Negotiate the Negative
Why I have a tendency to say No.36 total reviews
Comment from Elizabeth Emerald
Spot-on. I'm with you on this. I am at an automatic advantage as to doing favors because I don't drive so nobody can resent my declining a request to take them to the airport at 5 AM. Well done! Wince-worthy example--I recall mention of it in Remembering Yesterday.
reply by the author on 07-May-2022
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Spot-on. I'm with you on this. I am at an automatic advantage as to doing favors because I don't drive so nobody can resent my declining a request to take them to the airport at 5 AM. Well done! Wince-worthy example--I recall mention of it in Remembering Yesterday.
Comment Written 06-May-2022
reply by the author on 07-May-2022
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Thanks Elizabeth. I don't what I'd do if I didn't drive. Sometimes I need to escape. Still not driving can have its advantages. Thank you for the review.
Beth
Comment from Judy Lawless
This is a great commentary, Beth. I've known people who seem to be negative, but after observing the situations a while, I realized "No" was an automatic response because they didn't want to jump into something without having all the details. My son-in-law was like that when they were looking to buy a house, but my daughter hadn't noticed this trait until I pointed it out to her. So, no, I would not call you a negative person, just a cautious one. :) Well done.
reply by the author on 07-May-2022
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This is a great commentary, Beth. I've known people who seem to be negative, but after observing the situations a while, I realized "No" was an automatic response because they didn't want to jump into something without having all the details. My son-in-law was like that when they were looking to buy a house, but my daughter hadn't noticed this trait until I pointed it out to her. So, no, I would not call you a negative person, just a cautious one. :) Well done.
Comment Written 06-May-2022
reply by the author on 07-May-2022
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Thank you, Judy. Even if you say "We'll see. I'll think about it." to my kids that meant yes. If you decided it was no the next thing I'd hear was "But you promised." No was the best answer in the long run. Thanks for a great review.
Beth
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You're most welcome, Beth
Comment from Jannypan (Jan)
I agree, Beth. You expressed it well. I like the way you
explained what 'I'll think about it' meant to your family
and probably everyone else. I do remember reading bits
of this in other stories, but that's ok. You used the car
story to support your reasoning of saying no. I don't
believe you are a negative person.
Respectfully, Jan
reply by the author on 07-May-2022
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I agree, Beth. You expressed it well. I like the way you
explained what 'I'll think about it' meant to your family
and probably everyone else. I do remember reading bits
of this in other stories, but that's ok. You used the car
story to support your reasoning of saying no. I don't
believe you are a negative person.
Respectfully, Jan
Comment Written 06-May-2022
reply by the author on 07-May-2022
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Thank you for the vote of confidence that I'm not a negative person. I've also been accused of bursting everyone's bubble and being a dream killer, but I still like to believe I've been misjudged. LOL
Beth
Comment from Annmuma
I love this story and certainly identify with every word. I'm sure any reader who ever had teenagers relived some their own trials along the way. Well written and free of spag as far as I saw. ann
reply by the author on 07-May-2022
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I love this story and certainly identify with every word. I'm sure any reader who ever had teenagers relived some their own trials along the way. Well written and free of spag as far as I saw. ann
Comment Written 06-May-2022
reply by the author on 07-May-2022
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Thank you, Ann. I so glad you liked this story. I think most people with kids can relate. Husband sometimes don't give you all the story either. LOL
Beth
Comment from Sandra Stoner-Mitchell
I can remember the car, and remember thinking, I had a son like that ... until he had to pay for it himself. It's amazing how quickly they become frugal with their own money. You've had some fun times, Beth, loads of good, bad and the ugly, lol!! I enjoyed reading this one, and you can tell your family from me, that the one thing you definately are not, is negative!! :)) Sandra xx
reply by the author on 07-May-2022
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I can remember the car, and remember thinking, I had a son like that ... until he had to pay for it himself. It's amazing how quickly they become frugal with their own money. You've had some fun times, Beth, loads of good, bad and the ugly, lol!! I enjoyed reading this one, and you can tell your family from me, that the one thing you definately are not, is negative!! :)) Sandra xx
Comment Written 06-May-2022
reply by the author on 07-May-2022
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Thank you, Sandra. I'm glad you enjoyed this. I appreciate the great review.
Beth
Comment from royowen
Knowing the struggles one can have with one's kids can be be a bit of a merry go round when it comes to purchasing a whit elephant which is vaguely connected to what they're doing can be a minefield of trouble. The "think about it" is a trap for parents, kids do translate it to YES. beautifully written Beth, blessings Roy
reply by the author on 07-May-2022
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Knowing the struggles one can have with one's kids can be be a bit of a merry go round when it comes to purchasing a whit elephant which is vaguely connected to what they're doing can be a minefield of trouble. The "think about it" is a trap for parents, kids do translate it to YES. beautifully written Beth, blessings Roy
Comment Written 06-May-2022
reply by the author on 07-May-2022
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Thank you Roy. I learned from experience and possibly from looking back at the way I went about asking for what I wanted to do as a child, that facts are evident from the initial request. A "No!" can be changed. It is harder to go back on a "Yes!"
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That?s right
Comment from jessizero
Your first sentence reads like a comma splice. You could take out the comma and add "that," but some people are opposed to overusing the word "that."
It probably should be "an uneasy F," not "a uneasy F"
Other than those minor details, I really enjoyed your story. I would have to be "negative" as well. Thanks for sharing!
reply by the author on 06-May-2022
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Your first sentence reads like a comma splice. You could take out the comma and add "that," but some people are opposed to overusing the word "that."
It probably should be "an uneasy F," not "a uneasy F"
Other than those minor details, I really enjoyed your story. I would have to be "negative" as well. Thanks for sharing!
Comment Written 06-May-2022
reply by the author on 06-May-2022
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Thank you for the review and comments. I put my "that" back in there because the person that always insists I take the out had already read it and left a comment. I fixed the an too. I'm glad ;you like it.
Beth
Comment from barbara.wilkey
Thank you for re-posting this oldie, but goodie. I enjoyed reading. I can promise you that as a mother of boys, I have learned from experience, the right answer is always no. No may become a yes, but it's an immediate no.
reply by the author on 06-May-2022
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Thank you for re-posting this oldie, but goodie. I enjoyed reading. I can promise you that as a mother of boys, I have learned from experience, the right answer is always no. No may become a yes, but it's an immediate no.
Comment Written 06-May-2022
reply by the author on 06-May-2022
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Thank you, Barbara. I though most mothers would know what I was talking about.
Beth
Comment from Themon
Well told, and reminds me why I always did the same thing with my sons. First reaction was always "NO!" After a long discussion, that might mellow to, "Your kidding!" The road to "Maybe" was long and dry.
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2009
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Well told, and reminds me why I always did the same thing with my sons. First reaction was always "NO!" After a long discussion, that might mellow to, "Your kidding!" The road to "Maybe" was long and dry.
Comment Written 26-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2009
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Thermon, Thank so much for the review and comment. I see you have been there.
Beth
Comment from MaureenC
I really didn't think there were many others who might have suffered the same kind of misfortune as this. I can certainly relate!
It is well written and the flow and pace are excellent, as usual.
Well done
Mauseyc
reply by the author on 25-Mar-2009
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I really didn't think there were many others who might have suffered the same kind of misfortune as this. I can certainly relate!
It is well written and the flow and pace are excellent, as usual.
Well done
Mauseyc
Comment Written 24-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 25-Mar-2009
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MauseyC Thank you so much for reading and commenting. I love reading the comment and knowing I'm not alone.
Beth
