Hurts To Say Goodbye
A study in excessive mourning50 total reviews
Comment from Joanne Gill-Maddick
This is a beautifully written poem. It has A great flow and rhyme scheme. I can relate to your poem. I've lost within the last three years my niece, my mother, a sister two brothers and one of my best friends. I feel like I'm consumed by grief. I don't know how to get past it. A great write.
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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This is a beautifully written poem. It has A great flow and rhyme scheme. I can relate to your poem. I've lost within the last three years my niece, my mother, a sister two brothers and one of my best friends. I feel like I'm consumed by grief. I don't know how to get past it. A great write.
Comment Written 18-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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First , please allow me to say how sorry I am to learn of your great losses. Secondly, I thank you for your kind remarks about my poem. You are appreciated.
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Thank you
Comment from Brandon Clark
Exquisitely crafted and read incredibly smoothly, in part, due to your supreme word choice and writing style in general!
Well done and don't stop posting your great writings!
Brandon
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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Exquisitely crafted and read incredibly smoothly, in part, due to your supreme word choice and writing style in general!
Well done and don't stop posting your great writings!
Brandon
Comment Written 18-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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Thank you very much Brandon. I have no intention on ever not writing as long as I am able.
Comment from dragonpoet
Hi Norman,
Mourning is a good thing if you let yourself go through the steps and let others help you. But as you say obsessive mourning is unhealthy.
I think the question you ask in the middle of the poem is a wise one.
Letting go is as food for those on Earth as those souls waiting to be on their way.
Keep writing and stay healthy.
Joan
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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Hi Norman,
Mourning is a good thing if you let yourself go through the steps and let others help you. But as you say obsessive mourning is unhealthy.
I think the question you ask in the middle of the poem is a wise one.
Letting go is as food for those on Earth as those souls waiting to be on their way.
Keep writing and stay healthy.
Joan
Comment Written 18-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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Thank you Joan. I fully realize how hard it can be to let go. The lesson to learn is that the person who has died is already gone from you. What you are holding on to is a memory, a feeling. You should not allow that to inprison you.
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No problem, Norman. That is right.
Joan
Comment from LJbutterfly
This poem speaks truth. I lost my mother when I was age thirty-eight. a year later, I was still crying. We all grieve the death of a loved one, but it is healthy to remember the good things, and let them go. Great picture, and great message.
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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This poem speaks truth. I lost my mother when I was age thirty-eight. a year later, I was still crying. We all grieve the death of a loved one, but it is healthy to remember the good things, and let them go. Great picture, and great message.
Comment Written 18-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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Thank you, I have had to mourn mother, father, sister and daughter in short succession. Each one hurt immeasurably. As I am still standing I honor their memory by trying to live the best life that is left to me.
Comment from LateBloomer
Hi Nomi, with the passing of Easter, this is a timely poem--the Resurrection of Jesus Christ. Your poem reads and flows well, and your message is clear. Of special note:
"How can the deceased find release if we refuse to let them go?"
(Nomi, this is so true. When my mother was dying, she asked that I let her go. I told her that I could not, and she said, "Why, I am of no use to anyone?" I told her that I still need her love and wisdom, and that was (partly) the last conversation that I had with my mother.)
N, thank you for your author's notes. This writing will be helpful to anyone who is struggling with the death, or soon-to-be-death, of a loved one. Well done. Appropriate, well-chosen photo choice.
Keep the blue waters flowing. Xo. M
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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Hi Nomi, with the passing of Easter, this is a timely poem--the Resurrection of Jesus Christ. Your poem reads and flows well, and your message is clear. Of special note:
"How can the deceased find release if we refuse to let them go?"
(Nomi, this is so true. When my mother was dying, she asked that I let her go. I told her that I could not, and she said, "Why, I am of no use to anyone?" I told her that I still need her love and wisdom, and that was (partly) the last conversation that I had with my mother.)
N, thank you for your author's notes. This writing will be helpful to anyone who is struggling with the death, or soon-to-be-death, of a loved one. Well done. Appropriate, well-chosen photo choice.
Keep the blue waters flowing. Xo. M
Comment Written 18-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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Thank you so much. I was prompted to write this because of a relative who is mourning his grand mother so deeply he is raising concerns for his mental state, and he is a newly ordained pastor.
Comment from Jannypan (Jan)
You did a great job, Nomi, with your poignant poem.
I liked the formatting and the internal rhyming in each
line. Your message is clear--letting go doesn't mean
forgetting anyone. My Dad has been gone 38 years,
Mother 24 years, Liz 4 years, Tim 2 years and all grandparents.
Thanks for sharing, Jan
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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You did a great job, Nomi, with your poignant poem.
I liked the formatting and the internal rhyming in each
line. Your message is clear--letting go doesn't mean
forgetting anyone. My Dad has been gone 38 years,
Mother 24 years, Liz 4 years, Tim 2 years and all grandparents.
Thanks for sharing, Jan
Comment Written 18-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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Thank you Jan. Seriously, if your writing does not serve a purpose, other than to annoy, why do you write? I get maximum satisfaction and gratification when I learn that something I wrote affected someone in a positive way. I feel then that my gift has not been wasted.
Comment from shelley kaye
ooh intriguing and thought-provoking poem with very interesting theme
good rhyme
one suggestion i have is maybe dividing the lines to make them shorter?
One day my beloved father died,
and for an entire month, I cried.
While I was busy mourning him,
my family felt I deserted them.
I would let no one console me,
ignoring all the things they told me.
Grandmother, a wise old head, finally said,
"There is something I'd like to know."
"How can the deceased find release
if we refuse to let them go?"
All who have died remain alive,
In the memory of our creator.
Many of them you never knew,
so whose memory do you think is greater?
Our God is greater
than anyone ever elected,
He has promised many now dead,
may one day be resurrected.
just a few thoughts ;)
thank you for sharing
shelley :)
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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ooh intriguing and thought-provoking poem with very interesting theme
good rhyme
one suggestion i have is maybe dividing the lines to make them shorter?
One day my beloved father died,
and for an entire month, I cried.
While I was busy mourning him,
my family felt I deserted them.
I would let no one console me,
ignoring all the things they told me.
Grandmother, a wise old head, finally said,
"There is something I'd like to know."
"How can the deceased find release
if we refuse to let them go?"
All who have died remain alive,
In the memory of our creator.
Many of them you never knew,
so whose memory do you think is greater?
Our God is greater
than anyone ever elected,
He has promised many now dead,
may one day be resurrected.
just a few thoughts ;)
thank you for sharing
shelley :)
Comment Written 18-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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I originally wrote it just like that, but decided to try it in an elongated way in the end. I thank you for your review comments.
Comment from karenina
What a thought-provoking poem! Better, I think, to hold on to memories rather than pain ~ and thereby release the spirits of our loved ones to move on to that eternal plane of peace and serenity. Faith tells us we will meet again. As an RN caring for many terminal patients, I always sensed a change in the "tension" of the hospital room when/if a family member said to my patient "It's okay to go now, I will always love you..."
Perhaps the greatest gift we can give our departed loved ones is to release them!
Karenina
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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What a thought-provoking poem! Better, I think, to hold on to memories rather than pain ~ and thereby release the spirits of our loved ones to move on to that eternal plane of peace and serenity. Faith tells us we will meet again. As an RN caring for many terminal patients, I always sensed a change in the "tension" of the hospital room when/if a family member said to my patient "It's okay to go now, I will always love you..."
Perhaps the greatest gift we can give our departed loved ones is to release them!
Karenina
Comment Written 18-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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You are very wise and attentive to the feelings and emotions of those around you. I sensed that from my first experience of you. I truly feel and believe that you are are a gifted individual.
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Thank you! I am merely responding to your gifted words...
Comment from pome lover
that's true, and like you said, over-long grieving affects the rest of the people around that person. And, I've always heard it said that the person who died, wouldn't want it, anyway.
Good for Grandma, and congrats for being recognized.
Katharine
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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that's true, and like you said, over-long grieving affects the rest of the people around that person. And, I've always heard it said that the person who died, wouldn't want it, anyway.
Good for Grandma, and congrats for being recognized.
Katharine
Comment Written 18-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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Thank you very much for your wonderfully voiced feelings.
Comment from barbara.wilkey
I also believe we must let those we've lost go. I understand it's hard to do. I lost an infant son to a heart condition. He died during open heart surgery. One doesn't ever forget, but they learn to live with it through God's help. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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I also believe we must let those we've lost go. I understand it's hard to do. I lost an infant son to a heart condition. He died during open heart surgery. One doesn't ever forget, but they learn to live with it through God's help. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.
Comment Written 18-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 18-Apr-2023
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Thank you for your kind and supportive comments.
