When Blood Collides
Viewing comments for Chapter 47 "The Boombox"A family's love is tested.
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Comment from sibhus
Wow, and a good time was had by all. What a frosty sounding reception, but so true. Sounds like every reception I've ever been to. Well, except for A Jehovah's Witness reception, but then I was a friend of friend type of deal, and didn't know anyone there. Good chapter, I mean, well written, despite the depressing subject. People really can be so nasty at times like this. Good stuff there, Spitfire.
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2015
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Wow, and a good time was had by all. What a frosty sounding reception, but so true. Sounds like every reception I've ever been to. Well, except for A Jehovah's Witness reception, but then I was a friend of friend type of deal, and didn't know anyone there. Good chapter, I mean, well written, despite the depressing subject. People really can be so nasty at times like this. Good stuff there, Spitfire.
Comment Written 13-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2015
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Glad the nasty and cold came through. Thanks again, husky. This was my first and only wake I went through. At least, I don't remember one for my Dad. We had to fly his body to
Penn Yan to be buried in a family plot. Mom wanted nothing to do with his side of the family. LOL
Comment from Walu Feral
G'day Shari. I know I've said this before, but, how bloody tragic are the attitudes of family at a time when they should be family! I have never known a white person who has been cremated so I can't answer your question, but I'd have to assume they would come in some sort of nice little box or something. We used to just burn them in a fire and send the ashes to the wind in the tribal way. Well done mate, cheers Fez
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2015
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G'day Shari. I know I've said this before, but, how bloody tragic are the attitudes of family at a time when they should be family! I have never known a white person who has been cremated so I can't answer your question, but I'd have to assume they would come in some sort of nice little box or something. We used to just burn them in a fire and send the ashes to the wind in the tribal way. Well done mate, cheers Fez
Comment Written 13-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2015
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Just toss them into a fire. Why not? Here is becomes a skill that involves crushing bones and other things I wish I hadn't known.
Comment from w.j.debi
I have to say I am stunned at the lack of respect Anne displayed for your Mother's remains, especially given her profession. It makes you wonder what makes her tick.
It is too bad that Frank did not get the one thing he wanted. I'm sure your mother would have been disappointed to watch the display that was made over it. You husband is a jewel to keep his cool.
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2015
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I have to say I am stunned at the lack of respect Anne displayed for your Mother's remains, especially given her profession. It makes you wonder what makes her tick.
It is too bad that Frank did not get the one thing he wanted. I'm sure your mother would have been disappointed to watch the display that was made over it. You husband is a jewel to keep his cool.
Comment Written 12-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2015
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I look upon the loss of his statue as lesson to learn--don't count your chickens until they hatch-- gotta love those clichés. ;-)
Comment from mermaids
I am stunned that your mother's ashes are in a paper bag, even my pets' ashes are in a nice box. This is quite a story, the harsh feelings come through clearly and tension is clearly felt. It is sad that families often cannot put their feelings aside and get along. Excellent writing that reflects true life.
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2015
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I am stunned that your mother's ashes are in a paper bag, even my pets' ashes are in a nice box. This is quite a story, the harsh feelings come through clearly and tension is clearly felt. It is sad that families often cannot put their feelings aside and get along. Excellent writing that reflects true life.
Comment Written 12-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2015
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So your reaction was the same of mine.
For me, this showed how little she thought of Mother in spite of what she said.
Comment from judiverse
These events are physically tiring. To add to your discomfort was the way the relatives seemed to take sides. I was surprised that an innocent thing like asking where your mother's boom box was could bring such a reaction. Great description of the relatives taking all their little trophies with them. Strange business with Anne placing the cremains in a paper bag. I thought it showed insensitivity. judi
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2015
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These events are physically tiring. To add to your discomfort was the way the relatives seemed to take sides. I was surprised that an innocent thing like asking where your mother's boom box was could bring such a reaction. Great description of the relatives taking all their little trophies with them. Strange business with Anne placing the cremains in a paper bag. I thought it showed insensitivity. judi
Comment Written 11-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2015
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All I can say is that I'm glad it was over. No one ever talked about my mother's death again. But then, with the exception of Dee, we were separated by many states!
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Just because you don't talk about her, that doesn't mean she isn't on your mind every day. judi
Comment from The Mom/DarleneThomson
I am happy you got one of your mother's pictures of the set of three. I feel so bad for you. I can't imagine having Anne as a sister. Again I am sorry about your mom. Writing this must be healing for you. At least I hope it is. I have never heard of anyone using a ziploc bag for remains.
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2015
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I am happy you got one of your mother's pictures of the set of three. I feel so bad for you. I can't imagine having Anne as a sister. Again I am sorry about your mom. Writing this must be healing for you. At least I hope it is. I have never heard of anyone using a ziploc bag for remains.
Comment Written 11-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2015
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Thanks for answering my question about the remains. Anne was ten years older and lived three thousand miles away, so I never really got close to her.
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I can understand that. My oldest stepson is almost 17 years older than my youngest. Thank God they are close. My stepson has been more of a father than a brother LOL. I just can;t imagine all the horrors you have experienced. I am so sorry. It is nice that you all sent the flowers to the hospital.
Blessings my friend
Comment from Muffins
There is a serious mental issue going on here. Your mother's death and funeral has triggered a breakdown in Anne. The funeral home takes care of placing the ashes in the urn. For Anne to dump( sorry , but that's the best word to use for this scene) your mother's remains into a lunch bag is a serious cry for help.
Wow. This chapter as a hint of creepy horror to it. How did you stand it without exploding!
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2015
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There is a serious mental issue going on here. Your mother's death and funeral has triggered a breakdown in Anne. The funeral home takes care of placing the ashes in the urn. For Anne to dump( sorry , but that's the best word to use for this scene) your mother's remains into a lunch bag is a serious cry for help.
Wow. This chapter as a hint of creepy horror to it. How did you stand it without exploding!
Comment Written 11-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2015
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I never thought of it as a mental issue. You may have a point. Poor Anne really wanted Mom to live near her after Dad died.
I think she felt abandoned.
Comment from Deniz22
This is getting tiresome (not your writing). The continuing pettiness and sheer rudeness of your kin is beyond my ken. Usually, families come together at these times, but not always as your story proved. I'm sure the wearisomeness was worse experienced than read about. CK, sympathizing
reply by the author on 11-Aug-2015
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This is getting tiresome (not your writing). The continuing pettiness and sheer rudeness of your kin is beyond my ken. Usually, families come together at these times, but not always as your story proved. I'm sure the wearisomeness was worse experienced than read about. CK, sympathizing
Comment Written 11-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 11-Aug-2015
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Thanks, CK. Next post--what helped me to keep my cool during all this and how I got a bigger blow wen I returned to my job!
Comment from Louise Michelle
Hi Shari,
I have to say that reading about your family makes me realize just how sane - relatively sane - mine was.
I think house plants give off oxygen, don't they?
I love the ending with the ashes in a sack and the way you write about it. I'm no expert, but I'd think that's a terrible idea because the bag could rip. Personally, I love the idea of being cremated and keeping remains in an urn.
Hugs,
Lou
reply by the author on 11-Aug-2015
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Hi Shari,
I have to say that reading about your family makes me realize just how sane - relatively sane - mine was.
I think house plants give off oxygen, don't they?
I love the ending with the ashes in a sack and the way you write about it. I'm no expert, but I'd think that's a terrible idea because the bag could rip. Personally, I love the idea of being cremated and keeping remains in an urn.
Hugs,
Lou
Comment Written 11-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 11-Aug-2015
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Plants do give off oxygen or carbon dioxide. Poor Mom got confused. I'm telling my cremation place not to put me in a sack! Might as well be buried then. Or used as cat litter. LOL
Comment from Leen1
Once more I suffered with the knowledge that some cannot let situations simmer; they are only satisfied when it comes to a boil. I must give you credit however, because I know that I would not been as cool as you were. None-the-less this is another chapter that left this reader with emotional awe.
reply by the author on 11-Aug-2015
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Once more I suffered with the knowledge that some cannot let situations simmer; they are only satisfied when it comes to a boil. I must give you credit however, because I know that I would not been as cool as you were. None-the-less this is another chapter that left this reader with emotional awe.
Comment Written 11-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 11-Aug-2015
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Thanks, Leen. Reviews like yours do much to encourage me.
