Grammy's Memoirs 2018
Viewing comments for Chapter 1 "A Defining Moment"Bits and pieces of my life for my grandchildren
44 total reviews
Comment from melyuki
Hi Patty, thank you for sharing this very intimate and heart rendering journey. Your words portray many emotions that have no doubt lingered inside your soul over the years.. It can't be easy reliving those moments that were to define your future and you've taken this opportunity to release some of that pent up emotion by sharing with us all. A most courageous feat which will hopefully bring some kind of light relief as time continues to pass by. It is an honour to get to know you a little more through your writings Patty. Take care , sending happy smiles your way, mel xxx
reply by the author on 16-Apr-2017
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Hi Patty, thank you for sharing this very intimate and heart rendering journey. Your words portray many emotions that have no doubt lingered inside your soul over the years.. It can't be easy reliving those moments that were to define your future and you've taken this opportunity to release some of that pent up emotion by sharing with us all. A most courageous feat which will hopefully bring some kind of light relief as time continues to pass by. It is an honour to get to know you a little more through your writings Patty. Take care , sending happy smiles your way, mel xxx
Comment Written 16-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 16-Apr-2017
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Hi Mel; thank you so much for the six-star rating on this one. I appreciate your time to read and review, along with your kind words of encouragement. This was a big part of the healing process for me. I'm glad I had a relationship with my FanStory family where I felt I could share this story.
~patty~
Comment from Phyllis Stewart
Very well done. It's obvious that you were traumatized by this knowledge. Did you abuse you as well? Or don't you remember? I don't understand what the WORD was you hear at school (on on the way) that got you so upset. ???
reply by the author on 16-Apr-2017
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Very well done. It's obvious that you were traumatized by this knowledge. Did you abuse you as well? Or don't you remember? I don't understand what the WORD was you hear at school (on on the way) that got you so upset. ???
Comment Written 16-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 16-Apr-2017
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thank you so much for stopping by to read and review. I so appreciate your comments on this piece. Your words of encouragement mean a great deal to me. (What I heard on the way to school is still a blank to me - I think it was molest or worse.)
~patty~😀
Comment from giraffmang
Hi there,
This is a powerful little piece, well written.
no one would tell her either. My grandmother didn't have any answers either - watch for the repetition. Both these sentences end with either close together.
He hadn't only physically abused her, but mentally as well. -it's true that all abuse incorporates a mental component.
On reading the author notes, you shouldn't find this shameful. When something is done to you or those you love, the shame isn't yours.
All the best
GMG
reply by the author on 16-Apr-2017
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Hi there,
This is a powerful little piece, well written.
no one would tell her either. My grandmother didn't have any answers either - watch for the repetition. Both these sentences end with either close together.
He hadn't only physically abused her, but mentally as well. -it's true that all abuse incorporates a mental component.
On reading the author notes, you shouldn't find this shameful. When something is done to you or those you love, the shame isn't yours.
All the best
GMG
Comment Written 16-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 16-Apr-2017
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Hi GMG; thank you for your thoughtful review. I appreciate your comments and your suggestions to make this a better write. Hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend,
~patty~
Comment from Heidi M
I appreciate and admire your courage to write this. You had to relive it in your mind to write it, as well as putting it on a public forum. That had to be difficult.
Saddest sentence: the little girl that was, ceased to exist
reply by the author on 16-Apr-2017
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I appreciate and admire your courage to write this. You had to relive it in your mind to write it, as well as putting it on a public forum. That had to be difficult.
Saddest sentence: the little girl that was, ceased to exist
Comment Written 15-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 16-Apr-2017
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Hi Heidi; yes, this was very difficult to post here. I have never shared this story with such a large audience. The reaction to the story has been a relief. I'm even more comfortable with my Fan Story family.
~patty~
Comment from Pearl Edwards
This is shameful, but not on you on him only, the perpetrator. I think you've done well with this and I can't see where it needs any altering, I was taken up with your story. Thank you for sharing
cheers.
reply by the author on 16-Apr-2017
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This is shameful, but not on you on him only, the perpetrator. I think you've done well with this and I can't see where it needs any altering, I was taken up with your story. Thank you for sharing
cheers.
Comment Written 15-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 16-Apr-2017
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thank you so much for stopping by to read and review. I so appreciate your comments on this piece. Your words of encouragement mean a great deal to me,
~patty~😀
Comment from light
I know abuse happens more often than we realize, but when it happens to you the mind just can't make sense if it and hides it away in a forgotten memory. This is very well written and kept my interest to the end.
Elaine
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2017
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I know abuse happens more often than we realize, but when it happens to you the mind just can't make sense if it and hides it away in a forgotten memory. This is very well written and kept my interest to the end.
Elaine
Comment Written 15-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2017
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Hi Elaine; thank you so much for stopping by to read and review. I appreciate your kind words of encouragement,
~patty~
Comment from Gypsy Blue Rose
Hello,
I'm so sorry to read this. I worked as an advocate of victims of rape and molest. Many of my clients had PTSD. I provided peer counseling for two years. I heard many sad stories. I think it's good to write it out.
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2017
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Hello,
I'm so sorry to read this. I worked as an advocate of victims of rape and molest. Many of my clients had PTSD. I provided peer counseling for two years. I heard many sad stories. I think it's good to write it out.
Comment Written 15-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2017
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Hi Gypsy; thank you so much for stopping by to read and review. I appreciate your perspective and encouraging comments,
~patty~
Comment from Mrs Happy Poet
Hello my friend what an awful ordeal to have to go through this when you were younger your sister was very brave to tell what was happening you needn't carry any shame it was your father who ruined your families lives well done on sharing regards Jill
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2017
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Hello my friend what an awful ordeal to have to go through this when you were younger your sister was very brave to tell what was happening you needn't carry any shame it was your father who ruined your families lives well done on sharing regards Jill
Comment Written 15-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2017
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hi Jill; thanks for stopping by to read and review. Writing this was an exercise in testing my strength. I had never really told that story in a public form, and it has freed me a great deal. Thank you for your comments and words of encouragement,
~patty~
Comment from lyenochka
The ending is is very good -- "the murder of innocence." I'm unclear as to what happened to you that landed you cold in the hallway. I also wanted a few more descriptions of your sister. Did she behave oddly? What kind of mental illness came out of the abuse? It doesn't need to be much but a little hints here and there.
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2017
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The ending is is very good -- "the murder of innocence." I'm unclear as to what happened to you that landed you cold in the hallway. I also wanted a few more descriptions of your sister. Did she behave oddly? What kind of mental illness came out of the abuse? It doesn't need to be much but a little hints here and there.
Comment Written 15-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2017
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Hi; this is just a chapter of the story, but the hints were that the neighbor children knew what happened - parents talk a lot. My sister is almost eight years older than me, so I didn't think she acted oddly. She beat me whenever she got the chance, but I thought that was just what big sisters did. My sister has never had any professional help, so I'm not entirely sure what mental illness came of it for her - I suspect she is Bipolar, and probably suffers from PTSD.
I will go back and edit the story to include more hints in the actual telling - thanks for pointing that out to me,
~patty~
Comment from morgan60621
I am a victim of childhood violence too. I have endured many years of arduous therapy and have finally emerged a confident and mature woman. There is absolutely no shame in relating your story. You were an innocent and your father was an abuser. There are many, many men and women who can relate to your story and mine. As a nation, the only way to stop a persistent problem like child abuse is to bring it out into the open and stop heading our heads in the sand. Stories like yours and mine need to be told to help the innocents of today and tomorrow. Chin up sister! Telling your story will be therapeutic and help others. Morgan
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2017
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I am a victim of childhood violence too. I have endured many years of arduous therapy and have finally emerged a confident and mature woman. There is absolutely no shame in relating your story. You were an innocent and your father was an abuser. There are many, many men and women who can relate to your story and mine. As a nation, the only way to stop a persistent problem like child abuse is to bring it out into the open and stop heading our heads in the sand. Stories like yours and mine need to be told to help the innocents of today and tomorrow. Chin up sister! Telling your story will be therapeutic and help others. Morgan
Comment Written 15-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 15-Apr-2017
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Hi Morgan; thank you for sharing with me. I do believe that if this taboo subject is brought out into the light of day and discussed - maybe it will be the beginning of healing, and prevention. I appreciate your comments and words of encouragement,
~patty~
