Hurts To Say Goodbye
A study in excessive mourning50 total reviews
Comment from Ric Myworld
As creatures of habit, which most of us are, we don't do well with loss or change of pace or patterns. And with the loss of a loved one, we stay stuck on the permanency, never realizing the possibility we can all meet again on streets of gold, knowing each other as we were on earth. Thanks for sharing.
reply by the author on 22-Apr-2023
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As creatures of habit, which most of us are, we don't do well with loss or change of pace or patterns. And with the loss of a loved one, we stay stuck on the permanency, never realizing the possibility we can all meet again on streets of gold, knowing each other as we were on earth. Thanks for sharing.
Comment Written 21-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 22-Apr-2023
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I agree 100%. Some things and some people are easy to let go of. There are some people who have been in my life that I let go of even before their demise.
Comment from l.raven
Hi Nolan, I do soooo wish I had a six for
your poem my sweet friend...
I am so sorry for the loss of both of your
parents...I do know how it feels to lose a loved
one...I know we have to let them go...but sometimes
memories bring them back...and I know there becomes
a time when you can think of them...and smile...
I love your poem sweet guy...and your picture says it all...
God Bless...Love Linda xxoo
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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Hi Nolan, I do soooo wish I had a six for
your poem my sweet friend...
I am so sorry for the loss of both of your
parents...I do know how it feels to lose a loved
one...I know we have to let them go...but sometimes
memories bring them back...and I know there becomes
a time when you can think of them...and smile...
I love your poem sweet guy...and your picture says it all...
God Bless...Love Linda xxoo
Comment Written 21-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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It is perfectly okay to recall the memory of a deceased loved one or dear friend even. What is toxic, is the refusing to acknowledge that the one you lost is gone and should not be morbidly held onto. Thank you for your fine review comments.
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your so welcome my sweet friend...
always...love xxoo 🙏🙏💕🌼
Comment from kiwisteveh
It must be the day for gloomy poems - I have just posted one myself and the one above yours on the list is similar in some ways.
here your philosophy is that we must not remain bogged down by grief to the extent that it interferes with the normal conduct of our lives. A thought-provoking piece.
Steve
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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It must be the day for gloomy poems - I have just posted one myself and the one above yours on the list is similar in some ways.
here your philosophy is that we must not remain bogged down by grief to the extent that it interferes with the normal conduct of our lives. A thought-provoking piece.
Steve
Comment Written 20-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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You are spot on Steve. Thank you for your comments.
Comment from Nicki Nance
Sounds like Grandmother was a wise woman. I sometimes write in first person to represent a group that needs a voice. For me, the complexity of that process can be daunting. You seem to do it effortlessly.
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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Sounds like Grandmother was a wise woman. I sometimes write in first person to represent a group that needs a voice. For me, the complexity of that process can be daunting. You seem to do it effortlessly.
Comment Written 20-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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Thank you Nicki. Your words make me smile widely. It is a pleasure to make your acquaintance.
Comment from Mintybee
This is a touching and comforting statement on grief. Many people do withdraw during mourning. Many people are comforted by the idea of resurrection. When I lost my grandmother, I didn't find the idea of a heavenly reunion that comforting, because I missed her in the present. But when I lost a baby, I was very comforted to think that one day I'd meet him and get to see who he'd grow up to be. We've all been affected by grief, so this was very relatable.
Mintybee
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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This is a touching and comforting statement on grief. Many people do withdraw during mourning. Many people are comforted by the idea of resurrection. When I lost my grandmother, I didn't find the idea of a heavenly reunion that comforting, because I missed her in the present. But when I lost a baby, I was very comforted to think that one day I'd meet him and get to see who he'd grow up to be. We've all been affected by grief, so this was very relatable.
Mintybee
Comment Written 20-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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As I am sorry for your loss, I thank you for your comments. Think about it, your reunion has only been delayed by time and circumstance.
Comment from Rosemary Everson1
My mom always told me when you lose a mom or a dad, it is difficult on a family; but they say losing a child is worse. Your poem is very touching; the mourning process takes a while to process. Sympathy!
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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My mom always told me when you lose a mom or a dad, it is difficult on a family; but they say losing a child is worse. Your poem is very touching; the mourning process takes a while to process. Sympathy!
Comment Written 20-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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I believe that it is not only okay to mourn, it is necessary. It becomes toxic when after a reasonable time, you are still frozen in place, unable to move on with your life. It is almost as if two people died, you and the one you mourn.
Comment from Kaiku
A lot being said in this post. A wise grandmother as most were in their day. I wonder if grandmothers of tomorrow will receive such praise as the world is different. Let's hope so. Good work.
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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A lot being said in this post. A wise grandmother as most were in their day. I wonder if grandmothers of tomorrow will receive such praise as the world is different. Let's hope so. Good work.
Comment Written 20-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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Thank you so much. The jury is out on the subject of future grandmothers. I fear they will be all over Twitter, Facebook and the like, looking for likes.
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For sure.
Comment from Debbie D'Arcy
A poignant expression of your grief following your loss and maybe a feeling of being stuck and unable to escape the anguish you feel. The advice and resolution in this lovely verse is to release that sense of responsibility to God who will always keep your father alive. Thanks for sharing this sensitively written post, Debbie
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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A poignant expression of your grief following your loss and maybe a feeling of being stuck and unable to escape the anguish you feel. The advice and resolution in this lovely verse is to release that sense of responsibility to God who will always keep your father alive. Thanks for sharing this sensitively written post, Debbie
Comment Written 20-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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Tank you Debbie, I appreciate your kind words and wishes.
Comment from mermaids
I enjoyed reading your words. "How can the deceased find release if we refuse to let them go?" This is such a line of wisdom, we have to let go and live. As a widow of one year, your poem is a learning tool for me. Excellent theme, nothing less than a six.
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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I enjoyed reading your words. "How can the deceased find release if we refuse to let them go?" This is such a line of wisdom, we have to let go and live. As a widow of one year, your poem is a learning tool for me. Excellent theme, nothing less than a six.
Comment Written 20-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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Thank you so much. I never dared think for a moment that this poem would resonate with so many people. I am overwhelmed and grateful that it has had such an effect on so many.
Comment from Gypsy Blue Rose
I know what you mean, nomination. It's very hard to let go of the ones we love but it's what the spirit and the one left behind need.
Good job
Gypsy
"Poetry heals the wounds inflicted by reason" -- Novalis
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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I know what you mean, nomination. It's very hard to let go of the ones we love but it's what the spirit and the one left behind need.
Good job
Gypsy
"Poetry heals the wounds inflicted by reason" -- Novalis
Comment Written 20-Apr-2023
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2023
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Your words are very wise and I thank you for them.
