Comment from Rosalyne

Excellent

Hi, Shari.
I can understand how you and Frank felt slighted at Nichole and Jeff's wedding. I think you did a marvelous job holding back the entire time, from the comment "boring" to the exclusion of being a part of the wedding party. This is hurtful.

I had a similar experience at my brother's wedding. Not only did I sit as a guest at my own house where it took place, I wasn't in any pictures. :)

We forgive, but not forget.
Bye, my friend.
Rosalyne :)

 Comment Written 28-Nov-2015

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reply by the author on 28-Nov-2015

It does hurt to slighted, and you're so right about forgiving but never forgetting. :)

Comment from w.j.debi

Excellent

Weddings do seem to bring out the stress of unpleasant emotions. Every one I've been involved in has somebody mad at somebody else. I guess the good part is that your daughter cared enough to call and talk to you. Silence would have been worse.

 Comment Written 28-Jun-2015

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reply by the author on 28-Jun-2015

I'm glad I had a simple wedding. Couldn't afford more. Most of the guests were Mom and Dad's friends since it took place in my hometown with my friends long gone. You're right about the phone call.

Comment from Walu Feral

Excellent

G'day Shari, this is another very interesting chapter mate. I had to laugh at you saying first..."my husbands like a dog with a bone"...and then "Nichole's like a Rottweiler" that's funny. Very enjoyable and interesting. Cheers Fez

 Comment Written 20-Jun-2015

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reply by the author on 20-Jun-2015

I'm so glad you caught that connection. No one else did.

Comment from mermaids

Excellent

I can see your viewpoint, you and your husband shouldn't have been in a corner at the wedding. The Flashdance routine is very different too, I never would think of seeing the dance at a wedding. Your story continues to hold my interest.

 Comment Written 19-Jun-2015

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reply by the author on 19-Jun-2015

Thanks, Elaine. Glad to hear it. ;-)

Comment from Muffins

Excellent

I'm on your side with this one. You expressed your feelings and Frank's with kindness, kid gloves. I think more attention should have been put into making you and your husband as comfortable as Jeff's parents.

 Comment Written 19-Jun-2015

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reply by the author on 19-Jun-2015

Looking back, I see that Jeff was the focal point since 97% of the guests were his old friends. I'm sure he planned the seating arrangement.

Comment from Leen1

Excellent

It's enough to make you scream out loud. Love is of course blind until you are made to see true colors by the very one you so adore. Nicole has yet to learn I'm sure. Great memoir.

 Comment Written 19-Jun-2015

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reply by the author on 19-Jun-2015

It's taking time, but she does see his flaws now. Still he loves her unconditionally and it's better than having no one.

Comment from kiwijenny

Excellent

Oh Shari,
Weddings are strange aren't they. My husband asked at my daughter's wedding not to say "Who gives this woman away?" He wanted to present her. Kyle's response was not to respect my husband's feelings. My husband handled it with good grace but it was awkward and he was hurt.
I'm sorry you wrote it down..like your mom I don't think letters are a good idea. They are up for interpretation by the party that receives it
Good writing
God bless

 Comment Written 19-Jun-2015

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reply by the author on 19-Jun-2015

Sounds like a power thing. Kyle wants him to know who's boss now. Glad your hubby handled it well. Good point about interpretation of letters.

Comment from joann r romei

Excellent

This is a tough situation, seems like the unhappiness in general you and Frank felt, went into being ultra sensitive about things that could have been dismissed to keep peace, it also suggests you want to express feeling to your daughter she is too young and too in love to understand yet.

 Comment Written 19-Jun-2015

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reply by the author on 19-Jun-2015

Joann, this is such an insightful review. Thank you so much.

Comment from Shirley B

Exceptional

Dear Shari, I would have felt heartbroken too. I probably would have written 55 letters just not real sure if I would have sent them. LOL I could feel your pain in this chapter. Great chapter. Something tells me she is going to talk to you again, Shirley

 Comment Written 18-Jun-2015

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reply by the author on 19-Jun-2015

Oh Shirley, I do appreciate that six for pouring my heart out.
Unfortunately, it takes a catastrophe in her life to bring us together again.

Comment from Selina Stambi

Excellent

I couched it in polite terms and didn't use exclamation points... this line made me smile. I know exactly what you mean. :)

Hi Shari,

The agony of the mother/daughter dynamic is so well told.

This chapter really touched me. I nodded, chewed my lip and felt for you.

Hugs and love,

Sonali

p.s. Congrats on being chosen Recongized Writer. You deserve it. :)

 Comment Written 18-Jun-2015

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reply by the author on 18-Jun-2015

Thanks, Sonali. I had just about given up on getting the famous ribbon. It's nice to know you felt emotion in this chapter. I was hurting way bad.

reply by Selina Stambi on 18-Jun-2015

I don't know what I would have done if my daughter consigned me to a corner.

reply by the author on 18-Jun-2015

Without making a scene and spoiling her big day, I had no choice but to grin and bear it. Anything else might have caused permanent damage.