your six, and your empathy. It's in the past, but the past seems always present, doesn't it...
Comment from F. Wehr3
I knew coming to this piece that it wouldn't be another funny Mary story. I thought this was of course tragic beyond tragic, but I think you did an excellent job in presenting this.
I was a stay-at-home mom at the time, and able to provide the care she needed.
I quietly prayed to my God, and my father.
We were not ready to lose Mom, and pleaded with them not to take her.
My husband expressed doubt it could be the same driver, and urged me not to get involved as it would reopen old wounds.
I pulled the dusty navy blue binder from our safe, and laid it on the corner of my vanity sink where it was ignored for most of the day.
I opened it that evening when the house was quiet, and poured over its contents.-- In all of the above sentences, I would suggest no comma before you conjunction. The second part lacks a subject.
Take care,
Russell
reply by the author on 01-Feb-2017
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I knew coming to this piece that it wouldn't be another funny Mary story. I thought this was of course tragic beyond tragic, but I think you did an excellent job in presenting this.
I was a stay-at-home mom at the time, and able to provide the care she needed.
I quietly prayed to my God, and my father.
We were not ready to lose Mom, and pleaded with them not to take her.
My husband expressed doubt it could be the same driver, and urged me not to get involved as it would reopen old wounds.
I pulled the dusty navy blue binder from our safe, and laid it on the corner of my vanity sink where it was ignored for most of the day.
I opened it that evening when the house was quiet, and poured over its contents.-- In all of the above sentences, I would suggest no comma before you conjunction. The second part lacks a subject.
Take care,
Russell
Comment Written 28-Jan-2017
reply by the author on 01-Feb-2017
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Hi Russell, sorry for the delay in acknowledging your review. I've been down for the count with the flu bug and today is my first day back with any gumption. It should be noted however, it's nearly noon and I'm still in my jammies and bunny slippers. I appreciate your RR&R on this writing.
I hope to post the subsequent entries now that I am feeling a bit better. Perhaps I shouldn't have opened up the old wounds...I found myself sick in bed for a few days after the last post. I'm not sure I understand your reference to lacking a subject, but will go back and take a look and see how I might fix it.
As always, I appreciate your thorough review and welcome feedback. Have an excellent day.
Comment from Sis Cat
A gripping account, Mary, about the double losses your family experienced in nine months of falling dominoes--first your mother then your nephew. You told your story in a numb, straightforward tone of bewilderment at these unfolding family horrors. The tragedy is made worse by the battle with the insurance company on one hand and the police assigning blame to your mother on the other. Your passage about "funny feelings" resonated with me because many of us have had such feelings but do not listen to them:
"When people tell me they have "funny feeling" about something, it tends to be on the mark. Intuition is a gift I take seriously. I have experienced a few too many prophetic dreams to ever dismiss the feeling as mere coincidence."
This sets up Part 2 as readers read and wait to see if your hunch comes true.
I am sorry for your loss. Enough time has passed so that you can write about it with craft and some distance, although it may seem it just happened yesterday.
reply by the author on 01-Feb-2017
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A gripping account, Mary, about the double losses your family experienced in nine months of falling dominoes--first your mother then your nephew. You told your story in a numb, straightforward tone of bewilderment at these unfolding family horrors. The tragedy is made worse by the battle with the insurance company on one hand and the police assigning blame to your mother on the other. Your passage about "funny feelings" resonated with me because many of us have had such feelings but do not listen to them:
"When people tell me they have "funny feeling" about something, it tends to be on the mark. Intuition is a gift I take seriously. I have experienced a few too many prophetic dreams to ever dismiss the feeling as mere coincidence."
This sets up Part 2 as readers read and wait to see if your hunch comes true.
I am sorry for your loss. Enough time has passed so that you can write about it with craft and some distance, although it may seem it just happened yesterday.
Comment Written 28-Jan-2017
reply by the author on 01-Feb-2017
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Andre, thank you once again for a riveting review and expressions of sympathy. So very appreciated. I hope to get the rest of my mother's story posted in the next few days. Thank you, always, for your continued interest and support by reviewing. Have an excellent day.
Comment from Spitfire
Oh, Mary, I'm so sorry to have lose two members of your family under violent circumstances. Worst was the police blaming your mother. Easy way out.
You do well to point out this is a lesson as is all suffering we go through. One of your brother's spirit guides (intuitive) is definitely helping your family to seek the truth in this. One of your helpers from the other side led you to find paper to write down the info. No such thing as coincidence. We all have help from the other side. I'm betting your mother is looking over your shoulder and guiding your words as you write about this.
reply by the author on 27-Jan-2017
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Oh, Mary, I'm so sorry to have lose two members of your family under violent circumstances. Worst was the police blaming your mother. Easy way out.
You do well to point out this is a lesson as is all suffering we go through. One of your brother's spirit guides (intuitive) is definitely helping your family to seek the truth in this. One of your helpers from the other side led you to find paper to write down the info. No such thing as coincidence. We all have help from the other side. I'm betting your mother is looking over your shoulder and guiding your words as you write about this.
Comment Written 26-Jan-2017
reply by the author on 27-Jan-2017
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Hi Shari, thank so much for your kind words and the cop was lazy. When I called him the day after the accident to inquire if he had attempted to get fingerprints off the dumped stolen car, he said he'd get back to me, then never did. You can guess he screwed that up too. Funny you should mention my mom guiding my words...my writing room is her former bedroom at my house. After a year of passing by it several times a day, it became too sad to see her empty bed, so I converted it to my husband's office. When I joined FS last February, I made it my writing cave. I think I'm channeling her writing this story. Thank you for being a loyal reviewer. I appreciate you!
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I'm fascinated by this story.
Comment from doggymad
very well written in a style that is both enjoyable and engaging, although the subject matter is quite serious.
It looks like I have come in at the start of this and I look forward to following this one
hugs
Freda
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2017
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very well written in a style that is both enjoyable and engaging, although the subject matter is quite serious.
It looks like I have come in at the start of this and I look forward to following this one
hugs
Freda
Comment Written 26-Jan-2017
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2017
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Thank you Freda, for your RR&R. I appreciate your time and talent in reviewing this. I just posted part 2. Thank you.
Comment from emptypage
Jesus, Mary.
No Joseph. My Catholic self tried to add him.
What a horrible, horrible new thing to deal with that led to an old thing. I am totally enraged by this story; I feel your emotions with you. It is amazingly written.
I will look for part two. It may already be up, as I have been very sick and not on FS at all.
There are no mechanical issues... excellent writing.
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2017
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Jesus, Mary.
No Joseph. My Catholic self tried to add him.
What a horrible, horrible new thing to deal with that led to an old thing. I am totally enraged by this story; I feel your emotions with you. It is amazingly written.
I will look for part two. It may already be up, as I have been very sick and not on FS at all.
There are no mechanical issues... excellent writing.
Comment Written 26-Jan-2017
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2017
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Hi Marla, first off, I am so sorry to hear you've been down. I hope you are on the mend. Oregano oil under the tongue (be sure its therapeutic blend/ingestible) and hold it as long as you can, 3x's a day. It is miserable so have a chaser ready. It will knock the crap out of what is causing the problem.
Thank you for your RR&R and understanding the difficulty it took to write such a personal and painful story. This may have a few followups as I encountered so many issues with mom's re-hospitalization and her health insurance carrier. Writing about it has been somewhat therapeutic, if you can believe it.
Thank you so much. I value your input. Jesus, Mary brought a warm smile.
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Writing is so cathartic I used it instead of therapy for years!
Comment from patcelaw
Mary, this is such a sad story. I find it hard with a tender heart to know there is anyone who could hit a person with their car and drag them to their death and then run from the scene of the incident. It just goes to show how man has becomes so insensitive to human life. Good write and I look for to reading the continuing story. Patricia
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2017
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Mary, this is such a sad story. I find it hard with a tender heart to know there is anyone who could hit a person with their car and drag them to their death and then run from the scene of the incident. It just goes to show how man has becomes so insensitive to human life. Good write and I look for to reading the continuing story. Patricia
Comment Written 26-Jan-2017
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2017
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Thank you Pat, for your RR&R. I appreciate your time and talent in reviewing this. I just posted part 2. I agree with you on desensitivity... television shows and video games...they say a child the age of seven has aleady witnessed hundreds of (fake) deaths which serve to do just that to a psyche. I just posted Part 2.
Thank you.
Comment from Meia (MESAYERS)
What a brilliant and interesting yet heartrending write, A beautiful and impressive piece painted skillfully this is truly incredible, Well done an elegant and outstanding write. well done kindest regards. Meia :)
reply by the author on 27-Jan-2017
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What a brilliant and interesting yet heartrending write, A beautiful and impressive piece painted skillfully this is truly incredible, Well done an elegant and outstanding write. well done kindest regards. Meia :)
Comment Written 25-Jan-2017
reply by the author on 27-Jan-2017
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Hi Mesa, thank you for lending an ear to this story that engulfed me for many years. My writing room is now my mom's former bedroom at my house. After a year of passing by several times a day, it became too sad to see her empty bed, so I converted it to my husband's office, and when I joined FS, I made it my writing cave. I think I'm channeling my mom writing this story. Thank you for your kind words and wonderful review.
