Room Service
Preparing for death25 total reviews
Comment from Jumbo J
Hi Ingrid,
I considered writing for this prompt, as I find it to be a very valid point of debate as to if one should have the right to know when enough is enough.
You wrote this wonderful letter with a preciseness of intent... good for your children, but alas, some poor domestic hotel worker will have to discover your lifeless body after your last ha-rah... but the dignity in the planning of your own demise for me was admirable... to not want to lay burden on those who loved you... to watch and experience nothing but suffering, heartache and memory that disease offers... yes this was a special gift to you and your family... and even the way you wrote " there was no distress, no pain and no sorrow" well of course you couldn't have know that before hand... only after, but in saying that, the sentiment of your desire to release the burden of the thought that you may have suffered in any way, was yet, just another intended support to the people you loved and cared for.
I know this topic will have some strong opinions as to what right one has to take the responsibility of ones own death into their own hands... but I for one, would want the same opportunity to make an informed decision if the time and situation demanded that action... so I applaud you and your strength.
All the very best in this contest... just hope your still around to collect the winnings... or did you will that as well? Smile)))))))))).
With our thoughts we create,
the action of our intention,
James vx's
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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Hi Ingrid,
I considered writing for this prompt, as I find it to be a very valid point of debate as to if one should have the right to know when enough is enough.
You wrote this wonderful letter with a preciseness of intent... good for your children, but alas, some poor domestic hotel worker will have to discover your lifeless body after your last ha-rah... but the dignity in the planning of your own demise for me was admirable... to not want to lay burden on those who loved you... to watch and experience nothing but suffering, heartache and memory that disease offers... yes this was a special gift to you and your family... and even the way you wrote " there was no distress, no pain and no sorrow" well of course you couldn't have know that before hand... only after, but in saying that, the sentiment of your desire to release the burden of the thought that you may have suffered in any way, was yet, just another intended support to the people you loved and cared for.
I know this topic will have some strong opinions as to what right one has to take the responsibility of ones own death into their own hands... but I for one, would want the same opportunity to make an informed decision if the time and situation demanded that action... so I applaud you and your strength.
All the very best in this contest... just hope your still around to collect the winnings... or did you will that as well? Smile)))))))))).
With our thoughts we create,
the action of our intention,
James vx's
Comment Written 26-May-2015
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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I tool my 19 1/2 cat to the vet, knowing I would do nothing intrusive, but the growth on her face is growing fast. She has bone cancer, and early in the conversation, the vet told me about the new euthanasia methods. She's still around, but the day I call, it will happen immediately. People don't have that compassion, yet I think its coming.
As always, thanks for the stars.
And James, I haven't done my 2012/13 taxes,
Wouldn't dream of checking out before I look after business. Thanks for the stars.
Comment from Cumbrianlass
I don't think it will be long before other assisted suicide becomes available in most western countries. To die with dignity, when no chance of recovery from an illness is likely, should be a choice made with the support of doctors and family members.
I've no doubt you'll do well with this entry. There's a certain shock factor coupled with a sweet sense of peace. It works well.
You home tomorrow? I want to call for a quick chat.
Av
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reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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I don't think it will be long before other assisted suicide becomes available in most western countries. To die with dignity, when no chance of recovery from an illness is likely, should be a choice made with the support of doctors and family members.
I've no doubt you'll do well with this entry. There's a certain shock factor coupled with a sweet sense of peace. It works well.
You home tomorrow? I want to call for a quick chat.
Av
xxxx
Comment Written 26-May-2015
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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Thanks, I totally agree.
Yes, I'm in until 3 260-0912 ususl area code.
Comment from ExperiencingLiphe
This is so sad and I know someone has probably done something like this. We had a young man in a town just over from us, he went missing, they found in Vegas. He went to Vegas and killed himself. I forget everything that was going on, he too, had his reasons. They say that suicide is selfish but it's usually the opposite. They are doing it because they usually feel like a burden on others and want them to be free. They want to be free from everything they are going through. You did a great job with this friend.
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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This is so sad and I know someone has probably done something like this. We had a young man in a town just over from us, he went missing, they found in Vegas. He went to Vegas and killed himself. I forget everything that was going on, he too, had his reasons. They say that suicide is selfish but it's usually the opposite. They are doing it because they usually feel like a burden on others and want them to be free. They want to be free from everything they are going through. You did a great job with this friend.
Comment Written 26-May-2015
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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Old age/medical choices is not the same as a young person who reached the end of his rope. I think you definitely know the difference. Thanks.
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I know what you mean. My dad always says that if he gets to the point to where he can't wipe is own butt or do stuff like that where he is constantly relying on someone he wants us to shoot him or help him put himself outta his misery. I hope that day never comes and when the day comes, hopefully it's way down the road, but hopefully he goes peacefully in his sleep or something so we don't have to go through something like that. He also always says: Why do we get to put dogs down but people have to suffer through stuff like cancer. For a dog it's horrible to make a dog suffer and you cringe when someone says their dog is doing chemo but when it's a person you have to do chemo, even if it's terminal, otherwise they cringe you're not fighting. Oh boy does he get mad.
Comment from Sasha
This is superbly written. I completely agree that a person has the right to die with dignity and unlike so many, I do not view suicide as a cowardly way out. Knowing your children will be faced with having to deal with your daily pain is not what any parent would want for their child. This is an excellent entry for this contest and I sincerely wish you all the best.
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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This is superbly written. I completely agree that a person has the right to die with dignity and unlike so many, I do not view suicide as a cowardly way out. Knowing your children will be faced with having to deal with your daily pain is not what any parent would want for their child. This is an excellent entry for this contest and I sincerely wish you all the best.
Comment Written 26-May-2015
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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I'd like to think there would be medically assisted suicide, but if not, I have no doubt that I can find the means to make it happen anyway. Thanks.
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I've had lots of practice in that area and know exactly what and how I would do it if it came down to making the decision. I do not want to be a burden to anyone and the thought of dying in horrific pain would give me the incentive to follow through with it too. Anyone that says suicide is selfish, really doesn't know what the individual is experiencing and has no right to make that judgement.
Comment from judiverse
This is amazing, and best of luck in the contest. The details create sympathy for the character and her reasons for ending life on her own terms. Having one's affairs in order, as this woman did, is so important. The children should be grateful to her for not leaving things for them to resolve and possibly end up with family conflicts. I don't know about the place for committing suicide, but maybe better than in her own home. judi
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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This is amazing, and best of luck in the contest. The details create sympathy for the character and her reasons for ending life on her own terms. Having one's affairs in order, as this woman did, is so important. The children should be grateful to her for not leaving things for them to resolve and possibly end up with family conflicts. I don't know about the place for committing suicide, but maybe better than in her own home. judi
Comment Written 26-May-2015
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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The prompt wasn't my choice, but I think there's a huge difference between disease motivated end of life and despair. But within today's drug culture, there's always a way to find the means. Thanks.
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You're welcome. You are certainly right about the difference between disease motivated end of life and suicide out of despair. judi
Comment from Donya Quijote
Wow! This suicide was well prepared and has prepared well her family for the coming death. Nothing was overlooked, every possibility accounted for. Dignity and quality of life are often forgotten in this day and age when life no matter what seems so important. This one is sure to be the winner.
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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Wow! This suicide was well prepared and has prepared well her family for the coming death. Nothing was overlooked, every possibility accounted for. Dignity and quality of life are often forgotten in this day and age when life no matter what seems so important. This one is sure to be the winner.
Comment Written 26-May-2015
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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Thank you very much for the stars and the open heart that understands when age and infirmity destroy real living, a dignified death should be available.
Comment from N.K. Wagner
Oh, you'd be surprised at what some people choose to fight about, Ingrid. They have to expend their anger somewhere, and siblings, especially, are a handy target. An interesting take on taking complete control of one's final moments. Well done. :) Nancy
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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Oh, you'd be surprised at what some people choose to fight about, Ingrid. They have to expend their anger somewhere, and siblings, especially, are a handy target. An interesting take on taking complete control of one's final moments. Well done. :) Nancy
Comment Written 26-May-2015
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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Yeah, I imagine the things that the kids wouldn't dare say when mom was alive, all come out after death. Thanks for the read, and thanks for the letter I received today.
Comment from jlsavell
Ingrid,
As far as I am concerned you should win this hands down. No if, ands and buts.
Dying with dignity is often one of the things taken from us when terminally ill.
This probably happens more than we know. As someone who has worked in the deathservice industry, I am on board with you about arrangements. If everyone only knew the decisions loved ones have to make within 24 hours of deceased. It is gut wrenching.
Well done. Loved it.
Jimi
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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Ingrid,
As far as I am concerned you should win this hands down. No if, ands and buts.
Dying with dignity is often one of the things taken from us when terminally ill.
This probably happens more than we know. As someone who has worked in the deathservice industry, I am on board with you about arrangements. If everyone only knew the decisions loved ones have to make within 24 hours of deceased. It is gut wrenching.
Well done. Loved it.
Jimi
Comment Written 26-May-2015
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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I've had to deal with these issues as well, and understand the pressure. Thanks for a wonderful review.
Comment from Jay Squires
I never thought of a suicide note as an opportunity to express one's love of family, but also answer the whys of choosing this method self-determination, as well as the hows of taking care of the after-death details.
And we are not too far away from the reality of assisted suicide being legal in the US.
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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I never thought of a suicide note as an opportunity to express one's love of family, but also answer the whys of choosing this method self-determination, as well as the hows of taking care of the after-death details.
And we are not too far away from the reality of assisted suicide being legal in the US.
Comment Written 26-May-2015
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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My 19 1.2 yr old cat has facial bone cancer, and one of the first things the vet discussed with me after diagnosis was a merciful death. I totally agree, humans need those rights. Thanks.
Comment from nancy_e_davis
There's no way to include suicide as an act of love. That would be
a very selfish and cruel thing to lay on children's memories of their mother.
That said it is an interesting suicide note. Well done Ingrid :<) Nancy
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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There's no way to include suicide as an act of love. That would be
a very selfish and cruel thing to lay on children's memories of their mother.
That said it is an interesting suicide note. Well done Ingrid :<) Nancy
Comment Written 26-May-2015
reply by the author on 26-May-2015
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Do you believe that the alternate, turning one's children into death-bed slaves is a better solution? I understand that many faiths are strongly opposed to any assisted death, but I firmly believe that when a person is suffering so much that living is pure hell, we should have a choice. Thanks for the review.
