Farewell to Dreams
Having a child with a disability14 total reviews
Comment from Martie
Hello Kit....I see you haven't posted anything to FS for a long time. I have also been away but came back recently and found your lovely comment in one of my poems about my daughter, Michelle.
Your poem touched my heart. You own a different kind of heart ache and grief. I saved a drawing of a big read heart with the word "mother" written in it. It is tattered now. I hope all is well with you.
reply by the author on 01-Oct-2012
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Hello Kit....I see you haven't posted anything to FS for a long time. I have also been away but came back recently and found your lovely comment in one of my poems about my daughter, Michelle.
Your poem touched my heart. You own a different kind of heart ache and grief. I saved a drawing of a big read heart with the word "mother" written in it. It is tattered now. I hope all is well with you.
Comment Written 29-Nov-2011
reply by the author on 01-Oct-2012
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Hi Martie! Are you still on fanstory? I've been busy with the rest of my life, writing a little poetry, but mostly working on some research. How about you? Good to hear from you. Kit
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I am very seldom here. I do have a Novella that will be published this fall. I'm excited about that. Wishing you well. :)
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Hi Martie - My son lived but was in so much pain that I had to give up on so much I had expected to do with him. He's 23 now, and I am still letting go of dreams. I try to hear his dreams and encourage him towards those, but often those must be given up, too. I still hope. Looking forward to more of your work, whenever or however it comes.
Comment from Summer Falls
Kit, I can relate to this poem. This was so full of imagery, I could picture you sitting next to the box and holding each toy and the dreams behind it.
I know what it is like to let go of dreams. However, I never let go of hope. There are always new dreams to be fulfilled. It is difficult to see other children who are typical and think--Oh that could have been my child, if only ... But then, there comes a time when you decide not to live with what if's or if only's. Only then are you open to see the new vision. :)
Excellent piece of work here.
Summer
reply by the author on 17-Sep-2009
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Kit, I can relate to this poem. This was so full of imagery, I could picture you sitting next to the box and holding each toy and the dreams behind it.
I know what it is like to let go of dreams. However, I never let go of hope. There are always new dreams to be fulfilled. It is difficult to see other children who are typical and think--Oh that could have been my child, if only ... But then, there comes a time when you decide not to live with what if's or if only's. Only then are you open to see the new vision. :)
Excellent piece of work here.
Summer
Comment Written 17-Sep-2009
reply by the author on 17-Sep-2009
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Thank you, Summer. I was fortunate to have poetry in which to put all those feelings. I didn't have to tell our son any regrets that I harbored. I have always believed in creating opportunities for our children and letting them choose among them. It's hard when their disabilities take away choices but if we can manage our emotions, they continue to feel successful at what they can and do choose to do.
Obviously - more to write!
Kit
Comment from StevenJosephBruening
This poem brings back memories of when I had a huge garage sale and had to, at times, tearfully, decide what of my kids' toys and items I could find it in my heart to part with. A Wonderfully written Sestina.
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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This poem brings back memories of when I had a huge garage sale and had to, at times, tearfully, decide what of my kids' toys and items I could find it in my heart to part with. A Wonderfully written Sestina.
Comment Written 16-Sep-2009
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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Thank you, Steven. Nice to be parents together with a good friend. Kit
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Kit:
You are most weclome. My oldest son just turned 15 today, so, now I have two teenagers in the house (Nick-11, Jason-15, Sarah-16)... Keeping me busy. The joys of parenthood :)
~ Steven
Comment from Readywriter52
We all have dreams and hopes for a child but sometimes through no fault of anyone that child will never meet these dreams. We need to redefine our expectations because each child brings something into this world.
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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We all have dreams and hopes for a child but sometimes through no fault of anyone that child will never meet these dreams. We need to redefine our expectations because each child brings something into this world.
Comment Written 16-Sep-2009
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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I agree. Finding out what a child expects of him or herself, and then supporting those goals... Thank you. Kit
Comment from Gert sherwood
Kit,
I Love your poem
To me it was very emotional and shows how one can gather their thoughts and still dream of a happy future.
I found your first line fine,
but the second line a bit confusing--
Sorting through the toy boxes
there are so many still like new
I just wondered if you said- ?
Sorting through the toy boxes
there are many that still look like new
Gert
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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Kit,
I Love your poem
To me it was very emotional and shows how one can gather their thoughts and still dream of a happy future.
I found your first line fine,
but the second line a bit confusing--
Sorting through the toy boxes
there are so many still like new
I just wondered if you said- ?
Sorting through the toy boxes
there are many that still look like new
Gert
Comment Written 16-Sep-2009
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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Thank you Gert - will fix asap. Kit
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Kit,
you are welcome
Take care.
Gert
Comment from RapturedHeart
Oh, Kit. I'm sitting here with goosebumps after reading this. How many parents would be able to relate to such sorrow. Dreams, hopes and expectations dashed. Though, new ones spring up! This I know to be true:). Deeply touching and with a very impacting ending.
Still, I think your first two verses are a little too long and could be pared down, maybe. Not because every poem should be short--but I think the examples are redundant, and would be harder hitting if scarcer in this case. Just my thoughts. Thanks for sharing this and have a great 'rest of the week:)'
Heather
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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Oh, Kit. I'm sitting here with goosebumps after reading this. How many parents would be able to relate to such sorrow. Dreams, hopes and expectations dashed. Though, new ones spring up! This I know to be true:). Deeply touching and with a very impacting ending.
Still, I think your first two verses are a little too long and could be pared down, maybe. Not because every poem should be short--but I think the examples are redundant, and would be harder hitting if scarcer in this case. Just my thoughts. Thanks for sharing this and have a great 'rest of the week:)'
Heather
Comment Written 16-Sep-2009
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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It's an old one that I thought was up here ages ago. I put it up to share with one of the FS writers who perhaps has shared some of my experiences. I didn't edit first - so yes - I will shorten it. Thank you, Kit
Comment from MariaMarsden
Kit, This is outstanding, very strong visual images conjuring up for me all sorts of pictures and emotions as I read your poem. Very moving :)
Maria
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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Kit, This is outstanding, very strong visual images conjuring up for me all sorts of pictures and emotions as I read your poem. Very moving :)
Maria
Comment Written 16-Sep-2009
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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Hard days. But mostly behind us I hope. Kit
Comment from lerkun
hello Kit, it's heartbreakingly warm and loving, wistful though still resigned. beautiful emotional write.
Thanks for sharing such a personal piece,
b well
lerk
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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hello Kit, it's heartbreakingly warm and loving, wistful though still resigned. beautiful emotional write.
Thanks for sharing such a personal piece,
b well
lerk
Comment Written 16-Sep-2009
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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Thank you. It's a few years old now. Our son is still fighting to be well but doing much better. Kit
Comment from Judian James
Oh, how painful this was to read. I kept waiting for the hope ... How sad that one's dreams changed and the imaginings for the child could not be, but surely there were other wonderful moments that could be shared, right?
Very well written, sad, sensitive piece.
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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Oh, how painful this was to read. I kept waiting for the hope ... How sad that one's dreams changed and the imaginings for the child could not be, but surely there were other wonderful moments that could be shared, right?
Very well written, sad, sensitive piece.
Comment Written 16-Sep-2009
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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We are so fortunate to have a son who we love, respect and admire. It's been a few years since I wrote this. He's still trying to get well, but it getting stronger all the time. Kit
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Oh, I'm so pleased to hear this.
Comment from Domino
Hi, Kit
A fascinating read of your delving through childhood treasures , all of which you din't have or want the opportunity of enjoying at the time. I have nothing left of my childhood and wished I had.
Beautiful detailed descriptions of your toys - when toys WERE toys and not just computer games. I always remember the fun I had with my mechano set and toy soldirs (before I appreciated the reality and horror of war). Those were the days and thanks for the memories so eloquently portrayed with a message or 2 along the way.
Best wishes, Ray xx
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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Hi, Kit
A fascinating read of your delving through childhood treasures , all of which you din't have or want the opportunity of enjoying at the time. I have nothing left of my childhood and wished I had.
Beautiful detailed descriptions of your toys - when toys WERE toys and not just computer games. I always remember the fun I had with my mechano set and toy soldirs (before I appreciated the reality and horror of war). Those were the days and thanks for the memories so eloquently portrayed with a message or 2 along the way.
Best wishes, Ray xx
Comment Written 16-Sep-2009
reply by the author on 16-Sep-2009
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They are my son's toys. We had to home school since schools were not safe environments for him. He's 20 now. Most of the past I gave away at the time I wrote this. I still come across something now and then that I should have given away five years ago - can still break my heart but he's so much stronger now. Hopefully, he will fully recover from Lyme and be able to enjoy his adult life. Kit
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Sorry I missed that, Kit, and here's wishing your son all the very best.
Ray xx
