Our lives through 1970
More thorns, but roses a plenty (1095 words)8 total reviews
Comment from Caressa_08
Maybe, Pat, during this time, in your story here, your mom was not even aware that she needed to thank you for your kindness....It seemed like, yes, you were taken for granted.....Though, being she was getting up in age, maybe she was going through something, besides getting over her medical problem...At least you didn't raise your kids like she raised you...And, her treatment of you, & how your dad seemed so abusive, was, for you, possibly a gradual wake-up call, and, too, when you realized later on & all the other events that occurred,.....Then, you became a Christian & was blessed with a good husband & wonderful daughters that you truly loved....Really think young people who married in past decades, before the 1950's & before, were immature & really didn't realize what they were getting into when they got married & so many children came, like they (she) didn't know what to do...Like the Mother Goose nursery rhyme ( old woman lived in a shoe)....to raise them all properly....Though, can't deny they're are still young, immature young couples out there that marry for all the reasons not fully understanding what marriage can bring....And, all the divorces nowadays, are the result.
Your surgery, which seems to had to be necessary...I have problems for so many years now & finally hope there might be a solution..... Childbearing can cause so many problems for some.....Varicose veins, too, I have a big problem, on my legs, etc. to contend with...& too, they can be everywhere, And, like your story told....even in a woman's uterus.
Thanks for sharing your honest story..Caressa
reply by the author on 14-Nov-2014
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Maybe, Pat, during this time, in your story here, your mom was not even aware that she needed to thank you for your kindness....It seemed like, yes, you were taken for granted.....Though, being she was getting up in age, maybe she was going through something, besides getting over her medical problem...At least you didn't raise your kids like she raised you...And, her treatment of you, & how your dad seemed so abusive, was, for you, possibly a gradual wake-up call, and, too, when you realized later on & all the other events that occurred,.....Then, you became a Christian & was blessed with a good husband & wonderful daughters that you truly loved....Really think young people who married in past decades, before the 1950's & before, were immature & really didn't realize what they were getting into when they got married & so many children came, like they (she) didn't know what to do...Like the Mother Goose nursery rhyme ( old woman lived in a shoe)....to raise them all properly....Though, can't deny they're are still young, immature young couples out there that marry for all the reasons not fully understanding what marriage can bring....And, all the divorces nowadays, are the result.
Your surgery, which seems to had to be necessary...I have problems for so many years now & finally hope there might be a solution..... Childbearing can cause so many problems for some.....Varicose veins, too, I have a big problem, on my legs, etc. to contend with...& too, they can be everywhere, And, like your story told....even in a woman's uterus.
Thanks for sharing your honest story..Caressa
Comment Written 14-Nov-2014
reply by the author on 14-Nov-2014
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Thanks so much for a very thoughtful review. I really think my mother knew in the very first year of her marriage she had made a terrible mistake. Her attitude probably stemmed from her anger toward my dad than anger with us as her children. Possibly she never resolved her anger.
Comment from Sankey
and giggle.Ã? -this is an FS error for some reason
The following is a repeat of what you write earlier. Was not sure why you did that."My health was still declining until finally in September of 1966 my doctor finally determined I needed to have a hysterectomy. Surgery was scheduled for mid October. Before surgery could be done, I had to be examined by three doctors since I was to have a hysterectomy, these exams were required by law. The exams were painful so the third doctor would not do an exam, but rather signed off for the surgery to be done. I was in the hospital five days."
Great story thanks for sharing. So much suffering and a rotten Mother.
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2014
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and giggle.Ã? -this is an FS error for some reason
The following is a repeat of what you write earlier. Was not sure why you did that."My health was still declining until finally in September of 1966 my doctor finally determined I needed to have a hysterectomy. Surgery was scheduled for mid October. Before surgery could be done, I had to be examined by three doctors since I was to have a hysterectomy, these exams were required by law. The exams were painful so the third doctor would not do an exam, but rather signed off for the surgery to be done. I was in the hospital five days."
Great story thanks for sharing. So much suffering and a rotten Mother.
Comment Written 13-Nov-2014
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2014
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Thanks for the review. I was in so very much pain that being on my feet for 10 minutes at a time was almost unbearable. I did the best I could do and my husband helped me as much as he could. I loved motherhood after I got well. My mother did not know how to tank anyone.
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We have some Missionaries in Romania who are a bit like the Japanese are about "Sorry"...they don't have "Thankyou" in their vocab. I might write a poem about that I feel like especially Missionaries might regret not being thankful some day.
Comment from boxergirl
Wow. Last last description of your uterus helps the reader understand why you were in so much pain. I enjoyed the family stories about the pool and with the teacher.
reply by the author on 12-Nov-2014
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Wow. Last last description of your uterus helps the reader understand why you were in so much pain. I enjoyed the family stories about the pool and with the teacher.
Comment Written 12-Nov-2014
reply by the author on 12-Nov-2014
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Thanks for the review. The 2 years were not something I never want to experience again. That was enough pain for a lifetime, however there is another physically painful time coming in a later chapter.
Comment from emrpoems
Very interesting part of your life. Not always a happy part but you handled it well and that is what matters.
I love how you stood with the teacher to help your daughter conform
reply by the author on 12-Nov-2014
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Very interesting part of your life. Not always a happy part but you handled it well and that is what matters.
I love how you stood with the teacher to help your daughter conform
Comment Written 12-Nov-2014
reply by the author on 12-Nov-2014
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I had no choice but to handle it. It was just life. As a good mother I had to srand up to the teacher and help her undestand, I could only do so much from home.
Comment from Jacqueline M Franklin
Hi, Pat,
Whew, what a time you must have had until they figured out what was wrong with you.
Imagine, a teacher actually listening to the parent. Interesting concept.
Enjoyable story---thx for sharing.
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-daddy as he was mowing around th(e) shrubs.
-102.6 degrees, at about 4:30 P.M.[.]
Cheers & Blessings
Keep Smilin'... Jax (*.*)
reply by the author on 12-Nov-2014
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Hi, Pat,
Whew, what a time you must have had until they figured out what was wrong with you.
Imagine, a teacher actually listening to the parent. Interesting concept.
Enjoyable story---thx for sharing.
~~ [ ] delete ( ) add
-daddy as he was mowing around th(e) shrubs.
-102.6 degrees, at about 4:30 P.M.[.]
Cheers & Blessings
Keep Smilin'... Jax (*.*)
Comment Written 12-Nov-2014
reply by the author on 12-Nov-2014
thanks for the review.
I have a computer right now so cannot make corrections yet
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thanks for the review. I have a computer problems right now so cannot make corrections yet
Comment from Genya
Really interesting part of your life. I know what you went through having an hysterectomy as I had one not long after the birth of my son. He was a twin, but the twin died inside me, caused terrible problems. Your problems were far worse than mine. I carried on as normal. How hard it must have been for you with so much pain and the children. Such a shame your mother couldn't help more when you really needed it. Really enjoyed this. Genya
reply by the author on 12-Nov-2014
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Really interesting part of your life. I know what you went through having an hysterectomy as I had one not long after the birth of my son. He was a twin, but the twin died inside me, caused terrible problems. Your problems were far worse than mine. I carried on as normal. How hard it must have been for you with so much pain and the children. Such a shame your mother couldn't help more when you really needed it. Really enjoyed this. Genya
Comment Written 12-Nov-2014
reply by the author on 12-Nov-2014
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Thanks you so much for the review. Yes, it was a difficult time in my life.
Comment from Thewriterwithnoname
All that you have here is well written and I can tell that you have trimmed all of that fat from it to make it as lean and effective as possible, but my concern is that it's a bit too lean. You cover so much ground here but some of these demand to be expanded on more. Tell us more about the hysterectomy, about your garden, about your daughter's issues in school. They could all be chapters.
reply by the author on 12-Nov-2014
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All that you have here is well written and I can tell that you have trimmed all of that fat from it to make it as lean and effective as possible, but my concern is that it's a bit too lean. You cover so much ground here but some of these demand to be expanded on more. Tell us more about the hysterectomy, about your garden, about your daughter's issues in school. They could all be chapters.
Comment Written 12-Nov-2014
reply by the author on 12-Nov-2014
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Thank you for the review. I know it is lean. along the way I plan to do stand alone stories of some of the rials, the victories and other things.
Comment from GracieAnn
Pat, this is a story that is about life and all its challenges and rewarding memories. It is well written. Just a thought or two. The red font is a little hard on the eyes. Also in the sub title the word plenty is misspelled. Easy to correct through the edit selection. Good job. :0 GracieAnn
reply by the author on 12-Nov-2014
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Pat, this is a story that is about life and all its challenges and rewarding memories. It is well written. Just a thought or two. The red font is a little hard on the eyes. Also in the sub title the word plenty is misspelled. Easy to correct through the edit selection. Good job. :0 GracieAnn
Comment Written 12-Nov-2014
reply by the author on 12-Nov-2014
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Thank you GracieAnne, for the nice review. There were indeed challenges and rewards in being a parent to such good children. I did change the color of the text so hope it will be easier to read.