Family Poems and Stories 2010-2017
Viewing comments for Chapter 35 "Bringing Gregory Home"...musings on us
22 total reviews
Comment from BeasPeas
If the image is of Gregory--he is a beautiful boy. All parents want their children to be safe at home. My opinion is that if he is willing to come home and adheres to the ground rules you set for him, let him stay. If, however, you find that he is not following the rules, other arrangements will have to be made. Blessings and I wish you the very best. Marilyn
reply by the author on 04-Dec-2017
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If the image is of Gregory--he is a beautiful boy. All parents want their children to be safe at home. My opinion is that if he is willing to come home and adheres to the ground rules you set for him, let him stay. If, however, you find that he is not following the rules, other arrangements will have to be made. Blessings and I wish you the very best. Marilyn
Comment Written 03-Dec-2017
reply by the author on 04-Dec-2017
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Hi, Marilyn;
Yes, this is Gregory. I've always thought it so sad that such a handsome man is gay and unavailable to women!
I'm not sure what we will do. My hubby and I, along with many of my friends, are praying about it,
~patty~
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God made all of us just the way he wanted it to be. Somethings we have a choice in (to stay addicted or not). Other things like sexuality, I believe is in the DNA, not a choice.
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That's the way I believe, too. I refrain from getting into detail too much on FanStory. There are many people that believe sexuality is a choice and not genetic. I'm learning to pick my battles and try not to offend too many people.
(at least I try...)
Comment from Natali Holden
I had no idea who Gregory is, but I just read through some of the reviews and figured it out. I think you should pray about it. See what God wants. And even after you make a decision continue praying for him. Good luck with him!
Natali ;)
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2017
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I had no idea who Gregory is, but I just read through some of the reviews and figured it out. I think you should pray about it. See what God wants. And even after you make a decision continue praying for him. Good luck with him!
Natali ;)
Comment Written 03-Dec-2017
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2017
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Hi, Natali;
Thank you for reading this bit of a plea. I appreciate your thoughts - having a 31 year old son with a drug addiction is much harder than anything else I've done as a mother,
~patty~
Comment from Cindy Warren
I'm a mom too. You can never give up on your child. It may not work out, but you have to give it your best shot. I'm sending good wishes to you and Gregory.
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2017
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I'm a mom too. You can never give up on your child. It may not work out, but you have to give it your best shot. I'm sending good wishes to you and Gregory.
Comment Written 02-Dec-2017
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2017
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Hi, Cindy;
Thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts,
~patty~
Comment from Porick1
I like the flow of the piece that you wrote. It is interesting in it's simplicity and it is clever how you made the reader seem a part of the poem.
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2017
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I like the flow of the piece that you wrote. It is interesting in it's simplicity and it is clever how you made the reader seem a part of the poem.
Comment Written 01-Dec-2017
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2017
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Thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts,
~patty~
Comment from mrsmajor
Hi,
I don't think you're being foolish at all...this might be just what he needs, perhaps he's at a turning point in his life..think of the situation in a positive way, and you'll find peace...and maybe so will he...follow your heart, as a mother, that's what I would advise...(a roof and a door, may bring him some sense of security)..Think positive!
All the Best!
Victoria
reply by the author on 30-Nov-2017
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Hi,
I don't think you're being foolish at all...this might be just what he needs, perhaps he's at a turning point in his life..think of the situation in a positive way, and you'll find peace...and maybe so will he...follow your heart, as a mother, that's what I would advise...(a roof and a door, may bring him some sense of security)..Think positive!
All the Best!
Victoria
Comment Written 30-Nov-2017
reply by the author on 30-Nov-2017
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Hi, Victoria;
Thank you so much for your warm thoughts. I think it is THE thing to do to help him find his way. My hubby agrees - we just need to set guidelines and boundaries and PRAY!!
~patty~
You're most welcome, patty, I believe in Prayer....God has blessed me through my most difficult time...and here I am...Hugs
Comment from Ulla
Hi Patty, I'm not familiar with the situation at all. So it's difficult to give any advise. All I can say is that a mother is always a mother. I'm sure you'll know when to call it a day if it came to that. Not much help, I know. All best. Ulla:)))
reply by the author on 30-Nov-2017
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Hi Patty, I'm not familiar with the situation at all. So it's difficult to give any advise. All I can say is that a mother is always a mother. I'm sure you'll know when to call it a day if it came to that. Not much help, I know. All best. Ulla:)))
Comment Written 30-Nov-2017
reply by the author on 30-Nov-2017
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Hi, Ulla;
Gregory is my thirty-one-year-old son who has a drug problem. He is living in the streets of Minneapolis, MN and I feel like I need to bring him home and get him the help he needs. But, do I really want to take on his problems again?
~patty~
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It is a huge issue, and not one I can answer easily. You do love him, but don't let him drag you down. He could potentally ruin your life and your marriage as well. He's a mature person. Only, if he's prepared to help himself, will you be able to help him. Think it through very carefully. I know it must be one of the hardest thing a parent could ever face. I do feel for you. xx
Comment from Bucketlist
My 'take' is this. Your heart is not foolish, you are offering him another chance at stability. If you don't offer I think you'll feel bad. It's a new chance,, my best heart share is to set strong guideline boundries for behaviour, get him registered with appropriate MH care. Make the offer, have your ducks in line and go for it. If it works-great. If it doesn't your heart will be
assured you tried . You have a HUGE heart . He's your son after all. I hope this wa helpful.
Hugs, ð???Trisga
reply by the author on 30-Nov-2017
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My 'take' is this. Your heart is not foolish, you are offering him another chance at stability. If you don't offer I think you'll feel bad. It's a new chance,, my best heart share is to set strong guideline boundries for behaviour, get him registered with appropriate MH care. Make the offer, have your ducks in line and go for it. If it works-great. If it doesn't your heart will be
assured you tried . You have a HUGE heart . He's your son after all. I hope this wa helpful.
Hugs, ð???Trisga
Comment Written 30-Nov-2017
reply by the author on 30-Nov-2017
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Hi, Trisha;
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I'm glad to know people think the way my heart is telling me is the right thing to do. I just can't turn my back on him -- and I'm willing to do the work to be prepared.
~patty~
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I have personal challenging reasons why I totally agree on not giving up~ we are mothers always
Comment from Asem.inspirations
Good morning, Patty: I guess you already know what I am about to say. No, you are not being a fool! You are behaving the way any loving mother would.
As mothers we naturally need to at least try to help our children. If there is even a slim chance of help it is worth it to try. Sure, there were many nightmares and extremely horrible times that were happening, each time I took my son back into my home. Sure there were even things missing in the home and it was obvious that he was stealing. However, if I had it all to do again, I still would do it all again and again. Also, if I could still have it now, I would have it now, just to have the time together, that chance to help him. If I did not do all that I did to try to help him, there would be no living with myself, at all, now.
It is your second chance at this. I am hoping and praying that it all goes well. You will know when to say, "ENOUGH!" You will know when to make the next move but only you and your husband will be able to make this decision. Much love, Patty. My heart is with you.
reply by the author on 30-Nov-2017
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Good morning, Patty: I guess you already know what I am about to say. No, you are not being a fool! You are behaving the way any loving mother would.
As mothers we naturally need to at least try to help our children. If there is even a slim chance of help it is worth it to try. Sure, there were many nightmares and extremely horrible times that were happening, each time I took my son back into my home. Sure there were even things missing in the home and it was obvious that he was stealing. However, if I had it all to do again, I still would do it all again and again. Also, if I could still have it now, I would have it now, just to have the time together, that chance to help him. If I did not do all that I did to try to help him, there would be no living with myself, at all, now.
It is your second chance at this. I am hoping and praying that it all goes well. You will know when to say, "ENOUGH!" You will know when to make the next move but only you and your husband will be able to make this decision. Much love, Patty. My heart is with you.
Comment Written 30-Nov-2017
reply by the author on 30-Nov-2017
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Hi, Tier;
Thank you so much for your thoughts. My hubby and I are going to be praying hard on this one. We will see what happens when we actually move into the house. I'm thankful you can see where my heart is,
~patty~
Comment from Irish Rain
Okay, I don't know the history of Gregory, so I'm assuming drugs? If he's off them, of course. If not...no way. Sometimes you have to love at a distance. Every child should have a chance, but not at the risk of everyone else's happiness/security. Wishing the best, blessings...
reply by the author on 30-Nov-2017
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Okay, I don't know the history of Gregory, so I'm assuming drugs? If he's off them, of course. If not...no way. Sometimes you have to love at a distance. Every child should have a chance, but not at the risk of everyone else's happiness/security. Wishing the best, blessings...
Comment Written 29-Nov-2017
reply by the author on 30-Nov-2017
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Hi there;
Hi, Ulla;
Gregory is my thirty-one-year-old son who has a drug problem. He is living in the streets of Minneapolis, MN and I feel like I need to bring him home and get him the help he needs. But, do I really want to take on his problems again?
~patty~
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That's so tough. My son is 36. I would absolutely want him home. BUT...how much damage would it do, as opposed to how much good? That's SO hard. Good luck, I feel for you, truly.
Comment from Phyllis Stewart
You won't know if you don't try. You have to give him a chance. Maybe he won't want to come. Accept his decision, but give him the option... and rules.
reply by the author on 30-Nov-2017
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You won't know if you don't try. You have to give him a chance. Maybe he won't want to come. Accept his decision, but give him the option... and rules.
Comment Written 29-Nov-2017
reply by the author on 30-Nov-2017
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Hi, Phyllis;
Thank you so much for your comments - my hubby and I are praying hard about this one,
~patty~
