When Blood Collides
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Comment from mermaids
You had a full plate like most working women. I like the dialog between you and the therapist, it is true to life. It is hard when many men retire, they are around all the time, women seem to keep themselves active.
reply by the author on 29-Aug-2015
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You had a full plate like most working women. I like the dialog between you and the therapist, it is true to life. It is hard when many men retire, they are around all the time, women seem to keep themselves active.
Comment Written 29-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 29-Aug-2015
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Yes, it's called housework! Even when retired there's still cooking, vacuuming, washing and folding clothes.
Comment from IndianaIrish
I treasure my time alone, Shari, so I do understand how not having you-time can be frustrating and something you longed for. It seemed like you had strong insight into your emotions. A good chapter.
Smiles,
Karyn :-)
reply by the author on 29-Aug-2015
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I treasure my time alone, Shari, so I do understand how not having you-time can be frustrating and something you longed for. It seemed like you had strong insight into your emotions. A good chapter.
Smiles,
Karyn :-)
Comment Written 29-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 29-Aug-2015
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Thanks, Karyn. We had the perfect setup when he worked.
Comment from Walu Feral
G'day Shari. Sorry about being so late reviewing mate, I'm back in Australia now and still jet lagged. This is another very interesting chapter but ouch! Telling Frank to buzz off for 45mins is not going to be easy, I know how I'd feel if Delia did it. I'll await the result, good luck. Cheers Fez
reply by the author on 29-Aug-2015
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G'day Shari. Sorry about being so late reviewing mate, I'm back in Australia now and still jet lagged. This is another very interesting chapter but ouch! Telling Frank to buzz off for 45mins is not going to be easy, I know how I'd feel if Delia did it. I'll await the result, good luck. Cheers Fez
Comment Written 29-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 29-Aug-2015
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Thanks, Fez. Hope you'll write about what happens in Australia.
Comment from Curly Girly
Poor Frank!
When people retire, things change. Structures and priorities change. Things do need to be discussed and re-organised. Recently, I heard of several couples who said that they cannot abide the thought of being retired with their husbands all day at home--how sad. Sometimes the doors of communication need to be opened and both parties need to come to the discussion.
reply by the author on 29-Aug-2015
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Poor Frank!
When people retire, things change. Structures and priorities change. Things do need to be discussed and re-organised. Recently, I heard of several couples who said that they cannot abide the thought of being retired with their husbands all day at home--how sad. Sometimes the doors of communication need to be opened and both parties need to come to the discussion.
Comment Written 29-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 29-Aug-2015
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That opinion has been voiced by many women in our 50+ community. Come on, could you really stand to have hubby underfoot all day?
I do envy the couples who can be that intense. I need a corner I can call my own. :-)
Comment from Sasha
Your therapist is right. I do hope Frank understands and agrees that you need time to yourself. We all do. Great work with this chapter. I look forward to the next one and find out how Frank handles your new rule.
reply by the author on 28-Aug-2015
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Your therapist is right. I do hope Frank understands and agrees that you need time to yourself. We all do. Great work with this chapter. I look forward to the next one and find out how Frank handles your new rule.
Comment Written 28-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 28-Aug-2015
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Ah, men are so easy to manipulate, Sasha. LOL
Comment from Leen1
Whoa! How did you do it, you had absolutely no time for yourself. All facets of your life were strictly devoted to others. You had no "ME" time what-so-ever. Please tell me this has changed. Another interesting chapter, with so much food for thought.
reply by the author on 28-Aug-2015
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Whoa! How did you do it, you had absolutely no time for yourself. All facets of your life were strictly devoted to others. You had no "ME" time what-so-ever. Please tell me this has changed. Another interesting chapter, with so much food for thought.
Comment Written 28-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 28-Aug-2015
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I look back and wonder how I did it too. After I retired, things were better although we moved to a senior community and joined clubs whose leaders had big egos. A lot of Me time for a while, but now my hubby's memory is slowly fading. His confusion makes him want to be around me all the time. I escape when I go grocery shopping which he hates! Karaoke is a good place too.
Comment from boxergirl
Great stuff Shari....First, I love that you wanted to not dummy down your lessons...all kids need creative teaching. Second I so relate to needing down time when you git home from teaching...it is a must to survive the profession...and last I hated when I had to sub during my prep, especially if it was a teacher who missed all the time and didn't care how it impacted her peers!!
Hope Frank understands. 8-)
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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Great stuff Shari....First, I love that you wanted to not dummy down your lessons...all kids need creative teaching. Second I so relate to needing down time when you git home from teaching...it is a must to survive the profession...and last I hated when I had to sub during my prep, especially if it was a teacher who missed all the time and didn't care how it impacted her peers!!
Hope Frank understands. 8-)
Comment Written 27-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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Thanks so much for the six. I can see that you connect with this. We did have two specific teachers who did this all the time!
Comment from Louise Michelle
Hi Shari,
Isn't it amazing how we often can't pinpoint what is really stressing us out and need someone to tell us. The counselor gave you sound advice.
Aren't you just like a writer (we're all overly emotional) to exaggerate in your mind the way you will be approaching Frank. Erasing is a clever word, but truly not what you were going to be doing.
You used to give yourself a good workout. Are you still walking?
Hugs,
Lou
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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Hi Shari,
Isn't it amazing how we often can't pinpoint what is really stressing us out and need someone to tell us. The counselor gave you sound advice.
Aren't you just like a writer (we're all overly emotional) to exaggerate in your mind the way you will be approaching Frank. Erasing is a clever word, but truly not what you were going to be doing.
You used to give yourself a good workout. Are you still walking?
Hugs,
Lou
Comment Written 27-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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Yes, it is amazing that we can't pinpoint the more subtle stressors. Glad you appreciate my hyperbole which fit in well for a teacher. I stretch and do 30 pushups every morning and will get back to walking when the weather cools off. Right now my walking is in grocery stores and clothing shops. :-)
Comment from alexisleech
Her advice makes a lot of sense. Suddenly being home all the time is going to be a big change for both you and Frank, especially when your time together before was limited. Loads of couples come to blows when they retire because they're not used to spending so much time together. At least you're now able to look at it rationally.
Alexis xxx
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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Her advice makes a lot of sense. Suddenly being home all the time is going to be a big change for both you and Frank, especially when your time together before was limited. Loads of couples come to blows when they retire because they're not used to spending so much time together. At least you're now able to look at it rationally.
Alexis xxx
Comment Written 27-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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Worse when retired until hubby had an interest like golf or baseball or poker. Many wives told me it was hard for them to adjust too.
Comment from padumachitta
Hi...you know this is teacing me a lot...not the same situation, but the same kind of thing with people living with me...it has helped me...thanks...
I always find it interesting when the penny drops...thanks for the penny:-)
padumachitta
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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Hi...you know this is teacing me a lot...not the same situation, but the same kind of thing with people living with me...it has helped me...thanks...
I always find it interesting when the penny drops...thanks for the penny:-)
padumachitta
Comment Written 27-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 27-Aug-2015
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Just read about your penny. If you can't change the situation change you attitude or POV.:-)
