When Blood Collides
Viewing comments for Chapter 75 "A Mother's Choice"A family's love is tested.
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Comment from Sasha
Memories can turn into a slippery slope. Two can experience the same event but have completely opposite views on what and how it occurred. It is too bad you mother wasn't able to explain her reasons for sending your sister away. I am sure she did what she thought at the time was the righ thing to do. Sadly, things like this lead to eventual sibling rivalry.
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2016
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Memories can turn into a slippery slope. Two can experience the same event but have completely opposite views on what and how it occurred. It is too bad you mother wasn't able to explain her reasons for sending your sister away. I am sure she did what she thought at the time was the righ thing to do. Sadly, things like this lead to eventual sibling rivalry.
Comment Written 07-Feb-2016
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2016
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I know Mom thought she was doing the right thing. But I can see where it affect a child. When my two year old son was sick and I chose to stay at the hospital and leave six year old Nichole in care of the neighbors, she was angry about that for a long time.
Comment from w.j.debi
Memories can be tricky things. What stands out for one person and imbedded forever, is a lost moment for another who was present. Whatever your parents' reasons for sending your sister away, I am sure it was considered carefully, and thought the best solution at the time. I'd only we had crystal balls and could see the consequences of alternate possibilities. Unfortunately, we must all forge ahead blinding into the future.
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2016
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Memories can be tricky things. What stands out for one person and imbedded forever, is a lost moment for another who was present. Whatever your parents' reasons for sending your sister away, I am sure it was considered carefully, and thought the best solution at the time. I'd only we had crystal balls and could see the consequences of alternate possibilities. Unfortunately, we must all forge ahead blinding into the future.
Comment Written 06-Feb-2016
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2016
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Thank you for the insightful review, debi. I remember different experiences that Barbara did.
Comment from mermaids
The tension between you and your sister is built up here. I often see in families, how parents do this. It almost seems like your mother might have had depression after giving birth.
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2016
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The tension between you and your sister is built up here. I often see in families, how parents do this. It almost seems like your mother might have had depression after giving birth.
Comment Written 26-Jan-2016
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2016
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That's a possibility, Elaine. Much later, the doctors diagnosed her with an overactive thyroid. Having had it myself, I'm guessing that was the problem.
Comment from sibhus
In a sense the clothes from that period seem almost elegant compared to the rags people wear now. How's that saying go; You'll never know someone till you walk a mile in their shoes. I think we all think the other sibling has it better, or is more talented, till we get older and see the world as adults. Good chapter there, Spitfire.
reply by the author on 24-Jan-2016
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In a sense the clothes from that period seem almost elegant compared to the rags people wear now. How's that saying go; You'll never know someone till you walk a mile in their shoes. I think we all think the other sibling has it better, or is more talented, till we get older and see the world as adults. Good chapter there, Spitfire.
Comment Written 24-Jan-2016
reply by the author on 24-Jan-2016
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Ha! You're the first to comment on the clothes. Fashion has sure changed over the years. Some skirts today are so short, I wouldn't dare bend over if I wore one. You're right about sibling rivalry.
Comment from mountainwriter49
Shari,
You continue the good story in a SPAGless chapter that keeps my attention. You had a lazy eye and had to wear a patch? SO DID I!!! I was so embarrassed and the kids at school--elementary school--were ruthless, most unkind and evil to me because I looked different. Thank goodness glasses fixed my eye when I was in 5th grade. But the eye is only good for 'field vision,' no reading or detailed viewing of anything. But as the wise man once said, that's a hell of a lot better than nothing.
I love how you're wrapping up these issues with your sister. You're expressing empathy, using your own weaknesses as a way to help her regain a strengthened footing. That's what siblings should do to and for each other.
I was unnerved about the 'sexual abuse' comments.
Well done,
Ray
reply by the author on 24-Jan-2016
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Shari,
You continue the good story in a SPAGless chapter that keeps my attention. You had a lazy eye and had to wear a patch? SO DID I!!! I was so embarrassed and the kids at school--elementary school--were ruthless, most unkind and evil to me because I looked different. Thank goodness glasses fixed my eye when I was in 5th grade. But the eye is only good for 'field vision,' no reading or detailed viewing of anything. But as the wise man once said, that's a hell of a lot better than nothing.
I love how you're wrapping up these issues with your sister. You're expressing empathy, using your own weaknesses as a way to help her regain a strengthened footing. That's what siblings should do to and for each other.
I was unnerved about the 'sexual abuse' comments.
Well done,
Ray
Comment Written 24-Jan-2016
reply by the author on 24-Jan-2016
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Interesting that we have a patch in common. I remember kids calling me cross-eyed which hurt. I hate having to renew my license and take that damn eye test. I can't see out of the right unless I cover the left. The good thing is that I was excused from contact sports in college. Damage to the good eye would have impaired me a lot!
Thanks for the insightful comment on why I make fun of myself.
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I understand. I've learned how to beat the eye exam. Lol. Kids are so cruel
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I had to get an eye exam the last time I went to renew. The doctor was disgusted and cussed out the Bureau. Gave me documentation that my eyes with glasses were good enough to drive. I'm good until 2018. Whoa! That's not so far away. Tell me how to beat it!
Comment from Carolyn 'Deaton' Stephens
Your story continues with sparks of interest and a little hook now and then.. Barbara resented being the one sent away to relieve your mother.... To be quite honest, a month is not all that long, unless, as you intimated... something bad happened to her that had been buried in her subconscious mind. At any rate, siblings often have resentments toward each other which is next to unexplainable.. You seem to be the well balanced one... and I am not talking about crawling.. :-) well done Shari, :-) Carolyn
reply by the author on 24-Jan-2016
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Your story continues with sparks of interest and a little hook now and then.. Barbara resented being the one sent away to relieve your mother.... To be quite honest, a month is not all that long, unless, as you intimated... something bad happened to her that had been buried in her subconscious mind. At any rate, siblings often have resentments toward each other which is next to unexplainable.. You seem to be the well balanced one... and I am not talking about crawling.. :-) well done Shari, :-) Carolyn
Comment Written 24-Jan-2016
reply by the author on 24-Jan-2016
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Thanks, Carolyn. To be honest, I don't know how long she was there. Wish I had asked more questions! Who knew I would write it down one day?
Comment from Curly Girly
Sending one's child away is a very unnatural and strange thing to do. I am not surprised that it caused some resentment.
I hope child molestation never came into it. A mother should be protective of her children at all times.
reply by the author on 24-Jan-2016
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Sending one's child away is a very unnatural and strange thing to do. I am not surprised that it caused some resentment.
I hope child molestation never came into it. A mother should be protective of her children at all times.
Comment Written 23-Jan-2016
reply by the author on 24-Jan-2016
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More about Mom's health problem later. All I can say is I had the same condition in my late twenties and thought I would go mad before the doctors found out my problem and cured it. Same with Mom, but back in the forties, it took longer for a doctor to figure it out.
Comment from Bill O'Bier
A very nice piece- to read on a cold snowy day in Virginia. Your words are well chosen. The artwork compliments the theme. Thanks for sharing--
Bill
reply by the author on 24-Jan-2016
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A very nice piece- to read on a cold snowy day in Virginia. Your words are well chosen. The artwork compliments the theme. Thanks for sharing--
Bill
Comment Written 23-Jan-2016
reply by the author on 24-Jan-2016
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I saw the pictures on the news. Guess you can't go very far. Might as well review. Thanks, Bill. It's cold in Florida right now but no snow. Whew!
Comment from joann r romei
You deserve a twelve, WOW, What a raw revision of the depth of this intricate, yet affectionate family. I can understand the feelings of negativity, sometimes it's all the perspective of how the situation is for that person.
reply by the author on 23-Jan-2016
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You deserve a twelve, WOW, What a raw revision of the depth of this intricate, yet affectionate family. I can understand the feelings of negativity, sometimes it's all the perspective of how the situation is for that person.
Comment Written 23-Jan-2016
reply by the author on 23-Jan-2016
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Again, an insightful review as I try to give both sides of the picture. Thanks you for the awesome six, especially on a Saturday.
Shari xx
Comment from Louise Michelle
I'm amazed how you can remember so many things from your childhood, but I imagine your mother shared that information with you when you were older.
In one of my metaphysical books, I read that sisters have a lot of karma to work out. It certainly would be the case with me and mine. Hugs, Lou
reply by the author on 23-Jan-2016
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I'm amazed how you can remember so many things from your childhood, but I imagine your mother shared that information with you when you were older.
In one of my metaphysical books, I read that sisters have a lot of karma to work out. It certainly would be the case with me and mine. Hugs, Lou
Comment Written 23-Jan-2016
reply by the author on 23-Jan-2016
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Yes. I was in my late fifties when Mom shared this. Maybe a lot of it came out when Barb chose to shut both of out of her life when Mom refused to give her $10000 for a down payment on a condominium.
Maybe in our next lives, I'll be her mother or vice versa. :-) We tend to stay with the same soul groups.
