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Comment from Sandra Stoner-Mitchell
I can remember my late husband feeling that way, but he couldn't refuse because it could have been life threatening for me to have another child. He was fine after, but I can understand it is more worrying for a man than a woman. We are just pleased we don't have to worry about falling pregnant again. I have to say, this was nice to read the man's side about this tricky subject, it made me laugh, though. Sorry!! :)) Sandra x
reply by the author on 14-May-2022
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I can remember my late husband feeling that way, but he couldn't refuse because it could have been life threatening for me to have another child. He was fine after, but I can understand it is more worrying for a man than a woman. We are just pleased we don't have to worry about falling pregnant again. I have to say, this was nice to read the man's side about this tricky subject, it made me laugh, though. Sorry!! :)) Sandra x
Comment Written 14-May-2022
reply by the author on 14-May-2022
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It was meant to be funny. This is mostly true about my feelings during the talk with the doctor and his being slanted away from the tubal ligation. My wife band seemed to be in cahoots.
Comment from buggaboo4699
I really liked this story. It tells about things that happen in every day life and those are the kind I like the most. This was very well written with great detail. Thank you for sharing!
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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I really liked this story. It tells about things that happen in every day life and those are the kind I like the most. This was very well written with great detail. Thank you for sharing!
Comment Written 08-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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Thank you, bugaboo, for the excellent review. Bill
Comment from jpduck
I thought this was written with a good light touch, despite a couple of rather over-elaborate metaphors (the shark barrier and the finder's fee).
Adrian
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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I thought this was written with a good light touch, despite a couple of rather over-elaborate metaphors (the shark barrier and the finder's fee).
Adrian
Comment Written 08-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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Thank you, Adrian, for the excellent review. I am as infamous as a flatulent fat lady on the 18th hole in a one-stoke golf game for applying overdone metaphors. Bill
Comment from Linda Kay
You did a good job sharing a very personal experience and merging technical information, emotions, points of view and even a little humor. When we went though this many years ago, my husband was totally on board, and I was an emotional wreck with two toddlers 20 months apart thinking "My babies are the most wonderfully thing in the world, who wouldn't want more?" In hindsight with two twenty-somethings, we ended up with the right size family for us (as did the family with five children, right for them.)
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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You did a good job sharing a very personal experience and merging technical information, emotions, points of view and even a little humor. When we went though this many years ago, my husband was totally on board, and I was an emotional wreck with two toddlers 20 months apart thinking "My babies are the most wonderfully thing in the world, who wouldn't want more?" In hindsight with two twenty-somethings, we ended up with the right size family for us (as did the family with five children, right for them.)
Comment Written 08-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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Thank you, Linda, for the excellent review. It worked out well for us as well. Now, the grandchildren.
Comment from Curly Girly
I thought this was well written and it gives insight to how men might feel about this. Each couple has to make their own decisions. Often women take the stance, "Well, I had the kids, now it's your turn." I don't like that approach. I opted for a fibriectomy sterilisation, which is more reliable and non-reversible. Men and fertility have some deep mental ties which should not be tampered with. Vasectomies can make men think they have a licence to travel and not be held accountable again--it can be a 'pay back' way for having the snip. Men have much adversity in this modern feminist world, surely loving wives should not add to it by demanding that their man has the snip. Sterilisation means less to a woman than to a man. Men want to fire ammo, not blanks!
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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I thought this was well written and it gives insight to how men might feel about this. Each couple has to make their own decisions. Often women take the stance, "Well, I had the kids, now it's your turn." I don't like that approach. I opted for a fibriectomy sterilisation, which is more reliable and non-reversible. Men and fertility have some deep mental ties which should not be tampered with. Vasectomies can make men think they have a licence to travel and not be held accountable again--it can be a 'pay back' way for having the snip. Men have much adversity in this modern feminist world, surely loving wives should not add to it by demanding that their man has the snip. Sterilisation means less to a woman than to a man. Men want to fire ammo, not blanks!
Comment Written 08-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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My doctor sold this as a way to enjoy sex without thinking we were producing another family member. Thank you for reviewing this, CG. Bill
Comment from mfowler
As a victim, after two boys, I can immediately connect with all you went through here. I'm not sure I saw the vasectomy in quite so grand-a-terms as 'she was assigning the date that my lineage would end', but I did think I would be less of a man. But, once the female of the species has been through the pregnancy and birthing process, it's really hard to argue with the logic of taking the easier option, your ability to reproduce. You've related these episodes very amusingly and yet with respect. Loved:Two kids proved we had rhythm; what we needed was a change of tune. Well written.
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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As a victim, after two boys, I can immediately connect with all you went through here. I'm not sure I saw the vasectomy in quite so grand-a-terms as 'she was assigning the date that my lineage would end', but I did think I would be less of a man. But, once the female of the species has been through the pregnancy and birthing process, it's really hard to argue with the logic of taking the easier option, your ability to reproduce. You've related these episodes very amusingly and yet with respect. Loved:Two kids proved we had rhythm; what we needed was a change of tune. Well written.
Comment Written 08-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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Thank you, Mark, for reviewing. This was first surgery an adult and the elective nature of it was my only concern. Apparently it was successful. Bill
Comment from sweetwoodjax
this is an excellent write, bill, you did an excellent job writing this essay about the choices you made to prevent pregnancy. my husband wouldn't do the vasectomy so I had the tubal. I was fine with that choice, but the weird thing about it is even though I didn't want to have a child, when it was no longer an option I grieved over not having one
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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this is an excellent write, bill, you did an excellent job writing this essay about the choices you made to prevent pregnancy. my husband wouldn't do the vasectomy so I had the tubal. I was fine with that choice, but the weird thing about it is even though I didn't want to have a child, when it was no longer an option I grieved over not having one
Comment Written 08-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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Thank you, Pam, for the excellent review. After my son and daughter I figured we should stop with perfection. Now that girl will present us with a granddaughter in August. Bill
Comment from JourneyHolm
O man, this story makes me cringe. You wrote very well and adequately expressed both the scene and the emotion of the subject on hand. These lines were particularly interesting and intense for me, "His words were clinical, but his presentation formed a picture in my mind of a virtuous ovum wading out into the ocean and being ravished by lecherous sharks. Tubal ligation would be like barring sweet ovum from the beach. A vasectomy would act as a shark barrier; the tide comes in, but not the sharks." Thank you for sharing.
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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O man, this story makes me cringe. You wrote very well and adequately expressed both the scene and the emotion of the subject on hand. These lines were particularly interesting and intense for me, "His words were clinical, but his presentation formed a picture in my mind of a virtuous ovum wading out into the ocean and being ravished by lecherous sharks. Tubal ligation would be like barring sweet ovum from the beach. A vasectomy would act as a shark barrier; the tide comes in, but not the sharks." Thank you for sharing.
Comment Written 07-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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Thank you, JH, for the excellent review. Bill
Comment from RonSanders
This was reasonably amusing, but far too short, reading more like a story excerpt than like a story. Glad you survived it (the humility), and hope you produce many more.
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reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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This was reasonably amusing, but far too short, reading more like a story excerpt than like a story. Glad you survived it (the humility), and hope you produce many more.
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Comment Written 07-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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Comment from Gloria ....
Ha, very amusing story Bill. It is true that a vasectomy is a much simpler and verifiable surgical procedure than a tubal ligation. You told the story with great trepidation on your part to some delight on our part. No, I'm kidding, I really feel bad for you, man.
Ha. This is really fun phrasing: It seems that even with the "bridge out" there would be sperm already across the span. Those pesky little guys are really determined aren't they?
Great job.
Gloria
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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Ha, very amusing story Bill. It is true that a vasectomy is a much simpler and verifiable surgical procedure than a tubal ligation. You told the story with great trepidation on your part to some delight on our part. No, I'm kidding, I really feel bad for you, man.
Ha. This is really fun phrasing: It seems that even with the "bridge out" there would be sperm already across the span. Those pesky little guys are really determined aren't they?
Great job.
Gloria
Comment Written 07-Jun-2015
reply by the author on 08-Jun-2015
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Thank you, Gloria, for the tremendous review. I should tell the story of the actual surgery; that was hoot. Bill
