I Never Blamed Him
Attitude makes the difference7 total reviews
Comment from rmj09
The focus being a fighter, bouncing back when all seems hopeless. The storyline development being the middle child they feel lost, unappreciated, unseen, always being compared to the other siblings. A Father who was a weekend drunk and took it out on his wife, children not having friends over during these times. But a stronger more flexible person because of the unequal love and care.
The emotion felt understanding as parents should treat all of their children the same.
Keep on writing.
Jo, I know what you mean except my day drank all week and rarely was abusive to any of us. He quit when I was in eighth grade. I always heard why aren't you like your sister and brother straight A's and nervous wrecks if they received a grade lower. In my junior year my counselor asked me what I was going to do and I said go to college. He said not with a low C and I know your smarter then that. At the end of my junior year I had a B+ average. He knew I was tired of being compared to them by my parents and teachers. But I"m a stronger person then any of them were and accepted Jesus at the age of five, and leaned on him. You are wonderful and don't you ever forget that. ^J^ Rita
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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The focus being a fighter, bouncing back when all seems hopeless. The storyline development being the middle child they feel lost, unappreciated, unseen, always being compared to the other siblings. A Father who was a weekend drunk and took it out on his wife, children not having friends over during these times. But a stronger more flexible person because of the unequal love and care.
The emotion felt understanding as parents should treat all of their children the same.
Keep on writing.
Jo, I know what you mean except my day drank all week and rarely was abusive to any of us. He quit when I was in eighth grade. I always heard why aren't you like your sister and brother straight A's and nervous wrecks if they received a grade lower. In my junior year my counselor asked me what I was going to do and I said go to college. He said not with a low C and I know your smarter then that. At the end of my junior year I had a B+ average. He knew I was tired of being compared to them by my parents and teachers. But I"m a stronger person then any of them were and accepted Jesus at the age of five, and leaned on him. You are wonderful and don't you ever forget that. ^J^ Rita
Comment Written 23-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Rita, thank you for your kind review and comments. I was saved at 15 years old at an old time tent revival. He has
been my Rock ever since. Thank you also for the six stars...it's very encouraging.
Jo
Comment from Walu Feral
G'day Jo. I am so very proud of you mate. For me this is a very personal and warming biography. It can be tough when life throws bad things at us, but for me giving up was never an option that I took seriously. Be proud my friend, you are a star and a very bright one at that. Cheers Fez
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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G'day Jo. I am so very proud of you mate. For me this is a very personal and warming biography. It can be tough when life throws bad things at us, but for me giving up was never an option that I took seriously. Be proud my friend, you are a star and a very bright one at that. Cheers Fez
Comment Written 23-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Thanks Fez for your encouraging review. I gain a lot of strength from your story. I might have told you this
before...but you remind me so much of my only brother Rex. He has passed on but he still is so close to
me in my heart.
Jo
Comment from abbasjoy
Jo, I can relate so well to your story. Not because of my father, because he died when I was only 6 years old, but because of my marriage, which sadly I thought and hoped was going to be wonderful. Unfortunately, it's been myself and my husband.
God's grace has been and still is sufficient.
Our daughters love the Lord, are married to Christian men, one more mature than the other, but they both love our daughters, and I thank God almost everyday for giving me those children.
My journals have been my solace over the years, and I always said, one day I would write my life story, so others could be encouraged to hold on, even through a difficult marriage. I still may do that. It's only God!
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Jo, I can relate so well to your story. Not because of my father, because he died when I was only 6 years old, but because of my marriage, which sadly I thought and hoped was going to be wonderful. Unfortunately, it's been myself and my husband.
God's grace has been and still is sufficient.
Our daughters love the Lord, are married to Christian men, one more mature than the other, but they both love our daughters, and I thank God almost everyday for giving me those children.
My journals have been my solace over the years, and I always said, one day I would write my life story, so others could be encouraged to hold on, even through a difficult marriage. I still may do that. It's only God!
Comment Written 22-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 24-Aug-2015
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Abbasjoy, thank you for reviewing my work so faithfully. I appreciate your comments. I am truly sorry that you
can relate to my story. Unfortunely, too many people can. It seems with your dad's death at your tender age of 6 you
may not have had a strong father figure. Therefore, marriage not as you had hoped. I not only had an alcoholic dad but
married an alcoholic husband/ and abusive I might add. I often wondered why I didn't leave him (I kept it secret from my family...I had learned my lessons well as a young girl). He was my second husband and I had decided he would be the last. So I hung on and prayed. He is (yes, I am still married to him 43 years this Feb.) no longer a weekend drinker or abusive after meeting my Savior Jesus about 22 years ago. We still have our ups and downs. It seems I am a forever up person...joyous in
the mornings. He is not so joyous in the morning until he has drank a pot of coffee. :o) The Lord has worked things out. I
thank Him daily.
Jo
after
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Jo, all marriages have their ups and downs, and after 50 years I am still hanging in. My hubby finally conceded to get some counseling and thankfully, I am beginning to see some changes. All because of God's grace, which is sufficient.
Blessings
Joan
Comment from Misrael
I can really identify with you in that I never felt loved either not by either one of my parents. Your story is one of perseverance and a will to go on and keep on trying. That has sort of been my thinking for years. When people told me I would never do anything with my life or say i would never amount to much. I just thought to myself. We will just see about that and went onto do everything my father said I would never do. You will be able to read about it in my post for what's your story. Which I will be posting hopefully in a few days.
Great read and keep on writing.
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2015
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I can really identify with you in that I never felt loved either not by either one of my parents. Your story is one of perseverance and a will to go on and keep on trying. That has sort of been my thinking for years. When people told me I would never do anything with my life or say i would never amount to much. I just thought to myself. We will just see about that and went onto do everything my father said I would never do. You will be able to read about it in my post for what's your story. Which I will be posting hopefully in a few days.
Great read and keep on writing.
Comment Written 20-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2015
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Thank you for your comments on my work. I look forward to reading your story.
Jo
Comment from Jackreese
If only more people could learn to think this way. I really am amazed by the things I read on here, you are a true survivor and I appreciate you sharing this. My dad was a big drinker and a born again Christian who now is waiting for a ne liver cause his is shot. It was nice to see as you put it that "I'm not the only one".
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2015
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If only more people could learn to think this way. I really am amazed by the things I read on here, you are a true survivor and I appreciate you sharing this. My dad was a big drinker and a born again Christian who now is waiting for a ne liver cause his is shot. It was nice to see as you put it that "I'm not the only one".
Comment Written 20-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2015
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Thank you Jack for commenting on my story. Yes, I'm afraid there are many more like us. I sincerely hope your dad gets
a new liver and does okay. One of the things that helped me forgive my dad after I became an adult was a book I read.
I think the title "Adult Children of Alcoholics". Not sure of the title...it's been a long time ago. It helped explain a lot of my feelings and gave me the strength to forgive him. Thanks for the six. I truly appreciate it.
Jo
Comment from nancy_e_davis
Aw, how sweet Judy. So we are Just Jo again. It is hard to be the middile child. I had three children too. Two girls and a boy and my middle child felt unloved and unwanted sometimes too. The fact is I love them all for who they are. Each one in a special way. They love me too. I enjoyed your story.xxx Nancy
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2015
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Aw, how sweet Judy. So we are Just Jo again. It is hard to be the middile child. I had three children too. Two girls and a boy and my middle child felt unloved and unwanted sometimes too. The fact is I love them all for who they are. Each one in a special way. They love me too. I enjoyed your story.xxx Nancy
Comment Written 20-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2015
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Hi Nancy, thanks for commenting on my story. I know what you mean about loving your children "each one in a special
way". I have two of my own (boys) and a boy and two girls I raised from ages 11, 10, 7 of my husbands. I look forward to
being a fan of yours.
Jo
Comment from Jacqueline M Franklin
Hi, Justjo...
_ Lovely story of life's reality, how you dealt with the adversity that came your way, and ultimately moved on and grew from it.
_ One can't as for more more than that.
_ Thanks for sharing your inspiriting story.
Cheers & Blessings
Keep Smilin'... Jax (*:*)
reply by the author on 20-Aug-2015
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Hi, Justjo...
_ Lovely story of life's reality, how you dealt with the adversity that came your way, and ultimately moved on and grew from it.
_ One can't as for more more than that.
_ Thanks for sharing your inspiriting story.
Cheers & Blessings
Keep Smilin'... Jax (*:*)
Comment Written 20-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 20-Aug-2015
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Thank you Jax for commenting on my story and your encouragement.
Jo
