A Motherless Child
growing up without a mother47 total reviews
Comment from rchitwood
Your story is very good and one that I can relate too. I lost my mother and sister within five months of each other. During their sickness I cared for both in the same home until they passed away. I still hold onto the feelings of loss after 4 years. Your story is well written and has strong emotions in it. I would recommend this to others. Blessings Rita
reply by the author on 31-Dec-2011
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Your story is very good and one that I can relate too. I lost my mother and sister within five months of each other. During their sickness I cared for both in the same home until they passed away. I still hold onto the feelings of loss after 4 years. Your story is well written and has strong emotions in it. I would recommend this to others. Blessings Rita
Comment Written 31-Dec-2011
reply by the author on 31-Dec-2011
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Thank you so much, rita. I am sorry for your loss - four years is not that long of a time. Hope's book is one that you might find very helpful. I so appreciate your kind words and support. Blessings, Bev
Comment from NGem
Great job! You touched my heart and gave me much to ponder about the pain of losing a mother. It makes me want to value mine all the more. Thank you for sharing your story so openly with all of us!
reply by the author on 31-Dec-2011
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Great job! You touched my heart and gave me much to ponder about the pain of losing a mother. It makes me want to value mine all the more. Thank you for sharing your story so openly with all of us!
Comment Written 30-Dec-2011
reply by the author on 31-Dec-2011
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Thank YOU, NGem. I really appreciate your generous and kind review. Warm regards, Bev
Comment from Melspoems
I hurt for you reading this. I think maybe some people may have not known what to say to you and felt helpless to help so left you alone to grieve...it's not right, I'm not excusing it.
I feel so much pain in your words, and that pain does last forever, that empty whole inside that can never be filled remains. I understand that, even though my mother didn't die.
I think this was very well written, explaining the feelings both emotionally and intelligently, and with good quotes.
Sending you love and hugs Bev
Mel x
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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I hurt for you reading this. I think maybe some people may have not known what to say to you and felt helpless to help so left you alone to grieve...it's not right, I'm not excusing it.
I feel so much pain in your words, and that pain does last forever, that empty whole inside that can never be filled remains. I understand that, even though my mother didn't die.
I think this was very well written, explaining the feelings both emotionally and intelligently, and with good quotes.
Sending you love and hugs Bev
Mel x
Comment Written 30-Dec-2011
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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Thank you, Mel, for your very kind words. I am really touched by your empathy and understanding. It's difficult enough to talk about grief with an adult. Like you say, they did not know what to say to me and so they left me to deal with it alone. I don't want to create the impression that I blame my father and his family for what my mother's death. The tragedy hit many people very hard and everyone had to learn to pick up the pieces. The words I've read from my fellow writers have been amazing and very healing. What a great gift all of you are to me. Blessings and love to you also, Mel.
Comment from livelylinda
Writingfundimension,
Your story saddens me and makes me wonder which is worse - your mother dying or having a mother who never mothers you and sends you off to her mother to be raised? I do know that neither is good and I want to make you feel better. With nuns watching over you all day long at school, and with their ignorance of what children really need, I can only imagine the terror you felt being at school, filled with all those feelings. Your story, which you have graciously shared, is filled with so much of your feelings and your heart and little of your soul. Thank you so much for sharing this very sensitive story.
livelylinda
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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Writingfundimension,
Your story saddens me and makes me wonder which is worse - your mother dying or having a mother who never mothers you and sends you off to her mother to be raised? I do know that neither is good and I want to make you feel better. With nuns watching over you all day long at school, and with their ignorance of what children really need, I can only imagine the terror you felt being at school, filled with all those feelings. Your story, which you have graciously shared, is filled with so much of your feelings and your heart and little of your soul. Thank you so much for sharing this very sensitive story.
livelylinda
Comment Written 30-Dec-2011
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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Thank you for your kind words and thoughtful review, livelylinda.
Comment from Belinda
Hi, Writing, this is so good. I know it is not easy for you to share this story, but I'm glad you decided to share it anyway. Good for you to be able to overcome your sadness though yes, it is true, the 'hole' left by our deceased mothers stays. This is a great entry to the non fiction contest. (Btw who is Sheryl?)
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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Hi, Writing, this is so good. I know it is not easy for you to share this story, but I'm glad you decided to share it anyway. Good for you to be able to overcome your sadness though yes, it is true, the 'hole' left by our deceased mothers stays. This is a great entry to the non fiction contest. (Btw who is Sheryl?)
Comment Written 30-Dec-2011
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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Hi, Belinda. Thank you so very much for your touching review and extremely generous rating. I appreciate your kind words - means more than you know. Sheryl is the author of one of the letters included in Hope Edelman's book and whom I am quoting. You have brought out one area that is a little murky - so thanks for your perceptive question. Happy New Year! Bev
Comment from sweetwoodjax
this is very well written, writingfundimension, a great job writing this story about the pain that you went through after your mother's death and the way you sought to fill that void, i wish you the best of luck in the contest.
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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this is very well written, writingfundimension, a great job writing this story about the pain that you went through after your mother's death and the way you sought to fill that void, i wish you the best of luck in the contest.
Comment Written 30-Dec-2011
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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Thank you so much, sweetwoodjax for your kind review. I appreciate you taking time out to read my entry and thank you for your good wishes. Warm regards, Bev
Comment from uniqueauthor
I can't say I know or understand how you feel, because my nother still lives. But I do understand the feeling of abandonement when on close to you dies. My brother was killed in the Army in 1982 (read I Was There). He was much younger than I, and yet he seemed to understand things that most adults don't understand. It took me a long time to tell his story and get closure, but I did it and I'm proud. The beginning of the healing is the talking. Look inside of youself and you will see a part of your mother still lives in you.
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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I can't say I know or understand how you feel, because my nother still lives. But I do understand the feeling of abandonement when on close to you dies. My brother was killed in the Army in 1982 (read I Was There). He was much younger than I, and yet he seemed to understand things that most adults don't understand. It took me a long time to tell his story and get closure, but I did it and I'm proud. The beginning of the healing is the talking. Look inside of youself and you will see a part of your mother still lives in you.
Comment Written 30-Dec-2011
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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Thank you so much for your excellent feedback. I am sorry you experience such a traumatic loss in your life and am trying to follow in your footsteps by writing this piece. Thank you for the recognition and support. Warm regards, Bev
Comment from Linda England Bonam
This was an absolutely beautiful story, and what a tribute to your Mother that you lost at such an early age. You wrote it with ease and elegance and it was an absolute joy to read. My only regret is not having any sixes left for you, as this one certainly qualifies, in my mind. Best wishes for the New Year. You are a talented writer!
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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This was an absolutely beautiful story, and what a tribute to your Mother that you lost at such an early age. You wrote it with ease and elegance and it was an absolute joy to read. My only regret is not having any sixes left for you, as this one certainly qualifies, in my mind. Best wishes for the New Year. You are a talented writer!
Comment Written 30-Dec-2011
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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Thank you so very much, Linda. I appreciate your words more than you know as well as the gift of the desire for a six to give. Your words are more than wonderful and I so appreciate them. Happy New Year to you, Linda. Blessings, Bev
Comment from Cumbrianlass
Oh, Bev. This is absolutely heart wrenching. You should share this with grief counselors and the various groups that deal with such trauma. I'm a mess. Where to start...
Eve had shared her apple with me and purchased my passage from innocence into the barren landscape of death. - What a brilliant line. Bloody superb. Pardon my French.
I made no list for Santa and what gifts I received seemed ridiculous in the face of what God had taken away. - Yes, indeed. Material objects become completely unimportant.
Time's ravaging of my memory had been relentless and pitiless. And I felt I had betrayed her by not doing everything I could to hold onto her. - This is where you made me cry, damn it. I lost my mum only 14 years ago, yet I miss her every day and regret every single cross word we ever had.
My mother wasn't able to see me graduate from high school or pick out my wedding dress or, even, to meet the great guy I married. She doesn't know I write about her or I wish I could pick up the phone and tell her I'm hurting. But I do - I must - believe there is something of her in my smile and something of her in my love for my sisters. And I hope someday I will get to tell her I never stopped needing her.
Okay, Bev, my lovely friend. I'm afraid I must disagree with this last paragraph. Your mother did see you graduate, she was at your side when you married and she is happy for your happiness. You don't have to pick up a phone. Just tell her. Out loud. I do it all the time. She'll hear you, I promise. Although I guarantee that she already knows it.
Bless you. Av xx
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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Oh, Bev. This is absolutely heart wrenching. You should share this with grief counselors and the various groups that deal with such trauma. I'm a mess. Where to start...
Eve had shared her apple with me and purchased my passage from innocence into the barren landscape of death. - What a brilliant line. Bloody superb. Pardon my French.
I made no list for Santa and what gifts I received seemed ridiculous in the face of what God had taken away. - Yes, indeed. Material objects become completely unimportant.
Time's ravaging of my memory had been relentless and pitiless. And I felt I had betrayed her by not doing everything I could to hold onto her. - This is where you made me cry, damn it. I lost my mum only 14 years ago, yet I miss her every day and regret every single cross word we ever had.
My mother wasn't able to see me graduate from high school or pick out my wedding dress or, even, to meet the great guy I married. She doesn't know I write about her or I wish I could pick up the phone and tell her I'm hurting. But I do - I must - believe there is something of her in my smile and something of her in my love for my sisters. And I hope someday I will get to tell her I never stopped needing her.
Okay, Bev, my lovely friend. I'm afraid I must disagree with this last paragraph. Your mother did see you graduate, she was at your side when you married and she is happy for your happiness. You don't have to pick up a phone. Just tell her. Out loud. I do it all the time. She'll hear you, I promise. Although I guarantee that she already knows it.
Bless you. Av xx
Comment Written 30-Dec-2011
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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Dear Av, thank you doesn't seem quite enough for such an amazing review. You have offered me a gift beyond words by your understanding and support. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for always getting it, my dear friend; and, especially, your last words. I'll cherish them for the rest of my life. Love and hugs, Bev
Comment from Narvik
Very touching, Bev. Must've been difficult to write, but I sense it was also a helpful catharsis.
This was a great line:
"Eve had shared her apple with me and purchased my passage from innocence into the barren landscape of death". Could've been the opening line as well.
One thing I was confused about. You wrote that it had been 50 years since your mother passed away, then you said she passed away in 1981--30 years ago.
Anyway, this was extremely touching and well-written, Bev. I see why it's at the top of today's well-received list.
You probably hear this a lot but, unfortunately, I am out of sixes.
~ CJ
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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Very touching, Bev. Must've been difficult to write, but I sense it was also a helpful catharsis.
This was a great line:
"Eve had shared her apple with me and purchased my passage from innocence into the barren landscape of death". Could've been the opening line as well.
One thing I was confused about. You wrote that it had been 50 years since your mother passed away, then you said she passed away in 1981--30 years ago.
Anyway, this was extremely touching and well-written, Bev. I see why it's at the top of today's well-received list.
You probably hear this a lot but, unfortunately, I am out of sixes.
~ CJ
Comment Written 30-Dec-2011
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2011
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Hi, Jack. Thank you so much for your great review. I so appreciate your support and insights. It's been an amazing experience to hear from so many folks who want to extend their kind thoughts. I especially want to thank you for the desire for a six. I'm truly honored by that! The person who lost her mother in 1981 was Hope Edelman - it's a quote from her book. Have a wonderful New Year and thanks again, Jack. Warm regards, Bev
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Ah, don't know how I missed that. I must have that ADD stuff. Thanks for clearing that up, Bev..
