A Particular Friendship
Viewing comments for Chapter 3 " No Particular Friendships "We meet Lizzy who has just come out of the convent
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Comment from LateBloomer
Hi Liz, you had years of loneliness. The "loss" of your friendship with Marie must have been a heartbreak. How you were able to keep all of this to yourself must have been too much to bear?
Of Note:
The place at the table where Marie always sat didn't exist. As if she were never there, the Sisters she had sat between, were silently now sitting beside each in the place her chair used to be.
(Very sad, and high sensory appeal.)
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I just had to renew my old favorite ways of numbing myself...sugar.
Well done; well told. Keep the blue waters flowing. Margaret
reply by the author on 12-Jan-2024
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Hi Liz, you had years of loneliness. The "loss" of your friendship with Marie must have been a heartbreak. How you were able to keep all of this to yourself must have been too much to bear?
Of Note:
The place at the table where Marie always sat didn't exist. As if she were never there, the Sisters she had sat between, were silently now sitting beside each in the place her chair used to be.
(Very sad, and high sensory appeal.)
Also:
I just had to renew my old favorite ways of numbing myself...sugar.
Well done; well told. Keep the blue waters flowing. Margaret
Comment Written 12-Jan-2024
reply by the author on 12-Jan-2024
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Wow, you read and reviewed another chapter. Thank you for going the extra mile.
Comment from Karen Cherry Threadgill
My head would actually have exploded. They would still be finding little bits and pieces of me for years to come. How in the world did you last so long there? They would have driven me out with shouts of "Get away from me Satan"! Good Writing. Karen
reply by the author on 21-Sep-2023
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My head would actually have exploded. They would still be finding little bits and pieces of me for years to come. How in the world did you last so long there? They would have driven me out with shouts of "Get away from me Satan"! Good Writing. Karen
Comment Written 21-Sep-2023
reply by the author on 21-Sep-2023
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Whoa, you will definitely get nominated next month. This is a great review. Thank you
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I am enjoying your tales of daring do! You quietly rebelled. I like that in a person.
Karen
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***Snicker***
Comment from eliz100
In one sense, this sounds a bit like the marine philosophy. Break the marine down to nothing and build him up a marine. But the nunnery deals with a woman's soul, which could be spiritually dangerous. Where was Christ's love? I do not see any room for improvement. Have a blessed day.
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2023
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In one sense, this sounds a bit like the marine philosophy. Break the marine down to nothing and build him up a marine. But the nunnery deals with a woman's soul, which could be spiritually dangerous. Where was Christ's love? I do not see any room for improvement. Have a blessed day.
Comment Written 21-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2023
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We were told about our need to build our love for Jesus but it really never entered any conversation. I'm often said that the people in the 12-step program are more spiritual than the nuns were. There was so much room for us to be able to discuss how Jesus was helping us in our life and how are spirituality was growing but there was none of that. You've brought out a good point for me that I didn't really think of I tell you in doing this writing I am having even more moments of clarity. Thank you for your review.
Comment from Wayne Fowler
Very nicely written. Good work.
my book â??The Torâ?? comparing it - these can be cleaned up in edit mode.
I can half see the reasoning behind the ban on particular friendships, but it still seems like an awful human experience.
Best wishes.
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2023
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Very nicely written. Good work.
my book â??The Torâ?? comparing it - these can be cleaned up in edit mode.
I can half see the reasoning behind the ban on particular friendships, but it still seems like an awful human experience.
Best wishes.
Comment Written 21-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2023
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Thank you for your review. I guess I didn't realize how things were going til much later.
Comment from lyenochka
Sorry to get to this so late. I'm so sad to hear how your friendship was impeded by that "austere" situation. Did you ever get in contact with Marie after leaving the monastery?
I did meet with my friend from the monastery last week. She looked good and I don't think she has had that kind of experience. She's been a nun for 32 years now. But she joined when she was older than you were.
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2023
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Sorry to get to this so late. I'm so sad to hear how your friendship was impeded by that "austere" situation. Did you ever get in contact with Marie after leaving the monastery?
I did meet with my friend from the monastery last week. She looked good and I don't think she has had that kind of experience. She's been a nun for 32 years now. But she joined when she was older than you were.
Comment Written 21-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2023
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Thank you for your review as always. I think the fact that your friend joined later probably made a big difference also I was just a kid 19 years old boy out of high school. To answer your question about Marie, no, I just thing it would be too sad to connect with her. I jave no idea how she feels about the whole experence of being in the convent & leaving.
I'm actually connected with my other women from those others who left.
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I'm glad you are in touch with the other women. So glad that you got out safe and sane!
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Thank you ...unlike the 16 Century lifetime
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One of the women is the one who is Sammy's foster mom I write about in Bea 3. We made friends about a year before we entered, & have stayed connected since.
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That's good! My friend is visiting her disabled brother now. So I'm impressed that the monastery pays for her travel to visit family.
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Yes that is impressive isn't it ?but one of the mandates we are supposed to follow is 'visit the sick 'so she would have a good case if they wouldn't let her go.
Not that everything is political but now most everything is political.
Comment from BethShelby
It doesn't sound as though you were happy at all to be there. Were you not free to leave if you wanted to? It really sounds like a miserable existence and I'm not sure why more don't leave. I wonder if it is different today than when you were there. Your story is written well and I can see how it would be therapeutic.
reply by the author on 19-Aug-2023
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It doesn't sound as though you were happy at all to be there. Were you not free to leave if you wanted to? It really sounds like a miserable existence and I'm not sure why more don't leave. I wonder if it is different today than when you were there. Your story is written well and I can see how it would be therapeutic.
Comment Written 19-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 19-Aug-2023
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Thank you for your caring involved review. I appreciate it. I think disfunctional relationships are like if you and I were sitting and it began to become dark but we didn't really notice it it didn't click in our head. Then one of us says oh my gosh we need to turn the light on it's getting dark and then the other person said it. That's what progressively dysfunctional relationships are like it's not obvious at once it has to seep it and then what do you do.
Comment from Carol Hillebrenner
This seems like a place to suffer for no special reason. With your ability to write stories, especially fiction, it must have gotten harder and harder every year. Did you being a nun make someone in the family feel safer. My friend became a priest because his mother insisted at least one of her children become a nun and one a priest. The day she died, he left the priesthood, married, and has two cute kids.
reply by the author on 19-Aug-2023
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This seems like a place to suffer for no special reason. With your ability to write stories, especially fiction, it must have gotten harder and harder every year. Did you being a nun make someone in the family feel safer. My friend became a priest because his mother insisted at least one of her children become a nun and one a priest. The day she died, he left the priesthood, married, and has two cute kids.
Comment Written 18-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 19-Aug-2023
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Thank you for your involved review.
Actually no one in my family was hot on the idea. Girls who have been molested, either become promisuous or super religious. I chose the latter.
Comment from aryr
This was a fantastic continuation chapter, Liz. This definitely painted the picture of isolation and of solitude. I don't know how you survived as long as you did. I think I would have willed myself to die. Blessings n Hugs!!!
reply by the author on 19-Aug-2023
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This was a fantastic continuation chapter, Liz. This definitely painted the picture of isolation and of solitude. I don't know how you survived as long as you did. I think I would have willed myself to die. Blessings n Hugs!!!
Comment Written 18-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 19-Aug-2023
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It changed into just keeping busy teaching, then working as an advocate for abuse victims. Several ironies there, I know.
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You are so very welcome, Liz.
Comment from country ranch writer
The convent when you enter is to represent you marriage to God and he was the only you served by obeying the head mistress and her staff. It is a life of solitude mostly spent in prayer or in the kitchen baking or preparing meals for others. A harsh life for the very young who enter the convent at an early age.
reply by the author on 19-Aug-2023
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The convent when you enter is to represent you marriage to God and he was the only you served by obeying the head mistress and her staff. It is a life of solitude mostly spent in prayer or in the kitchen baking or preparing meals for others. A harsh life for the very young who enter the convent at an early age.
Comment Written 18-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 19-Aug-2023
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So true. At some point God gave me the message that I could do the same things out of the convent as I was doing in the convent. & I have.
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Comment from Iza Deleanu
I understand your anguish, and after all, convent or not, we are all people. Thank you for sharing and good luck with your writings and the next chapter.
reply by the author on 19-Aug-2023
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I understand your anguish, and after all, convent or not, we are all people. Thank you for sharing and good luck with your writings and the next chapter.
Comment Written 18-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 19-Aug-2023
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Thank you for your caring review. I appreciate it.
