When Blood Collides
Viewing comments for Chapter 43 "The Unexpected Letter"A family's love is tested.
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Comment from w.j.debi
This is a touching chapter. There are tough times and choices ahead, but a quiet moment of respite is welcome. The love your share with your mom is so obvious and it is comforting to realize that y mean so much to each other.
You capture some great dialog that comes through as genuine and heartfelt.
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2015
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This is a touching chapter. There are tough times and choices ahead, but a quiet moment of respite is welcome. The love your share with your mom is so obvious and it is comforting to realize that y mean so much to each other.
You capture some great dialog that comes through as genuine and heartfelt.
Comment Written 12-Aug-2015
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2015
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I appreciate your comments that let me know my passion is coming through. Thanks a lot.
Comment from Walu Feral
G'day Shari. I'm miles behind as you can tell by this review, sorry mate. That letter was a good thing, to be honest I didn't expect it and indeed expected a war. Mum's worst fears, a nursing home...ouch! Good luck. Cheers Fez
reply by the author on 29-Jul-2015
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G'day Shari. I'm miles behind as you can tell by this review, sorry mate. That letter was a good thing, to be honest I didn't expect it and indeed expected a war. Mum's worst fears, a nursing home...ouch! Good luck. Cheers Fez
Comment Written 29-Jul-2015
reply by the author on 29-Jul-2015
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The letter helped that bump, but there's more to come.
Comment from Donya Quijote
Good for Barb! Nice, timely apology. I didn't think your sister would hold a grudge against you over all that stressful nonsense. Barb is hard, tough, maybe a bit self- absorbed, restless, but she does have good manners, and she cares, if I remember how you have described her in the past.
Faye, have we met her before? I don't recognize the name. Hmmm.
There is something unusual about the tone of this chapter. It too is foreshadowing the inevitable. In reading this, I don't think your mom is going to be going to the nursing home. Some people look at such places as places where people go who aren't smart enough to die at home or in the hospital go to die.
I did some occasional volunteer work with my mother as a teenager and young adult at a nursing home. She worked for a hospice organization and occasionally she would go to the local nursing home. I would go to from time to time with her. It was horrible. The nurses would put the residents in wheelchairs and stick them in the hallway right outside their rooms. They would have nothing to do, no one talk to. Whenever I came through, it was like walking an gauntlet. Everyone reaching out to me, grabbing me, and those who could form a question would ask me who I was and what I was doing there. It was like getting the third degree from these people. It creeped me out the first couple of times, but then I realized that all they wanted was someone to pay attention to them. Many were lonely. They wanted to know they were still important. I would stop and talk with a few, usually the ones who grabbed me and wouldn't let go. The nurses seemed annoyed with me because of it. One question that they would ask was when they would see me again. Still a horrifying place, so I can understand your mother's reluctance to go. My grandmother told me that if she ever ended up in one that she would die, and that is exactly what she did. She wasn't there long.
I have a feeling I am not going to like the next chapter... Grrr....
I didn't see any spag, but it is hard for me to notice when the chapter is emotional. The error has to reach out and grab me....
reply by the author on 27-Jul-2015
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Good for Barb! Nice, timely apology. I didn't think your sister would hold a grudge against you over all that stressful nonsense. Barb is hard, tough, maybe a bit self- absorbed, restless, but she does have good manners, and she cares, if I remember how you have described her in the past.
Faye, have we met her before? I don't recognize the name. Hmmm.
There is something unusual about the tone of this chapter. It too is foreshadowing the inevitable. In reading this, I don't think your mom is going to be going to the nursing home. Some people look at such places as places where people go who aren't smart enough to die at home or in the hospital go to die.
I did some occasional volunteer work with my mother as a teenager and young adult at a nursing home. She worked for a hospice organization and occasionally she would go to the local nursing home. I would go to from time to time with her. It was horrible. The nurses would put the residents in wheelchairs and stick them in the hallway right outside their rooms. They would have nothing to do, no one talk to. Whenever I came through, it was like walking an gauntlet. Everyone reaching out to me, grabbing me, and those who could form a question would ask me who I was and what I was doing there. It was like getting the third degree from these people. It creeped me out the first couple of times, but then I realized that all they wanted was someone to pay attention to them. Many were lonely. They wanted to know they were still important. I would stop and talk with a few, usually the ones who grabbed me and wouldn't let go. The nurses seemed annoyed with me because of it. One question that they would ask was when they would see me again. Still a horrifying place, so I can understand your mother's reluctance to go. My grandmother told me that if she ever ended up in one that she would die, and that is exactly what she did. She wasn't there long.
I have a feeling I am not going to like the next chapter... Grrr....
I didn't see any spag, but it is hard for me to notice when the chapter is emotional. The error has to reach out and grab me....
Comment Written 27-Jul-2015
reply by the author on 27-Jul-2015
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By now, you know your premonitions were right. Nursing homes are sad places to visit. Nurses don't have time or take time to do anything beyond what is necessary.
Comment from Muffins
After the doctor's talk, I can sense that you felt the end was coming near. Let's hope your family won't drag you through a repeat of the drama surrounding your mother's situation.
reply by the author on 27-Jul-2015
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After the doctor's talk, I can sense that you felt the end was coming near. Let's hope your family won't drag you through a repeat of the drama surrounding your mother's situation.
Comment Written 27-Jul-2015
reply by the author on 27-Jul-2015
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You know what they say: Funerals bring out the worst in everyone.
Don't hold your breath, Muffins.
Comment from boxergirl
Glad to see Barbara step up and apologize for hitting you. So hard to have to deal withissues relating to aging loved ones. But sometimes there are are no options except nursing homes.
reply by the author on 28-Jul-2015
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Glad to see Barbara step up and apologize for hitting you. So hard to have to deal withissues relating to aging loved ones. But sometimes there are are no options except nursing homes.
Comment Written 26-Jul-2015
reply by the author on 28-Jul-2015
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It sure eased my mind when Barb apologized. I thought maybe at last someone was on my side. Turns out I was wrong. :-(
Comment from Leen1
It filled my heart with joy when you expressed the content of the letter received to your mother, as it gave her some happiness. However, I was sadden by the news that your mother would not return to your home. How would she take it? Would the knowledge of it increase her illness. Your writing does make the reader experience every situation with you, so much so, that I note that after reading each chapter I breathe either a deep sigh of relief or agony depending on what was written. Thanks for another great read of your life experience.
reply by the author on 26-Jul-2015
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It filled my heart with joy when you expressed the content of the letter received to your mother, as it gave her some happiness. However, I was sadden by the news that your mother would not return to your home. How would she take it? Would the knowledge of it increase her illness. Your writing does make the reader experience every situation with you, so much so, that I note that after reading each chapter I breathe either a deep sigh of relief or agony depending on what was written. Thanks for another great read of your life experience.
Comment Written 26-Jul-2015
reply by the author on 26-Jul-2015
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Oh, Leen. Get the tissue out for the next read. Be sure to listen to the song too. Appreciate your supportive reviews.
Comment from sibhus
It's always tough when a love one gets to the point where the life becomes just a series of trips back and forth to the hospital. It never fails family members can never agree on what's best for the relative. Interesting chapter, Spitfire.
reply by the author on 26-Jul-2015
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It's always tough when a love one gets to the point where the life becomes just a series of trips back and forth to the hospital. It never fails family members can never agree on what's best for the relative. Interesting chapter, Spitfire.
Comment Written 26-Jul-2015
reply by the author on 26-Jul-2015
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Thanks, husky. Posting the next chapter today.
I promise you drama and a miracle.
Comment from cercie
What a great read I know exactly what it is to have someone in your moms condition.
It is painful to know they cannot go home and not know how to tell them.
I am looking forward to the next chapter.
hugs
reply by the author on 25-Jul-2015
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What a great read I know exactly what it is to have someone in your moms condition.
It is painful to know they cannot go home and not know how to tell them.
I am looking forward to the next chapter.
hugs
Comment Written 25-Jul-2015
reply by the author on 25-Jul-2015
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Thanks, Christine. Working on it now.
Comment from meggie13
Your mother is not going home with you as you planned. Sad, she was very happy when you told your intensions. The doctor thinks she should be in a nursing home ; with all the care she needs you have to agree. Your sister Barbara sends you a letter apologizing for her behavior towards you. You are planning to visit the nursing home. Very good chapter at least there were no confrontations.
reply by the author on 25-Jul-2015
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Your mother is not going home with you as you planned. Sad, she was very happy when you told your intensions. The doctor thinks she should be in a nursing home ; with all the care she needs you have to agree. Your sister Barbara sends you a letter apologizing for her behavior towards you. You are planning to visit the nursing home. Very good chapter at least there were no confrontations.
Comment Written 25-Jul-2015
reply by the author on 25-Jul-2015
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Good for you. Think on the bright side.
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Yes, I am hoping that the rivalry ends.
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Yes, I am hoping that the rivalry ends.
Comment from joann r romei
glad she apologized, it was the right thing to do, and your mom did need professional care, cant wait to hear the rest, good job here with the hospital scene.
reply by the author on 24-Jul-2015
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glad she apologized, it was the right thing to do, and your mom did need professional care, cant wait to hear the rest, good job here with the hospital scene.
Comment Written 24-Jul-2015
reply by the author on 24-Jul-2015
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Thanks, joann. Appreciate that you continue to follow, my friend.
