Living the Elusive Dream
Viewing comments for Chapter 6 "Tale of Two Daughters"Home in Chattanooga 3rd book in Elusive Dream set.
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Comment from Spitfire
You're so right about children being a lifelong commitment. I felt for poor Carol who wasn't aggressive enough to insist on the money. I'm glad Connie changed her ways and became more pleasant. Isn't it odd how children reared by the same parents turn out to be so different. That also happened between my younger sister and me. My aunt explained it by astrology.
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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You're so right about children being a lifelong commitment. I felt for poor Carol who wasn't aggressive enough to insist on the money. I'm glad Connie changed her ways and became more pleasant. Isn't it odd how children reared by the same parents turn out to be so different. That also happened between my younger sister and me. My aunt explained it by astrology.
Comment Written 27-Mar-2024
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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Thank you so much for the excellent review and the six stars. I am amazed at how different kids can be from each other. When we all had our DNA done. I saw they each on got a lot of DNA from different family and some got none from some of the lines.
Comment from lyenochka
I know what you mean - we feel as good as the child who the most problems because as parents, we can't help internalizing their pain. I understand what you mean about Carol who rarely gave you any trouble. It's the "good" kid that we feel the most guilty about.
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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I know what you mean - we feel as good as the child who the most problems because as parents, we can't help internalizing their pain. I understand what you mean about Carol who rarely gave you any trouble. It's the "good" kid that we feel the most guilty about.
Comment Written 27-Mar-2024
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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Thank you, Helen. She and I do a lot of things. She is the most organized and serious, and I trust her to care of things after I'm gone. Until she read this, she hadn't realized how upset we were that we had hurt her by not telling her right away that we would have loaned her the money. She liked that I put that in the book.
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She's so conscientious that she didn't consider pushing beyond the first "No." Your other kids weren't discouraged from continuing to push! 😊
Comment from Ric Myworld
There is nothing like having children, but they come with their share of headaches, heartaches, and absorbent costs. But as problematic as they can be, we wouldn't take anything for them. Thanks for sharing.
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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There is nothing like having children, but they come with their share of headaches, heartaches, and absorbent costs. But as problematic as they can be, we wouldn't take anything for them. Thanks for sharing.
Comment Written 26-Mar-2024
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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Thank you Ric, You know what it is like trying to raise them through the teen years. Do you still keep up with the one you didn't you had?
Beth
Comment from Ben Colder
I am so far behind in reviewing. Hope you will forgive me. I have come to understand that you and Evan and Mary and me had so much in common when raising our kids. Yes. old Dad was the soft touch for mine and still the same today. LOL.
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2024
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I am so far behind in reviewing. Hope you will forgive me. I have come to understand that you and Evan and Mary and me had so much in common when raising our kids. Yes. old Dad was the soft touch for mine and still the same today. LOL.
Comment Written 26-Mar-2024
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2024
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Hey, I've been worried about you. I sent to an e-mail but I didn't hear. Barbara said we should for you so I did but I didn't if it was physical or something else. I appreciate the review. Did Mary play the one that made them work for thier money? I think you Evan had a lot in common. Thank you so much for the six stars. I behind on reviewing to.
Beth
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Been out of it but doing better. I would have loved meeting Evan. Sounds like a likeable person.
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Yes, I would have enjoyed meeting Mary. Evan was a sweetheart but he was on the quiet side. He loved the Lord, gardening, nature and music An never like to say no when asked to do something or give money.
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Sounds like me. LOL.
Comment from LJbutterfly
I admire your ability to manage a large family and still remain sane. Each child is different and presents different challenges to their parents. Without instructions, you do what you think is best at the time, and hope for the best. Based on the stories I've read, I think you have managed quite well.
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2024
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I admire your ability to manage a large family and still remain sane. Each child is different and presents different challenges to their parents. Without instructions, you do what you think is best at the time, and hope for the best. Based on the stories I've read, I think you have managed quite well.
Comment Written 26-Mar-2024
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2024
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Thank you for the nice review. At times I didn't think I was doing very well but they all seem to really love me, and they haven't turned out that bad. I'm proud of things they've accomplished.
Comment from Jim Wile
Parenting can be tough, as you point out in this well written slice of life story. Like you said, children don't come with an instruction book, and every kid is different. What worked with some may not work with others. So much of their behavior is related to their personality and the friends they have chosen. Sometimes, it's just a crapshoot, and you only hope you instilled enough good values in them that they will eventually take heed and learn the lessons of reality. Some never do, and I feel sorry for them and their loved ones who tried hard to raise them right.
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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Parenting can be tough, as you point out in this well written slice of life story. Like you said, children don't come with an instruction book, and every kid is different. What worked with some may not work with others. So much of their behavior is related to their personality and the friends they have chosen. Sometimes, it's just a crapshoot, and you only hope you instilled enough good values in them that they will eventually take heed and learn the lessons of reality. Some never do, and I feel sorry for them and their loved ones who tried hard to raise them right.
Comment Written 26-Mar-2024
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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Thank you Jim, It does feel like a crapshoot somethings when you're doing what you think is best as it isn't working. All that stuff is behind them now. They did come round which is not to say don't still make mistakes. I guess we all do.
Comment from royowen
Our two girls were 31/2 years apart but were very close, they never gave us any trouble, I think we were fortunate, they've been fortunate in life too, but larger families would be more diverse, as witnessed with our friends, thanks for sharing Beth, blessings Roy
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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Our two girls were 31/2 years apart but were very close, they never gave us any trouble, I think we were fortunate, they've been fortunate in life too, but larger families would be more diverse, as witnessed with our friends, thanks for sharing Beth, blessings Roy
Comment Written 26-Mar-2024
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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Thank you Roy. My older three didn't give me the kind of problem that Connie did. But Connie did straighten later. All four act like they adore me now, so I feel fortunate the left some of their problems behind.
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That?s great news
Comment from Wendy G
You must have had your hands full with Connie, drinking and smoking etc, at only fourteen. I find all your family stories fascinating. You are right, they don't come with instructions and we just do the best we can at the time. Thanks for sharing another interesting read.
Wendy
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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You must have had your hands full with Connie, drinking and smoking etc, at only fourteen. I find all your family stories fascinating. You are right, they don't come with instructions and we just do the best we can at the time. Thanks for sharing another interesting read.
Wendy
Comment Written 26-Mar-2024
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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Thank you Wendy. She did drink and smoke and even drugs for a while without our knowledge but thankfully she gave it all up and became concerned about her health.
Beth
Comment from Dolly'sPoems
This is so true Beth, we never stop being parents and both may daughters ask my advice all the time and I am just glad I am around to help them. We help our children as much as we can and hope they grow up to be well adjusted adults. Bother mu daughters have been drunk on at least one occasion and soon learn that alcohol is dangerous. This is an open and honest post Beth.
A couple of edits here:
(a severe tornado (struck) near us).
(. . . took Carol back to Atlanta to catch her (flight).
Love Dolly x x x
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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This is so true Beth, we never stop being parents and both may daughters ask my advice all the time and I am just glad I am around to help them. We help our children as much as we can and hope they grow up to be well adjusted adults. Bother mu daughters have been drunk on at least one occasion and soon learn that alcohol is dangerous. This is an open and honest post Beth.
A couple of edits here:
(a severe tornado (struck) near us).
(. . . took Carol back to Atlanta to catch her (flight).
Love Dolly x x x
Comment Written 25-Mar-2024
reply by the author on 28-Mar-2024
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Thank you Dolly. This was a nice review and I enjoyed reading your comments. I appreciate the edit alerts. I've made the corrections.
Beth
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Thank you Dolly. This was a nice review and I enjoyed reading your comments. I appreciate the edit alerts. I've made the corrections.
Beth
Comment from Debbie D'Arcy
Yes but four children, Beth! You're allowed to make mistakes sometimes. It's like juggling plates - sooner or later one or other is going to fall. I still remain forever impressed by how ell you managed your large family! I'm a little confused by: "Another thing I learned from my daughter was that we had hurt her.." When I first read it seemed a bit out of context as though in the past. I now know that you must have been referring to your refusal to loan her the money. Is it possible for you to add maybe - 'as I will go on to explain.' There is also a small edit:
"a severe tornado st(r)uck near us" You know how much I enjoy your stories of family life, always told with such natural and endearing candour (but, trust me, we've all been there!). Thanks for sharing, Beth. Debbie
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2024
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Yes but four children, Beth! You're allowed to make mistakes sometimes. It's like juggling plates - sooner or later one or other is going to fall. I still remain forever impressed by how ell you managed your large family! I'm a little confused by: "Another thing I learned from my daughter was that we had hurt her.." When I first read it seemed a bit out of context as though in the past. I now know that you must have been referring to your refusal to loan her the money. Is it possible for you to add maybe - 'as I will go on to explain.' There is also a small edit:
"a severe tornado st(r)uck near us" You know how much I enjoy your stories of family life, always told with such natural and endearing candour (but, trust me, we've all been there!). Thanks for sharing, Beth. Debbie
Comment Written 25-Mar-2024
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2024
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Thank you Debbie. I felt at the time we were struggling to be good parents and often failing, but in the turned out fine. I do things with my daughter Carol on Tuesday so I was with her yesterday. She always reads my stories before I post them so I told her I was surprised she had no problem with what I said in this chapter. She said loved what I said because I understood she was hurt and that we felt bad about it made her appreciate us more. Thanks of noticing the misspelling. I tried to make the other thing clearer.
