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    Life

    How I feel
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Sumayyah: This idea of being lonely among people is very interesting. A friend of mine got married. She said she wants to be with someone and being alone is not working for her any more. She got married. She even got a kid or two and the other day she told me that she still feels lonely when she is not too busy with family matters. Say what? I didn't know what to tell her for sometimes one does not like to hear people telling them how to fix things. Do I know what to tell her in the first place? Is it the choice of the partner? Is it that one gets to feel that no matter what? I am still thinking of something to tell her.
    Lovinia: I felt the same in my twenty year marriage. Yet I am a person who loves alone time as much as being with friends. Since my marriage ended ... I don't seem to feel alone anymore. I don't know what anyone could have said ... I do know in hindsight I didn't feel fulfilled ... my marriage was a one way street ... I gave all the support and received none in return. I blame myself .... our life was based on pursuing his goals ... I didn't take the time to pursue mine. Your friend's marriage may not have to end. Maybe what she needs is to take time to pursue some of her own dreams. :) Lovinia xoxo -
    Sumayyah: Oh! I just saw your answer! This business of marriage is too difficult for me to understand. I will try to give her your account of things but sometimes I feel people have to reach their own resolutions or say hit the bottom before they start listening to others. I think we don't know how to choose our "soul mates" and if by miracle we succeeded then the chance of keeping them or keeping the candle of "love" burning is slight. Many people stay in their relationships for decades but it does not mean that they are happy. I like a story I read to that effect. A woman was dying and her husband found $ 25 or so and a box of dolls. He asked his wife about them. She said the dolls are for every time she felt angry about her husband. The husband was very touched and said, "you were angry from me for only two three times? But what about the money?" She said, "It's from selling the dolls".
    I am sorry that your marriage ended. Women are deeply affected by such a decision. We give more from our soul. I thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. I'll cherish our words and convey your ideas as best as possible.
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    giftpretty1:
    giftlovelife@yahoo.com
    Hello dearest,
    i have really gone through your profile here and
    i think i am very much interested in you,i would there fore like to enter
    into a serious relationship with you.waiting for your response.thanks.
    Regard Gift
    giftlovelife@yahoo.com
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    OldPoet555: the above comment. scares me. is this still fanstory im on?

    as for your dilemma. it is very intriguing. i would say one is always searching until he reaches enlightenment. but to be lonely all the time is not part of that deal. i think the first piece of the advice was perhaps the best, she needs to pursue something individually. that will help in many ways.

    best of luck to you and your friend. -
    Lovinia: I thought Tom cleared these 'scary' msgs off the site. I delete them.

    Hi Sumayyah ... missed you ... I have been off-line for so long. I won't really be back until after Christmas. Hope all is fine with you. Hugs - Lovi xoxo -


Sumayyah: I've been friends with people I work with for over 10 years. I trusted them and thought our relationship is real. I've been working in the same palce for over 16 years and decided to leave. It turned out that they were never my friends. Just pretending since I was their head of the department. It hurts. I read and meet people and know how hard it is to have honest poeple around you. I rememeber a guy who wrote a book in the 16th century entitled Favor Bestowed by Dogs on Humans. He believes that dogs are far more better than humans with regards to friendship:) It took me 15 years to understand him:) I'll survive.


Sumayyah: I was thinking about age the other day. One hits 39 and it seems it is an end of some sort. You can no longer apply to any scholarships. You are over 30. Your chnace in finding a better job is very slight because you are over 30. Finding a partner is slim, you are heading to old age and all people love the young. Then they tell you age is nothing but a number. Most definitely true but a defining number never the less. It's not becuase you feel different, it's because every body around you make sure that you feel the difference.
    sasil: Is 39 too old to be a gold-digger? Kidding--I'm 37 and have noticed all of the same things you've mentioned. We can change our hair, our clothes, our manner of speach, but age? It's forever. I say embrace it and remember the number of people who've already passed this age. I felt this way turning 35. Now, I no longer fight it and just strive to just be the best me that I can be--competing only with myself (I stand a good chance of winning too!). -
    Sumayyah: I try to do the same. It's just people around you keep mentioning the subject. Of course one can do absolutely nothing about it and I'll just do what you said. Thank you so much for the comment. I appreciate it. -
    Carolyn 12: Morning-Late Happy Birthday to you..
    I was just reading your notes. It is hard sometimes to figure out what someone is to you. But, in the end I would rather know I have treated each person with kindness. That way your heart is in the clear and people will realize the truth. If people don't understand and turn their back on you, what have you lost? Only a weak link. By the way, I don't color my hair. I choose to let it grow and braid it when at the best length to do so. You can change the outward appearance-don't get me wrong I adore shopping, but-the outside must match the inside. Otherwise you have a magazine picture without substance. -
    rawahymis: Hello there!
    Don't think twice about bad debts. Let them be.
    AND FORWARD THOUGH WE CANNOT SEE, WE HOPE AND FEAR!
    There shall be more and better friends, rest assured.
    I salute the land of olives and olio sasso!
    NB: Forget about their silly scholarships. I had a lady who was 59 in a class in Orlando, Florida, and she was much better than most of the others.
    40 is when the new threshold opens up, and we shall welcome your expertise with open arms! -
    Sumayyah: I am ever so grateful to your encouraging kind words. I will try to live up to them. I liked the idea of just losing a weak link. How true! Outside matching the inside. True but not for some. I will always try to look at the person as a whole and understand if there is a difference between the outside and the inside though. I am honored with your replies and comments and cherish every single word you all wrote. Can't thank you enough! -