A Particular Friendship
Viewing comments for Chapter 29 "Adult child challenges"We meet Lizzy who has just come out of the convent
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Comment from eliz100
This chapter is a little confusing for me. Part of the story is about sweaters and learned lying behavior. The flow was choppy for me. Have a blessed day.
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2024
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This chapter is a little confusing for me. Part of the story is about sweaters and learned lying behavior. The flow was choppy for me. Have a blessed day.
Comment Written 21-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2024
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Thank you for your review. It seems you doThe best for n't relate well to my ADD style. That's okay, the ADD style isn't for everyone. Another thing I do for my ADD audience is to have approximately no more than 1,000 words for every chapter. Anything else is way too much for me and I would not be able to focus.This may be difficult because you may not be ADD.
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Thanks foo the feedback
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Comment from papa55mike
I was a world-class liar many years ago, but it finally faded away as I grew older. What a wonderfully written piece. Best of luck with your writing!
Have a great day, and God bless.
mike
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2024
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I was a world-class liar many years ago, but it finally faded away as I grew older. What a wonderfully written piece. Best of luck with your writing!
Have a great day, and God bless.
mike
Comment Written 21-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 21-Feb-2024
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Thank you for your caring review. It's nice to get the positive feedback from people, that I have somehow connected with them.
Comment from lyenochka
Thanks for sharing and I can't imagine how your family tolerated your father. Although "lawyer" and "liar" is a well known pun as in the Jim Carrey movie, "Liar, Liar." No wonder you had such a hard time needing to cover for everyone.
I wasn't sure how to understand this sentence and whether it was meant to be two sentences:
"why I would want to sabotage everything With that turned adult child fabrication. "
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2024
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Thanks for sharing and I can't imagine how your family tolerated your father. Although "lawyer" and "liar" is a well known pun as in the Jim Carrey movie, "Liar, Liar." No wonder you had such a hard time needing to cover for everyone.
I wasn't sure how to understand this sentence and whether it was meant to be two sentences:
"why I would want to sabotage everything With that turned adult child fabrication. "
Comment Written 20-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 20-Feb-2024
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Thank you for your involved. Review you're right a lying lawyer. A lawyer we lie for.
That troubling sentence is supposed to say:Why would want to sabotage everything with that learned adult child fabrication?
Comment from Jasmine Girl
This narrative is a compelling testament to the transformative power of introspection and self-awareness. Through its candid portrayal of personal struggles and redemption, it serves as a poignant reminder of the importance of honesty, vulnerability, and genuine human connection in navigating life's challenges.
Well done.
reply by the author on 19-Feb-2024
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This narrative is a compelling testament to the transformative power of introspection and self-awareness. Through its candid portrayal of personal struggles and redemption, it serves as a poignant reminder of the importance of honesty, vulnerability, and genuine human connection in navigating life's challenges.
Well done.
Comment Written 19-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 19-Feb-2024
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Thank you for your insightful supportive review. You have come up with some very good observations.
Comment from Carol Hillebrenner
Your reasons for lying were drummed into you by your family, who had you lie often. You have a few problems to fix: I will (deviate) . .. . . . my (someone) had called . . . . . . sabotage everything: I don't understand the rest of this sentence or 2 sentences.
reply by the author on 18-Feb-2024
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Your reasons for lying were drummed into you by your family, who had you lie often. You have a few problems to fix: I will (deviate) . .. . . . my (someone) had called . . . . . . sabotage everything: I don't understand the rest of this sentence or 2 sentences.
Comment Written 18-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 18-Feb-2024
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Thank you for your supportive review I appreciate it.
it is supposed to say learned adult child behavior .... I totally made up the story that I had unplugged the tensor light outside. She shocked me because she said "I ( meaning her)
unplugged it." That was a nail in the coffin of our relationship.
Comment from Elizabeth Walton
This is beautifully written. It is an important subject and is also a very interesting read. As a mother of an adult child with Asperger's I am touched by this genuine account of an adult child. I do not know if the author has a disability as it is not evident in this well written piece. However, I can relate to this and think others will too. Very well done!
reply by the author on 18-Feb-2024
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This is beautifully written. It is an important subject and is also a very interesting read. As a mother of an adult child with Asperger's I am touched by this genuine account of an adult child. I do not know if the author has a disability as it is not evident in this well written piece. However, I can relate to this and think others will too. Very well done!
Comment Written 18-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 18-Feb-2024
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Thank you for your vulnerable review. I have ADD which has gotten me in a lot of trouble. Other than that no discernible disability.
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You're welcome. Good luck to you and God bless.
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***Smile***
Comment from LateBloomer
Hi Liz, when children are taught to lie, and taught that it is ok to lie, it becomes so easy for them to lie. I've seen this story before, and it is a very sad one. Also, children imitate what they see. If they see their father, and perhaps their mother too, get up and go to work every day, that is something that they will desire to do as well. Positive role models are of the utmost importance when children are growing up and their minds are still developing.
Of special note:
I told her I unplugged the tensor lamp.
(Liz, I'm being candid ... that was probably a lie that didn't need to be told or said. Ouch! That one stung and was a life changing-moment.)
I'm awaiting the next chapter. Perhaps, I'll learn if you get a second new sweater or if you mom was talented enough to duplicate it?
Well done; well told. Margaret ~ LateBloomer
reply by the author on 18-Feb-2024
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Hi Liz, when children are taught to lie, and taught that it is ok to lie, it becomes so easy for them to lie. I've seen this story before, and it is a very sad one. Also, children imitate what they see. If they see their father, and perhaps their mother too, get up and go to work every day, that is something that they will desire to do as well. Positive role models are of the utmost importance when children are growing up and their minds are still developing.
Of special note:
I told her I unplugged the tensor lamp.
(Liz, I'm being candid ... that was probably a lie that didn't need to be told or said. Ouch! That one stung and was a life changing-moment.)
I'm awaiting the next chapter. Perhaps, I'll learn if you get a second new sweater or if you mom was talented enough to duplicate it?
Well done; well told. Margaret ~ LateBloomer
Comment Written 18-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 18-Feb-2024
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Thank you for your supportive review. The answer to your question is revealed in the next chapter.
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Thumbs up. Big-teeth smile. M
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A grin and a squint... The way I could be picked out in a picture when I was younger
Comment from patcelaw
I was not the child of the father who was alcoholic, but my father did cause us children have to lie. We would go to the county fair or the state fair, and he would tell us that we had to say we were under 12 years of age even though we were over 12, so we were lying. To stay out of trouble many times, we would tell lies, which was the only way we could get by with something. It took me a while to learn that I needed to tell the truth and the truth sometimes hurts, but it was something that helped me greatly. My time of reckoning came when I was pregnant with my son that I had become pregnant with his result of rape, and I had to explain it to my mother. She was very angry with me, and almost disowned me, because I would refuse to have an abortion . Patricia .
reply by the author on 18-Feb-2024
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I was not the child of the father who was alcoholic, but my father did cause us children have to lie. We would go to the county fair or the state fair, and he would tell us that we had to say we were under 12 years of age even though we were over 12, so we were lying. To stay out of trouble many times, we would tell lies, which was the only way we could get by with something. It took me a while to learn that I needed to tell the truth and the truth sometimes hurts, but it was something that helped me greatly. My time of reckoning came when I was pregnant with my son that I had become pregnant with his result of rape, and I had to explain it to my mother. She was very angry with me, and almost disowned me, because I would refuse to have an abortion . Patricia .
Comment Written 18-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 18-Feb-2024
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Thank you for your vulnerable review. I am sad for what you had to go through and I hope now at this point you have resolved much of it and know that it basically had nothing to do with you.
Comment from jim vecchio
This was an excellent recount of the difficulties that motivated you in your truth fabrication. Since I accepted Christ, I have tried my best always to tell the truth, and that way, I don't have to think about what I previously said. This was a meaningful tale.
reply by the author on 18-Feb-2024
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This was an excellent recount of the difficulties that motivated you in your truth fabrication. Since I accepted Christ, I have tried my best always to tell the truth, and that way, I don't have to think about what I previously said. This was a meaningful tale.
Comment Written 18-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 18-Feb-2024
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Thank you for your vulnerable preview. I appreciate what you've shared.
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I appreciate your writing always!
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Thank you, I hope it heals and helps people
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I believe it's touched many hearts!
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Thank you, dearly.
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Your words are always precious!
Comment from barbara.wilkey
We do seem to cover up for our parents when they show qualities that really aren't parenting. We become the adult. Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm sure others will identify, and it will help them.
reply by the author on 18-Feb-2024
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We do seem to cover up for our parents when they show qualities that really aren't parenting. We become the adult. Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm sure others will identify, and it will help them.
Comment Written 18-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 18-Feb-2024
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Thank you for your insightful review you are right. We have to become the adult. That didn't even occur to me. Oh that's why we're called adult children. What a concept. Thank you
