Mom's Legacy
The best hand-me-downs are in wise words.34 total reviews
Comment from Nuad1
An absolutely ethereal look back at life w/mom, dad, sibling; one that I (we must be in the same age group!) can relate to with the same kind of frustration and anxiety of which is written in these lines . . our parents did the best they could BUT boy-0-boy do we have "issues" because of them!!! Have a happy holiday and THANK YOU so much for sharing and putting a humor-spin on what "was". Audrey
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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An absolutely ethereal look back at life w/mom, dad, sibling; one that I (we must be in the same age group!) can relate to with the same kind of frustration and anxiety of which is written in these lines . . our parents did the best they could BUT boy-0-boy do we have "issues" because of them!!! Have a happy holiday and THANK YOU so much for sharing and putting a humor-spin on what "was". Audrey
Comment Written 25-Nov-2013
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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What a lovely review,Audrey and thanks so much for the six. Yes, our parents did do the best they could. I suspect we have given our kids issues too. At least, that's what my daughter believes.
Comment from adewpearl
Your mom sounds like my kinda gal with her advice even if we are on a different page about the clothing inspection. LOL
What a wonderfully warm character sketch of your mother, whom you obviously love and appreciate in all kinds of ways :-)
And I truly do love each bit of advice :-) Brooke
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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Your mom sounds like my kinda gal with her advice even if we are on a different page about the clothing inspection. LOL
What a wonderfully warm character sketch of your mother, whom you obviously love and appreciate in all kinds of ways :-)
And I truly do love each bit of advice :-) Brooke
Comment Written 25-Nov-2013
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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Thanks, Brooke. Mom and I became soulmates as I grew into my forties. But I do remember those inspections. She was always so concerned about the impression my sister and I would make on others.
Comment from judiverse
I just have to go with 6 for this. It is wonderful, and your recollection of your mother's wisdom and advice certainly brings back memories. How great was it for parents to notice how their children dressed and behaved. Now, it seems, many parents don't care. Many of us could sing along with some of your mother's advice about sending thank you letters and not calling adults by their first names. I liked the "Your body is a temple. Be careful who or what you let in." Children do remember what their parents say, even though they may not seem to pay attention. Parents should make those memories positive. judi
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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I just have to go with 6 for this. It is wonderful, and your recollection of your mother's wisdom and advice certainly brings back memories. How great was it for parents to notice how their children dressed and behaved. Now, it seems, many parents don't care. Many of us could sing along with some of your mother's advice about sending thank you letters and not calling adults by their first names. I liked the "Your body is a temple. Be careful who or what you let in." Children do remember what their parents say, even though they may not seem to pay attention. Parents should make those memories positive. judi
Comment Written 25-Nov-2013
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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As usual, you picked up every thing I felt important. As for proper dressing, teens today change into provocative clothes once they reach school.
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Society is so much more complicated now. Even kids who live in the country like I did have the same exposure to stuff through TV and the internet. judi
Comment from Louise Michelle
Hi Shari,
I'm laughing at your line about sweat vs perspire. I was never allowed to use the word fart. Expel gas was the preferred term.
My mother too! I always had to write thank you notes and it has stayed with me. Young people can be so rude.
Ditto again on using proper titles for adults. Wow, my mother would never say that to me. (who or what you let in). One partner love more? True in some relationships, but not most of them.
All in all, your mom gave good advice.
Hugs,
Lou
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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Hi Shari,
I'm laughing at your line about sweat vs perspire. I was never allowed to use the word fart. Expel gas was the preferred term.
My mother too! I always had to write thank you notes and it has stayed with me. Young people can be so rude.
Ditto again on using proper titles for adults. Wow, my mother would never say that to me. (who or what you let in). One partner love more? True in some relationships, but not most of them.
All in all, your mom gave good advice.
Hugs,
Lou
Comment Written 25-Nov-2013
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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Thanks, Lou. My sister came up with one that still have me pondering its true "You're never really free to be yourself until your parents die." I suspect the messages reflect the personality who wrote them.
Hugs,
Shari
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I don't agree with that. As we mature, we don't feel we have to please our parents. However, even after they die they still influence us because of the teachings they instilled in us.
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I agree. But then my sister chose to alienate herself from the family.
Comment from boxergirl
Great job with your non-fiction essay. I really enjoyed reading your mother-daughter experiences, mostly because, if we were lucky, we could all relate to them. I also liked the way you connected it your own experience as a mother and shared your children's golden nuggets. The contrast of red and black type made it easy to read. BG 8-)
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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Great job with your non-fiction essay. I really enjoyed reading your mother-daughter experiences, mostly because, if we were lucky, we could all relate to them. I also liked the way you connected it your own experience as a mother and shared your children's golden nuggets. The contrast of red and black type made it easy to read. BG 8-)
Comment Written 25-Nov-2013
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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Thank you,BG, for the lovely green plus. Many readers are relating to this. Glad you liked the format that marks the messages
Comment from InterestingRon
Hi Shari,
Wow! What an account of the ins and outs of female etiquette.
I've always enjoyed the story of George Bernard Shaw - farting in a railway carriage. A gentleman roared, "How dare you fart in front of my wife?" GBS repled, "I'm sorry, I didn't know it was her turn."
Good luck in the contest!
Ron x
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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Hi Shari,
Wow! What an account of the ins and outs of female etiquette.
I've always enjoyed the story of George Bernard Shaw - farting in a railway carriage. A gentleman roared, "How dare you fart in front of my wife?" GBS repled, "I'm sorry, I didn't know it was her turn."
Good luck in the contest!
Ron x
Comment Written 25-Nov-2013
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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What a great story. Thanks for my first laugh of the day.
Shari x too
Comment from Rosalyne
Hi Shari,
This is a great post, your mother a wise lady! She insisted upon respect, both to give and have for yourself. As much as we think of ourselves unique and different to our parents were not. It always amazes me when I say something and hear my mother's words coming out of my mouth. One expression your mother used was a common one in my house, "Horses sweat. Young ladies perspire." My mother replaced the word horses with cows. LOL Great post.
Bye
Rosalyne :)
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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Hi Shari,
This is a great post, your mother a wise lady! She insisted upon respect, both to give and have for yourself. As much as we think of ourselves unique and different to our parents were not. It always amazes me when I say something and hear my mother's words coming out of my mouth. One expression your mother used was a common one in my house, "Horses sweat. Young ladies perspire." My mother replaced the word horses with cows. LOL Great post.
Bye
Rosalyne :)
Comment Written 25-Nov-2013
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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I knew readers, especially women,could relate to this. LOL
Comment from c_lucas
"Always wear clean underwear." The one thing Ma use to say. Your post brought back memories, the opening line is the one I remembered as one of her favorites, Your entry is very well written. Good luck in your contest.
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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"Always wear clean underwear." The one thing Ma use to say. Your post brought back memories, the opening line is the one I remembered as one of her favorites, Your entry is very well written. Good luck in your contest.
Comment Written 25-Nov-2013
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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OMG. And here I thought it was original! :-)
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You're welcome, Spitfire. Charlie
Comment from humpwhistle
Shari, my reaction to this piece is based purely on style.
See, I view this as a personal exploration of your relationship with you mother. But you've formatted it like one of your tutorials. It's cold. I have to assume there is significance to this--particularly when I re-read the opening paragraph--but you don't reveal what you're really thinking.
Sorry for the curbside psychology, but I can't help but wonder if the 'medium is the message' in this case.
Peace, Lee
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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Shari, my reaction to this piece is based purely on style.
See, I view this as a personal exploration of your relationship with you mother. But you've formatted it like one of your tutorials. It's cold. I have to assume there is significance to this--particularly when I re-read the opening paragraph--but you don't reveal what you're really thinking.
Sorry for the curbside psychology, but I can't help but wonder if the 'medium is the message' in this case.
Peace, Lee
Comment Written 25-Nov-2013
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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Good observation, Lee. I actually started this out as just a listing. You do have a point here. I appreciate the honesty.
Comment from kenni
I respect all the red lines; your mom knew her business. You are a fortunate daughter. Be careful what you say in anger, made a big hit, as did, in any relationship... I like no. 1, also. Common sense may prevail, but it doesn't always follow the heart, unless it has some good guidelines. kenni
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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I respect all the red lines; your mom knew her business. You are a fortunate daughter. Be careful what you say in anger, made a big hit, as did, in any relationship... I like no. 1, also. Common sense may prevail, but it doesn't always follow the heart, unless it has some good guidelines. kenni
Comment Written 25-Nov-2013
reply by the author on 25-Nov-2013
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Thanks, kenni. My mom always seemed to know what to say to make me feel good. I tried to do the same with my kids, but did screw up big time with my daughter. Sigh...
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You have, absolutely, no way of knowing--luck is always involved. The boy I thought would be the brightest, steadiest, and most productive is a bum.
