When Blood Collides
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Comment from Sasha
This doesn't help at all, but at least you had a husband that cared even if his suggestions were not helpful. Your therapist sounds like a smart person and I like the affirmations you listed.
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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This doesn't help at all, but at least you had a husband that cared even if his suggestions were not helpful. Your therapist sounds like a smart person and I like the affirmations you listed.
Comment Written 24-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Thanks, The next post brings up a stressor I didn't think of before.
Comment from Leen1
Great affirmatives to remember in time of need. I think the older we get the less combative we become. At least I have, it's not worth the time to raise my pressure and make myself ill. Thank you for the useful gems in terms of this chapter.
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Great affirmatives to remember in time of need. I think the older we get the less combative we become. At least I have, it's not worth the time to raise my pressure and make myself ill. Thank you for the useful gems in terms of this chapter.
Comment Written 24-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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I hoped it would help others, Leen. Thank for the support.
Comment from sibhus
I tend to go with Frank, and maybe burn down the school, or a least a bag of flaming dog poop on the department head's door. Then again, being a man that would be typical. Anyway good chapter, and what a bunch of douches you have had to put up with.
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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I tend to go with Frank, and maybe burn down the school, or a least a bag of flaming dog poop on the department head's door. Then again, being a man that would be typical. Anyway good chapter, and what a bunch of douches you have had to put up with.
Comment Written 24-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Everything's a learning opportunity, husky. Too bad I learned that so late in life!
Comment from robyn corum
I enjoyed this piece very much -- though I found it almost impossible to believe our own Spitfire CRIED for almost an entire session with her therapist. Isn't it alwasy funny (okay NOT funny!) the image we put on the world...? hmmmm...
I'm having to rethink things now. And I really DO like seeing this side of you!!!
By the way, have you ever read 'The Five Love Languages'? If not, I highly recommend it! It is amazing and will help you to understand so many of the people around you!
Anyway, here are some notes:
1.) "I know(comma)" I sniffled.
--> this is subjective and depends on what you meant here. If you intended these to be separate sentences -- nevermind. *smile*
2.) Frank's the only (one) who really cares,
3.) I finished the glass of water and composed myself again.
--> you're introducing something we haven't heard about as if we do know of it.
4.) "I'm going to share these with Frank too(comma)" I told her as we shook hands goodbye.
--> 'shook hands goodbye' reads a little awkward, at least to me...? perhaps 'as we said goodbye and shook hands' or 'shook hands as I left' ??
5.) My hubby thrived on (combative) situations.
Thanks for sharing!
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reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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I enjoyed this piece very much -- though I found it almost impossible to believe our own Spitfire CRIED for almost an entire session with her therapist. Isn't it alwasy funny (okay NOT funny!) the image we put on the world...? hmmmm...
I'm having to rethink things now. And I really DO like seeing this side of you!!!
By the way, have you ever read 'The Five Love Languages'? If not, I highly recommend it! It is amazing and will help you to understand so many of the people around you!
Anyway, here are some notes:
1.) "I know(comma)" I sniffled.
--> this is subjective and depends on what you meant here. If you intended these to be separate sentences -- nevermind. *smile*
2.) Frank's the only (one) who really cares,
3.) I finished the glass of water and composed myself again.
--> you're introducing something we haven't heard about as if we do know of it.
4.) "I'm going to share these with Frank too(comma)" I told her as we shook hands goodbye.
--> 'shook hands goodbye' reads a little awkward, at least to me...? perhaps 'as we said goodbye and shook hands' or 'shook hands as I left' ??
5.) My hubby thrived on (combative) situations.
Thanks for sharing!
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Comment Written 24-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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I'm delighted to see your name again. Thanks so much for a great review. I made the changes except for number one.
Comment from judiverse
This is a great, very honest story. I really don't think you tried to follow Frank's suggestion so far as to become angry and throw a tantrum. You just wanted to understand what had happened and see what you could do to regain your former position of teaching honors classes. You were not being unreasonable. It's a shame you were the one who had to adjust, when it was the school system, namely the department head, who had failed to support you. But you were the one who had to deal with the problem, although you had done nothing wrong. Excellent writing about a delicate situation. The therapist but a lot of responsibility on you. judi
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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This is a great, very honest story. I really don't think you tried to follow Frank's suggestion so far as to become angry and throw a tantrum. You just wanted to understand what had happened and see what you could do to regain your former position of teaching honors classes. You were not being unreasonable. It's a shame you were the one who had to adjust, when it was the school system, namely the department head, who had failed to support you. But you were the one who had to deal with the problem, although you had done nothing wrong. Excellent writing about a delicate situation. The therapist but a lot of responsibility on you. judi
Comment Written 24-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Thanks so much, judi, for the six. I appreciate your input on this. It was such a rotten thing to do behind my back! I think that's what really got to me. Up to then, the dept. head and
I had been good friends.
Another two years and it will me my turn to gloat.
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You're welcome. I can certainly understand why you were angry about this. Even putting your mother's death aside, it was still underhanded. And you were the one who felt it necessary to undergo therapy. judi
Comment from padumachitta
Hi...well at least when you pay a therapist, they gotta listen...sounds like at least it gave you someone who listened and not just fixed...and Frank...poor guy isn't gonna know what hit him...
at least this feels like it may not be as painful as the wedding...
padumachitta
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Hi...well at least when you pay a therapist, they gotta listen...sounds like at least it gave you someone who listened and not just fixed...and Frank...poor guy isn't gonna know what hit him...
at least this feels like it may not be as painful as the wedding...
padumachitta
Comment Written 24-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Nowhere near the wedding pain.
I should have been in therapy for that too!
Comment from Jay Squires
We should all have access to therapists like Yvette.
A few things you've already had pointed out to you:
I just want him to tell him what happened, but I don't want his solutions!" [I just want {delete "him"} to tell him...]
"The problem with men is they always feel like they have to fix everything." [Mars vs. Venus?]
" In the meantime, [Extra space after open quote.]
dumped them into a wastebasket, [You left out the subject?]
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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We should all have access to therapists like Yvette.
A few things you've already had pointed out to you:
I just want him to tell him what happened, but I don't want his solutions!" [I just want {delete "him"} to tell him...]
"The problem with men is they always feel like they have to fix everything." [Mars vs. Venus?]
" In the meantime, [Extra space after open quote.]
dumped them into a wastebasket, [You left out the subject?]
Comment Written 24-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Couldn't sleep. Good thing. I corrected everything noted. Glad you liked Yvette.
Comment from Eigle Rull
I just want him (eliminate him) to tell him what happened, but I don't want his solutions!"
This is a very well written chapter to your story. It is interesting because it is a real life situation and not something made up for a writing class. This is the real thing with emotions attached. It is something important.
It sounds like your therapist was a wise woman. I've had affirmations given to me in the past also, and they actually helped. This chapter held my attention, my friend. I feel the emotions attached to the chapter. That's one thing that makes it so believable to me. Best wishes, my good friend.
Always with respect,
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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I just want him (eliminate him) to tell him what happened, but I don't want his solutions!"
This is a very well written chapter to your story. It is interesting because it is a real life situation and not something made up for a writing class. This is the real thing with emotions attached. It is something important.
It sounds like your therapist was a wise woman. I've had affirmations given to me in the past also, and they actually helped. This chapter held my attention, my friend. I feel the emotions attached to the chapter. That's one thing that makes it so believable to me. Best wishes, my good friend.
Always with respect,
Comment Written 24-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Thanks, Eigle, for spotting the spag. I'm glad you like the dialogue and the emotions.
Comment from barkingdog
Why would a therapist who had only seen you one time, during which you were hysterically venting, even broach the subject of you quitting your job to find another? And at the tail end of a session when there was no time for discussion.
Three affirmation were given and not discussed.
Crying is good. Knowing that something good comes out of even the worst situations can be true. Trying to convince Frank to only listen and now want to help is dumping on him without accepting his emotions are involved when he sees you hurt.
I'm not fond of this therapist.
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Why would a therapist who had only seen you one time, during which you were hysterically venting, even broach the subject of you quitting your job to find another? And at the tail end of a session when there was no time for discussion.
Three affirmation were given and not discussed.
Crying is good. Knowing that something good comes out of even the worst situations can be true. Trying to convince Frank to only listen and now want to help is dumping on him without accepting his emotions are involved when he sees you hurt.
I'm not fond of this therapist.
Comment Written 24-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Ellen, you are right. I made up the last part about quitting so as to lead into the next chapter. Anyway, I changed the affirmation and deleted the job bit. I don't remember the actual affirmations but I don't think they needed discussing.
I do remember her saying that men want to fix things --more a generalization than aimed at Frank. But she is right about that. He still is like that. Thanks for the wonderful feedback and honesty.
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Frank is a man's man. You are a strong willed woman who could never be with a wimp. I see you two as a perfect match. To get his strength you have had to accept that he isn't much of a listener. But I'm sure he is so giving in so many other ways that more than make up for something that probably feels like a feminine trait. Not all men can get in touch with their feminine side. Not all women want them to because of what is lost in doing that.
I'll go back and read your changes.
:) e
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Nice comments. Let me know hat you think. I'm off to bed now. Yawn ....
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That's much better. The affirmations are good.
Did you really thing Frank liked tearing people apart?
I'd re-think that line, too. Who is he trying to tear apart? Certainly not you. Maybe your principal--but I'd want to tear her apart too for taking your honor's classes away right after your mother died.
Why couldn't shd split the classes between you and the male teacher? I guess planning for two different levels would be too hard? Not if you'd already taught honors ...
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I couldn't sleep without knowing your reaction. I changed the line you suggested. I don't know why I didn't ask about splitting them, but I'm sure she wouldn't have done that. And if she did, I may have ended up with three preparations!
Comment from IndianaIrish
It's funny how we know all along exactly what the therapist says is true, but it doesn't hit our brains until they say it? A good chapter, Shari. Couple of things...
Frank's the only (one) who really cares,
"An interesting observation,(.)" Yvette nodded her head
Smiles,
Karyn :-)
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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It's funny how we know all along exactly what the therapist says is true, but it doesn't hit our brains until they say it? A good chapter, Shari. Couple of things...
Frank's the only (one) who really cares,
"An interesting observation,(.)" Yvette nodded her head
Smiles,
Karyn :-)
Comment Written 23-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Thanks for noting the spags, Karyn. Up late correcting those and others notes. Surprising revelation of an unsuspected stressor coming up next.
