A Slow Learner
Why Don't They Leave?60 total reviews
Comment from Jean Lutz
You have packed a tremendous amount of information into this article. Here's hoping it will be widely spread - to those that are abused and to anyone at any level who deals with the victims. Thank you for the effort you put into this.
reply by the author on 16-Jul-2009
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You have packed a tremendous amount of information into this article. Here's hoping it will be widely spread - to those that are abused and to anyone at any level who deals with the victims. Thank you for the effort you put into this.
Comment Written 02-Jul-2009
reply by the author on 16-Jul-2009
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Thank you so much for the wonderful review.
Jani
Comment from wierdgrace
What a well researched entry for this domestic abuse contest. It is funny, the title of slow learniers, I as a abused wife once, took me four years, and five years of running with two babies. life was my biggest concern, not all those numbers. but you are so right, 13 years is toughful. I married a biker, who was strong and protected us. kindest heart in the world. This is a great essay, and I wish you luck in the contest, its emotionals all of us who have been abused, are routing for you, mine was when no officers would help me. Thank you for sharing this
reply by the author on 16-Jul-2009
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What a well researched entry for this domestic abuse contest. It is funny, the title of slow learniers, I as a abused wife once, took me four years, and five years of running with two babies. life was my biggest concern, not all those numbers. but you are so right, 13 years is toughful. I married a biker, who was strong and protected us. kindest heart in the world. This is a great essay, and I wish you luck in the contest, its emotionals all of us who have been abused, are routing for you, mine was when no officers would help me. Thank you for sharing this
Comment Written 02-Jul-2009
reply by the author on 16-Jul-2009
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Thank you so much for the wonderful review. I am so glad to hear you found someone nice who was not abusive.
Jani
Comment from fayesh
You present a strong argument for your side of the controversy. Unfortunately, with domestic abuse unlike the Witness Protection Program, there are too many emotional and personal elements that would make such a program almost impossible to handle. Domestic abuse, in many states, is not considered criminal, unlike the reasons for the Witness Protection Program" for criminal activities.
reply by the author on 16-Jul-2009
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You present a strong argument for your side of the controversy. Unfortunately, with domestic abuse unlike the Witness Protection Program, there are too many emotional and personal elements that would make such a program almost impossible to handle. Domestic abuse, in many states, is not considered criminal, unlike the reasons for the Witness Protection Program" for criminal activities.
Comment Written 02-Jul-2009
reply by the author on 16-Jul-2009
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Thank you so much for the wonderful review. Yes, I am sure it wouldn't work, but it's fun to think of!
Jani
Comment from anabelle
I knew I had a good reason to keep this 6 star in my little bag this week Janilou. This is absolutely fabulous!!! I'm so thrilled you're doing this kind of posting. I personally haven't been there, but a dear friend of mine has, and it's so awful and devastating, just as you say. And, I like the way you've brought your experience in with the statistics and that you've also seperated the types of abuse and parcelled it with the social and economic costs.
I hope you continue to write and that you publish pieces like this. It makes people aware, and it makes everyone more receptive to being of help when it's needed.
Regards, anabelle
reply by the author on 16-Jul-2009
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I knew I had a good reason to keep this 6 star in my little bag this week Janilou. This is absolutely fabulous!!! I'm so thrilled you're doing this kind of posting. I personally haven't been there, but a dear friend of mine has, and it's so awful and devastating, just as you say. And, I like the way you've brought your experience in with the statistics and that you've also seperated the types of abuse and parcelled it with the social and economic costs.
I hope you continue to write and that you publish pieces like this. It makes people aware, and it makes everyone more receptive to being of help when it's needed.
Regards, anabelle
Comment Written 02-Jul-2009
reply by the author on 16-Jul-2009
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Anabelle, thank you so much for this wonderful six star review. I'm sorry I took so long to answer it. Sigh. I've been far too busy! :-)
I deeply appreciate your kind words and the rating. Wow. Thank you!
Jani
Comment from cheyennewy
Hi Janilou..you give some startling facts in this write. I think your idea is a good one..a program for those abused. You are so right they feel lost and hopeless with no where to go and no one to lean on. I'm glad you are no longer a statistic. A very informative and well written story....blessings....chey
reply by the author on 16-Jul-2009
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Hi Janilou..you give some startling facts in this write. I think your idea is a good one..a program for those abused. You are so right they feel lost and hopeless with no where to go and no one to lean on. I'm glad you are no longer a statistic. A very informative and well written story....blessings....chey
Comment Written 02-Jul-2009
reply by the author on 16-Jul-2009
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Thank you so much for the wonderful review!
Hugs,
Jani
Comment from c_lucas
Someone in an abusive situation has to learn love and respect for themselves. That in itself is an almost imposible goal. Very well written with good imagery and descriptive scheme.
reply by the author on 26-Jul-2009
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Someone in an abusive situation has to learn love and respect for themselves. That in itself is an almost imposible goal. Very well written with good imagery and descriptive scheme.
Comment Written 02-Jul-2009
reply by the author on 26-Jul-2009
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Thank you so very much for the wonderful review.
Janilou
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You're welcome, Janilou. Charlie
Comment from rday008
Wow. Some really startling numbers here. You managed to express your opinion strongly without lowering yourself to any sort of standards which might lead you to cruelty. I appreciate your sharing.
reply by the author on 26-Jul-2009
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Wow. Some really startling numbers here. You managed to express your opinion strongly without lowering yourself to any sort of standards which might lead you to cruelty. I appreciate your sharing.
Comment Written 02-Jul-2009
reply by the author on 26-Jul-2009
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Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it.
Janilou
Comment from Reesha
Hm. Interesting statistics.
Though I felt your point got overwhelmed with so many statistics. Still, I would have put them in there if I was writing this piece.
Thank you for sharing.
BTW, there is a program like that. It's called Harriet Tubman. It operates just like the old slavery underground railroads used to and gives women and children new identities, new lives, and keeps them hidden, moving from place to place (no one knows where their several buildings are located) until they can get back on their own two feet.
At least a part of our society has learned.
Though a better solution could be to have a program that helps men not abuse their wives. That would be the real show stopper.
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reply by the author on 06-Aug-2009
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Hm. Interesting statistics.
Though I felt your point got overwhelmed with so many statistics. Still, I would have put them in there if I was writing this piece.
Thank you for sharing.
BTW, there is a program like that. It's called Harriet Tubman. It operates just like the old slavery underground railroads used to and gives women and children new identities, new lives, and keeps them hidden, moving from place to place (no one knows where their several buildings are located) until they can get back on their own two feet.
At least a part of our society has learned.
Though a better solution could be to have a program that helps men not abuse their wives. That would be the real show stopper.
This rating does not count towards story rating or author rank.
The highest and the lowest rating are not included in calculations.
Comment Written 02-Jul-2009
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2009
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Thank you so much for reviewing my work. I'm glad you enjoyed it, even if only four stars worth. I was very interested to hear of that program.
Hugs,
Janilou
Comment from Sue-z-Q
Hi Jan:
Nice to see you can take a breather and write a piece.
Note:
[ For the State of Tennessee:IN 2004, ~~] Space missing after the colon.
Your suggestions on how the authorities ought to handle this situation like the Witness Protective Program is absolutely right. The fact that they haven't makes them the "Slow learners."
You've compiled some outstanding statistics that clearly support such an undertaking.
You pointed out that male children who are raised in households where this sort of abuse is commonplace, all too often grow up to be abusers. Maybe this point could be stressed harder and expanded upon in this work.
This documentation should be brought to the attention of those who may be willing to implement such a program. The biggest stumbling block is finding out who these people are.
The only people I can think of to start with are the people connected with the Witness Protection Program. At least they might know who to contact with a copy of this documentation.
Anyhow, it sure would be nice to see something concrete come out of your efforts here.
Kudos to you for this great piece and I hope you have a pleasant day.
Sue-z-Q
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2009
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Hi Jan:
Nice to see you can take a breather and write a piece.
Note:
[ For the State of Tennessee:IN 2004, ~~] Space missing after the colon.
Your suggestions on how the authorities ought to handle this situation like the Witness Protective Program is absolutely right. The fact that they haven't makes them the "Slow learners."
You've compiled some outstanding statistics that clearly support such an undertaking.
You pointed out that male children who are raised in households where this sort of abuse is commonplace, all too often grow up to be abusers. Maybe this point could be stressed harder and expanded upon in this work.
This documentation should be brought to the attention of those who may be willing to implement such a program. The biggest stumbling block is finding out who these people are.
The only people I can think of to start with are the people connected with the Witness Protection Program. At least they might know who to contact with a copy of this documentation.
Anyhow, it sure would be nice to see something concrete come out of your efforts here.
Kudos to you for this great piece and I hope you have a pleasant day.
Sue-z-Q
Comment Written 02-Jul-2009
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2009
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Thank you so much for reviewing my work. I'm glad you enjoyed it. I think I corrected all the errors now.
Hugs,
Janilou
Comment from Freeflyer
I found this write very interesting. My daughter was in an abusive relationship. She is a slow learner, by that I mean she is mildly intellectually handicapped. Her attraction to the abuser was based on her need for dependency. She had relied on me for 19 years for guidance. When she left home she unconsciencly sought someone to lead her. A fact we realized, too late. Congratulations on the story and my hat is off to you for all of your research.
Freeflyer
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2009
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I found this write very interesting. My daughter was in an abusive relationship. She is a slow learner, by that I mean she is mildly intellectually handicapped. Her attraction to the abuser was based on her need for dependency. She had relied on me for 19 years for guidance. When she left home she unconsciencly sought someone to lead her. A fact we realized, too late. Congratulations on the story and my hat is off to you for all of your research.
Freeflyer
Comment Written 02-Jul-2009
reply by the author on 06-Aug-2009
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Thank you so much for reviewing my work. I'm glad you enjoyed it.
Hugs,
Janilou
PS Sorry to hear about your daughter.
