Holly L. Brandt: Friday Night Thoughts: Facts With Deep Impacts What is the most relevant sentence, or quote you ever read? As a writer, I'm also a reader and like Steven King once said "If you want to be a writer, you must do two things above all others; read a lot and write a lot.." and there's more to it, but you get the point! I've read a lot of meaningful words in my years, but one in particular has influenced me the most; ?Dead people receive more flowers than the living ones, because regret is stronger than gratitude.? The first time I comprehended these words, it hit me like a ton of bricks and threw me into an instant reality check. After a brief moment of self-reflection, I knew I had some issues to put to rest. We've all experienced regret at some point in our lives, whether it was small and short-lived or an ongoing process of horrible choices that we made and it happens to the best of us. In my own experiences, I've made more mistakes than I care to think about. All of them resulting in self-inflicted guilt, but today, I've taken some steps to work through these issues and move forward. I've listed some coping strategies that benefited me in many ways. You must learn to accept what's already happened cannot be undone. Acknowledge the mistakes you've already made, because embracing reality and acknowledging the truth is the first step towards releasing regret. Leave the past where it happened and stop talking about your failures and mistakes. The more you give voice to them, the larger they appear to be. Release the reminders of your regrettable actions and ditch them in the past where they belong. Take care of yourself - emotionally and mentally. Don't beat yourself up. If you're a writer, make a list of your good qualities and how they apply to you. Write a positive affirmation once a day and identify how it relates to you. Journaling is great for keeping track of your days - highlights, mood, ect. Do the things you can to open your heart to grace the relief that comes from no longer carrying the burden of blame. Made amends with those you've wronged - unless it would cause harm to yourself or those you're wronged. Analyze the situation so you know what actions to take to so you can mend those relationships and treat them with care. And ast, but not least, be patient and give it some time. Remember, time heals most wounds. Do the opposite of what you regret. We can?t change the past, but we can change how well we live our lives going forward. Regret is a painful, albeit effective teacher, so learn from its lessons. Though we are all subject to the same human condition, we will still continue to make mistakes as long as we live, but taking note of what regret has taught will prevent the repetition of similar actions from happening again. I be sorry for in the future. Replace regretful contemplation with positive actions. Channel your thoughts into what is uplifting. Read something that inspires you These few simple steps have changed my life for the better, and they can for you, too! |
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