Dear Erica
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Comment from N.K. Wagner
Wonderful advice to a fellow victim of abuse, Ingrid. You're right, of course. The more you dwell on it, the more power you give the abuser over you. Well written. :) nancy
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2012
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Wonderful advice to a fellow victim of abuse, Ingrid. You're right, of course. The more you dwell on it, the more power you give the abuser over you. Well written. :) nancy
Comment Written 15-Apr-2012
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2012
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This was a semi public response t a woman who is suffering the guilt of her daughter's abuse by her choice in men. I have been on PM with her for a while, but let it go public because DAMN IT there really is no shame in being a victim. I thought it was contained, but, I underestimate the number of people who read my posts. This was a very focused response, but I know you get the stuff, even though there was no explanation of the set up.
Comment from Kate Walker
Hi Spiritual Echo,
This passionate letter reads as if written for someone in particular and not a general audience, though the fiery wisdom has something to say that's meaningful to all of us ... and not just women I suspect.
Reading the between the lines, the sub text appears to be about childhood abuse and living with the legacy of it. I could be wrong about this - it wasn't absolutely clear. But by joining the dots on a few particular phrases that's how it came across to me.
To tell the truth, I would have liked the purpose of the letter to be a little less cryptic, because cryptic implies that there's still something to be ashamed of and something to hide.
What I really liked was the forthright voice and common sense statements such as: 'Not on my dime. Not in my lifetime. We have a right to let our past fade...' You're making loud, positive statements about the fact that victims of abuse CAN get on with their lives. That the past doesn't have to be a shackle or a dead weight. It happened but it isn't the whole of a person's existence. And it's rare and refreshing to hear someone speak so plainly on the subject, and without condescension.
Cheers, Kate
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Hi Spiritual Echo,
This passionate letter reads as if written for someone in particular and not a general audience, though the fiery wisdom has something to say that's meaningful to all of us ... and not just women I suspect.
Reading the between the lines, the sub text appears to be about childhood abuse and living with the legacy of it. I could be wrong about this - it wasn't absolutely clear. But by joining the dots on a few particular phrases that's how it came across to me.
To tell the truth, I would have liked the purpose of the letter to be a little less cryptic, because cryptic implies that there's still something to be ashamed of and something to hide.
What I really liked was the forthright voice and common sense statements such as: 'Not on my dime. Not in my lifetime. We have a right to let our past fade...' You're making loud, positive statements about the fact that victims of abuse CAN get on with their lives. That the past doesn't have to be a shackle or a dead weight. It happened but it isn't the whole of a person's existence. And it's rare and refreshing to hear someone speak so plainly on the subject, and without condescension.
Cheers, Kate
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Comment Written 15-Apr-2012
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2012
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You ae absolutel right. this was writen to a woman, her daughter and grandaughter. It was specific and is not part of any contest. the converstation began with an essay I posted called "Child Abuse" and my fundamentak point is there is no shame in being a victim. I suppose that some part of me knew that I have a fan base that will read this, but my dedication to Irene and her daughter has little to do with writing skills, but rather life management...perhaps it's a reality show in words. Thanks for reading. Do support anyone who looks for strength.
Comment from humpwhistle
Ingrid, this is like walking in on the middle of a
conversation I'm not sure I should be hearing.
I thought this was between you and Erica---a shared trauma.
But then Mama and Annabelle are introduced, I am more confused. I can guess at possible traumas, but guesses can be harmful. It seems to me this should be public or private. The in-between makes me uncomfortable.
Peace, Lee
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2012
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Ingrid, this is like walking in on the middle of a
conversation I'm not sure I should be hearing.
I thought this was between you and Erica---a shared trauma.
But then Mama and Annabelle are introduced, I am more confused. I can guess at possible traumas, but guesses can be harmful. It seems to me this should be public or private. The in-between makes me uncomfortable.
Peace, Lee
Comment Written 15-Apr-2012
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2012
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Tis is a result of a sring of PMs resulting from an original post. You're right, it's aimed at two people. Without promotion it wasn't expected to garner any attention.
Comment from ennahanid
This is a very deep and moving write with such a good message and you are right grudges and regrets and feelings of guilt should not hold one back at all. My sister and I were both abused by the same person but I didn't know that until I was 29, for we never discussed it. I am fortunate put it behind me years ago...but my sister is 73 now and still harbors such a grudge...I don't understand that at all.
This is an excellent message you give out here.
Thank you...Dinah
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This is a very deep and moving write with such a good message and you are right grudges and regrets and feelings of guilt should not hold one back at all. My sister and I were both abused by the same person but I didn't know that until I was 29, for we never discussed it. I am fortunate put it behind me years ago...but my sister is 73 now and still harbors such a grudge...I don't understand that at all.
This is an excellent message you give out here.
Thank you...Dinah
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Comment Written 15-Apr-2012
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2012
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Read my story "Child Abuse" in my portfolio and you'll get the beginning of, sort of the story. Actually, I really think you should, not a suggestion, but perhaps an AHA moment. This was a message to a PM that has continued from the original post.
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Will do and thank you
Comment from LilHippie
From the bottom of my mending heart, thank you. God bless you for this piece of wisdom to us, I love you. (Holy crap, could not write this without rating it-well you know the system-LOL)
Irene
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From the bottom of my mending heart, thank you. God bless you for this piece of wisdom to us, I love you. (Holy crap, could not write this without rating it-well you know the system-LOL)
Irene
Comment Written 15-Apr-2012
