Family Poems and Stories 2010-2017
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Comment from nancy_e_davis
God bless you both Patty. My heart goes out to you.
It sounds as though you are well prepared. I hope your
son will listen and accept your help to get over his addiction. Sending good thoughts and prayers your way. Love Nancy
reply by the author on 07-May-2017
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God bless you both Patty. My heart goes out to you.
It sounds as though you are well prepared. I hope your
son will listen and accept your help to get over his addiction. Sending good thoughts and prayers your way. Love Nancy
Comment Written 07-May-2017
reply by the author on 07-May-2017
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Hi Nancy; thank you so much for your good thoughts and prayers. I will keep everything you and everyone else has said in mind. My God is with me as I take this challenge on. Tough love is much harder on the parents than it is the kids,
~patty~
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I know. It is hard to push them away but sometimes that's what is needed. Keep the faith. It can move mountains.
Comment from Barb Hensongispsaca
Dear friend. This is an excellent reminder to us that life is hard for others too. My prayers are with you but don't be surprised if he just plain walks out on you. Addicted or not, that is the way to pay you back and think he is getting some peace. It's not, but...
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Dear friend. This is an excellent reminder to us that life is hard for others too. My prayers are with you but don't be surprised if he just plain walks out on you. Addicted or not, that is the way to pay you back and think he is getting some peace. It's not, but...
Comment Written 07-May-2017
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Hi Barb; thank you so much for your good thoughts and prayers. I will keep everything you and everyone else has said in mind. My God is with me as I take this challenge on. Tough love is much harder on the parents than it is the kids,
~patty~
Comment from Thomas Bowling
Be aware, your son on drugs is not your son. You may love him very much and he may say he loves you, but when he's doped up he's just another person. I know this sounds cruel, but take off the rose colored glasses and see the situation for what it is.
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Be aware, your son on drugs is not your son. You may love him very much and he may say he loves you, but when he's doped up he's just another person. I know this sounds cruel, but take off the rose colored glasses and see the situation for what it is.
Comment Written 07-May-2017
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Hi Thomas; thank you so much for your good thoughts and prayers. I will keep everything you and everyone else has said in mind. My God is with me as I take this challenge on. Tough love is much harder on the parents than it is the kids,
~patty~
Comment from apky
>>His continual drug use and lack of responsibility prompted me to tell him not to return to New Mexico. I don't think I've ever done anything so hard in all my life.<<
I think I mentioned to you - when I read yours posts on Greg - that we also have a person in the family with Bipolar, who thinks everybody including doctors are wrong and feeding him shite. He's the smart one, so he refuses to take his medication and gets thrown back each time around. So the last time we allowed him to be with us was in 2014, and it was really hard doing this, feeling guilty that the drastic measure will probably make him more sick.
I wish I were close enough to take in your dogs - I adore them.
Have courage and know you're not alone - your FasStory family will be asking the Lord to abide with you and bring you back to us safe and with some positive news.
Blessings, Patty.
Aki
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>>His continual drug use and lack of responsibility prompted me to tell him not to return to New Mexico. I don't think I've ever done anything so hard in all my life.<<
I think I mentioned to you - when I read yours posts on Greg - that we also have a person in the family with Bipolar, who thinks everybody including doctors are wrong and feeding him shite. He's the smart one, so he refuses to take his medication and gets thrown back each time around. So the last time we allowed him to be with us was in 2014, and it was really hard doing this, feeling guilty that the drastic measure will probably make him more sick.
I wish I were close enough to take in your dogs - I adore them.
Have courage and know you're not alone - your FasStory family will be asking the Lord to abide with you and bring you back to us safe and with some positive news.
Blessings, Patty.
Aki
Comment Written 07-May-2017
reply by the author on 07-May-2017
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Hi Aki; thank you so much for your good thoughts and prayers. I will keep everything you and everyone else has said in mind. My God is with me as I take this challenge on. Tough love is much harder on the parents than it is the kids,
~patty~
(I bet the dogs would love you, too. They are spoiled when they stay at the kennel. Bernie has the one technician wrapped around his little paw.)
Comment from Mastery
Good luck, Patty. You are very nervous I'll bet and I don't blame you. It must be a heck of a challenge when you are operating under the flag of "tough Love". But I think you are doing everything exactly as you should. Be careful, my friend. I hope you bring back good news. X Bob
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Good luck, Patty. You are very nervous I'll bet and I don't blame you. It must be a heck of a challenge when you are operating under the flag of "tough Love". But I think you are doing everything exactly as you should. Be careful, my friend. I hope you bring back good news. X Bob
Comment Written 07-May-2017
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Hi Bob; thank you so much for your good thoughts and prayers. I will keep everything you and everyone else has said in mind. My God is with me as I take this challenge on. Tough love is much harder on the parents than it is the kids,
~patty~
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Yes.
Comment from Sandra du Plessis
A very well-written heartfelt poem. It is not an easy task to help a child with addiction no matter what their age are, they stay your child and we will do anything to help them correct their ways. I pray with you that he will open his eyes and turn away from the harmful drugs that ruin his life.
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A very well-written heartfelt poem. It is not an easy task to help a child with addiction no matter what their age are, they stay your child and we will do anything to help them correct their ways. I pray with you that he will open his eyes and turn away from the harmful drugs that ruin his life.
Comment Written 07-May-2017
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Hi Sandra; I appreciate your prayers and good wishes. I'm excited and nervous at the same time - it will be so good to see him,
~patty~
Comment from c_lucas
What angers me most it that the loved one defends the addict. This is very well written with a smooth flow of words, makes for a very interesting read. There is good imagery.
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What angers me most it that the loved one defends the addict. This is very well written with a smooth flow of words, makes for a very interesting read. There is good imagery.
Comment Written 07-May-2017
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thank you so much for reading - I appreciate your kind words,
~patty~
Comment from Phyllis Stewart
I wish you all possible success. Remember to keep your cool no matter what. He doesn't need any more negativity. Emphasis love and the good things in life he is giving up for a temporary high. I'll keep you and your son in my prayers. Be strong. :)
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I wish you all possible success. Remember to keep your cool no matter what. He doesn't need any more negativity. Emphasis love and the good things in life he is giving up for a temporary high. I'll keep you and your son in my prayers. Be strong. :)
Comment Written 07-May-2017
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Hi Phyllis; thank you so much for your good thoughts and prayers. I will heed your advice,
~patty~
Comment from Sallyo
Beautifully written, and edited down to spare, clear writing. I can't comment on the advice portion, as I do know the difficulties of dealing with adult children and am definitely no example, but you put your story across with dignity and the voice is measured and calm. I wish you luck and hope to read a happier post when you come back.
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Beautifully written, and edited down to spare, clear writing. I can't comment on the advice portion, as I do know the difficulties of dealing with adult children and am definitely no example, but you put your story across with dignity and the voice is measured and calm. I wish you luck and hope to read a happier post when you come back.
Comment Written 07-May-2017
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thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful words. I will take your positive review with me in my heart,
~patty~
Comment from Margaret Snowdon
My heart and prayers go out to both you and
your son, Patty - you seem to have everything
in hand when it comes to caution.
I don't think you should give him an ultimatum,
as (if on drugs still) he will do as HE wants... and
as for going into rehab - he himself needs to
WANT the help - it's all so difficult.
Good luck, and God bless.
Margaret
My middle son is a Psychotherapist and deals with such cases
with a few of his patients.
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My heart and prayers go out to both you and
your son, Patty - you seem to have everything
in hand when it comes to caution.
I don't think you should give him an ultimatum,
as (if on drugs still) he will do as HE wants... and
as for going into rehab - he himself needs to
WANT the help - it's all so difficult.
Good luck, and God bless.
Margaret
My middle son is a Psychotherapist and deals with such cases
with a few of his patients.
Comment Written 07-May-2017
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Hi Margaret - I will not be issuing any ultimatums - I'm not prepared to withdraw the support I do give, and I realize he is a grown man - capable of making his own decisions - no matter how much I think they are misguided. Thank you so much for your prayers and well wishes,
~patty~
