A Time Of Grief
My life at present.15 total reviews
Comment from Teri7
This is very beautiful what you have written. I am so sorry you are having to do that my friend. Life does get hard at times. I am thankful you do know the Lord and depend on Him. I will keep you in my prayers! love, Teri
reply by the author on 10-Feb-2017
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This is very beautiful what you have written. I am so sorry you are having to do that my friend. Life does get hard at times. I am thankful you do know the Lord and depend on Him. I will keep you in my prayers! love, Teri
Comment Written 09-Feb-2017
reply by the author on 10-Feb-2017
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Thank you for the nice review, Teri.
Comment from Jackarrie
Oh Patricia
I feel for you I really do. This has always been my worry about what's to happen when I no longer live independent. I do not dwell on it simply because I have a great live at present. Yet signs are coming on slowly but surely. My husband has had a slight stroke and will not go to the doctor about it. I am have a knee op tomorrow, an arthroscopy not a replacement. My movements are limited, I also am aware of or memories declining. It is all a reality check. Would you have preferences of where you would go if you sold you home? I am sure you will continue to keep busy with your writing. The best of luck Mary
reply by the author on 05-Feb-2017
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Oh Patricia
I feel for you I really do. This has always been my worry about what's to happen when I no longer live independent. I do not dwell on it simply because I have a great live at present. Yet signs are coming on slowly but surely. My husband has had a slight stroke and will not go to the doctor about it. I am have a knee op tomorrow, an arthroscopy not a replacement. My movements are limited, I also am aware of or memories declining. It is all a reality check. Would you have preferences of where you would go if you sold you home? I am sure you will continue to keep busy with your writing. The best of luck Mary
Comment Written 05-Feb-2017
reply by the author on 05-Feb-2017
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Thank you for your nice review, Mary. These tomes come to all of us. I wish you the best with the surgery.
Comment from dejohnsrld (Debbie)
I understand this so very well. Even good change can result in grief as we are truly creatures of habit. I still live in my home, but as I worked so much and all of my 'friends' were from work, when I had to quit working, they disappeared. Take care and be gentle with yourself, my friend~Debbie
reply by the author on 04-Feb-2017
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I understand this so very well. Even good change can result in grief as we are truly creatures of habit. I still live in my home, but as I worked so much and all of my 'friends' were from work, when I had to quit working, they disappeared. Take care and be gentle with yourself, my friend~Debbie
Comment Written 04-Feb-2017
reply by the author on 04-Feb-2017
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Thank you Debbie, for the kind review. I will be gentle with myself. I do see a rainbow on the horizon in my life as In time I will be moving to live with my oldest daughter and her hubby..
Comment from MelB
So sorry! I know giving up independence is a hard thing to do. I remember my Grandpa having a difficult time with it. Will you stay with one of your children?
reply by the author on 04-Feb-2017
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So sorry! I know giving up independence is a hard thing to do. I remember my Grandpa having a difficult time with it. Will you stay with one of your children?
Comment Written 03-Feb-2017
reply by the author on 04-Feb-2017
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Thank you for the nice review, Melissa. Yes, I will be staying with my oldest daughter penny and her husband larry in their home which they recently bought. One of the reasons they bought this home is that it had enough room to provide mother quarters. I will be having a two room suite in the home.
Welcome back to F/S and do take all the tie you need to go through the grieving process. You are a special young lady and I want to see you recover. But, do not let people tell you to just move on and get over, as some tried with me when my husband died. Until a person has experienced the kind of loss that you have, do not understand that it not as simple a process as they may think.
Comment from judiverse
It is a difficult decision to make and selling your home would mean giving up independence. Maybe home health care services would be an option so you could stay in your home. If you have to move, I hope you can find a place where you will still be close to your friends and your church. I had an aunt who remained in her own apartment until she was in her 90s. Best of luck, whatever your decision. judi
reply by the author on 04-Feb-2017
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It is a difficult decision to make and selling your home would mean giving up independence. Maybe home health care services would be an option so you could stay in your home. If you have to move, I hope you can find a place where you will still be close to your friends and your church. I had an aunt who remained in her own apartment until she was in her 90s. Best of luck, whatever your decision. judi
Comment Written 03-Feb-2017
reply by the author on 04-Feb-2017
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Thank you for the kind review, Judi. I will be moving to Phoenix. I will be living with my oldest daughter and her hubby. They bought a new home, which had to meet the need of providing me with a home where they could help me. I will miss my friends, but I am sure I will make new friends.
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That sounds like a great outcome. You'll get to be with family, so that will make it feel like home. Best wishes. judi
Comment from Joan E.
I grieve with you. I am sorry your eyesight continues to worsen and your back problems persist. I hope you find a comfortable, assisted living community and maintain as much independence as possible. My thoughts are with you- Joan
reply by the author on 03-Feb-2017
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I grieve with you. I am sorry your eyesight continues to worsen and your back problems persist. I hope you find a comfortable, assisted living community and maintain as much independence as possible. My thoughts are with you- Joan
Comment Written 03-Feb-2017
reply by the author on 03-Feb-2017
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Joan, thanks for the nice review. I will not be going to an assisted living situation, my daughter and her husband want me to live with them. They even bought a home that would provide for my quarters. I will be having a 2 room suite.
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You are so fortunate to have your daughter's assistance and the luxury of a two-room suite. I will continue to hope for improvement in your health--we have to keep fighting! Best wishes- Joan
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Joan, I am a fighter, have been all my life, However, with my sight failing, I must be with a family member who will be able to drive me to doctor appointment and the like, I am very near to not being able to drive.
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I am glad you are making these necessary arrangements in a timely fashion. I hope the transition is smooth. Hugs- Joan
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We were beginning to talk about the move as early as last June and we continue to talk.
Comment from Dolly'sPoems
I so agree with this Patricia, my Mother was fortunate to have her independence until the day she died, we are not all that fortunate and I, like you have failing eyesight, so who knows what the future holds, love Dolly x
reply by the author on 03-Feb-2017
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I so agree with this Patricia, my Mother was fortunate to have her independence until the day she died, we are not all that fortunate and I, like you have failing eyesight, so who knows what the future holds, love Dolly x
Comment Written 03-Feb-2017
reply by the author on 03-Feb-2017
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Dolly, thanks for the nice review. I am sorry you are having problems with your sight as well. I suppose my sight is what drives me to write while I can still see some.
Comment from BeasPeas
Hi Patricia. Your short poem and author's note describes a transition that all of us seniors worry about, so you are not alone. I hope that things work out for you with your children's help. Blessings. Marilyn
reply by the author on 02-Feb-2017
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Hi Patricia. Your short poem and author's note describes a transition that all of us seniors worry about, so you are not alone. I hope that things work out for you with your children's help. Blessings. Marilyn
Comment Written 02-Feb-2017
reply by the author on 02-Feb-2017
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All of my daughters have stated they would take me in, but the daughter in Phoenix makes the most sense since the climate is warmer and drier there, which would be better for my back.
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Hi Patricia. That sounds like a good arrangement for you. Is that what you're going to do? In any case, the right solution will present itself. Marilyn
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That is probably what will happen, now it is just a matter of when I will no longer be able to care for myself.
Comment from Barb Hensongispsaca
I too am reaching the point I will need to think about moving closer to my children but the trouble is, they don't want to be bothered. God will take me where I am needed and wanted
reply by the author on 02-Feb-2017
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I too am reaching the point I will need to think about moving closer to my children but the trouble is, they don't want to be bothered. God will take me where I am needed and wanted
Comment Written 02-Feb-2017
reply by the author on 02-Feb-2017
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Thanks for the review. My oldest daughter and her husband just bought a home. To buy it, there was a must that there would be room to take care of me and possibly my granddaughter should the need arise there. I would not be a freeloader on them as I have enough income to possibly make a good deal of their house payment, so it would be a win, win both ways.
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You are blessed
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I know I am blessed. All of my children say they would take me in, but the wise decision would be the Phoenix choice because with my bad back, the drier climate would be better for that.
Comment from lyenochka
You are truly a wise woman. It is a very good thing to take time to grieve. I hope the next chapter with less independence will be a time of rich dependence on the Lord which is always the way it should be. We just like thinking we are independent.
reply by the author on 02-Feb-2017
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You are truly a wise woman. It is a very good thing to take time to grieve. I hope the next chapter with less independence will be a time of rich dependence on the Lord which is always the way it should be. We just like thinking we are independent.
Comment Written 02-Feb-2017
reply by the author on 02-Feb-2017
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Thank you for the nice review. I have had to be independent for over 21 years and now it is really hard to admit, I should no longer drive and to admit I need to be where one of my children lives. My oldest daughter and her hubby say they have a place for me. I think having to leave my home and leave some wonderful friends is why I am grieving.
