Christmas Woes
The Day My World Turned Upside Down26 total reviews
Comment from Rick Gardner
Difficult to read your story, a sad story of many lives I find difficult how anyone could treat their family in this way. My thoughts go out to you. Each day is different, enjoy the ones you have today.
reply by the author on 05-Jan-2025
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Difficult to read your story, a sad story of many lives I find difficult how anyone could treat their family in this way. My thoughts go out to you. Each day is different, enjoy the ones you have today.
Comment Written 05-Jan-2025
reply by the author on 05-Jan-2025
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Thank you for the great review. My mother was a piece of work. I learned after that to take care of myself. I am a survivor and a warrior. I have friends on FS that have similar stories. Maybe it was a generational thing. I don't know. I am stronger for it.
Cecilia
Comment from kahpot
What a horrible thing for a young girl/anyone really to go through and especially alone as mother was of no help, your sister knew right from the start as she bit his leg, and for a mother to believe or trust her daughter is just not right, very well written****kahpot
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2024
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What a horrible thing for a young girl/anyone really to go through and especially alone as mother was of no help, your sister knew right from the start as she bit his leg, and for a mother to believe or trust her daughter is just not right, very well written****kahpot
Comment Written 30-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 30-Dec-2024
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Thank you for the kind review. What I endured as a child made the strong woman I am today.
Cecilia
Comment from karenina
What would you tell the little you, if she could come forward and speak her truth? I know enough of your writing to know you would never turn that abused child away. You would love her! You can't remake your mother...who is to say how she came to be as cold and dismissive to you as she was?
Telling our story is the first step in letting it go. IT will never fade completely from our memory. You were a victim. Now you are a survivor--and one who had children of your own and did not repeat the cycle of abuse!
I work with battered and abused women now that I am a retired RN. Your story is one I hear over and over...
We are hurt, we are broken, and then we feel we do not deserve someone good. It's a tough thing to shake off. Loving God and feeling His unconditional love for you helps, right?
Cling to that! Know you have friends here who will not ever incriminate you for what was done TO you.
Many of us write to let the pain out. IN doing so we often ease the pain of another -- for we are too numerous to count!
Christmas is a celebration of the birth of Jesus. I defy any child molester to endeavor to overshadow THAT!
Much love,
Karenina
reply by the author on 20-Dec-2024
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What would you tell the little you, if she could come forward and speak her truth? I know enough of your writing to know you would never turn that abused child away. You would love her! You can't remake your mother...who is to say how she came to be as cold and dismissive to you as she was?
Telling our story is the first step in letting it go. IT will never fade completely from our memory. You were a victim. Now you are a survivor--and one who had children of your own and did not repeat the cycle of abuse!
I work with battered and abused women now that I am a retired RN. Your story is one I hear over and over...
We are hurt, we are broken, and then we feel we do not deserve someone good. It's a tough thing to shake off. Loving God and feeling His unconditional love for you helps, right?
Cling to that! Know you have friends here who will not ever incriminate you for what was done TO you.
Many of us write to let the pain out. IN doing so we often ease the pain of another -- for we are too numerous to count!
Christmas is a celebration of the birth of Jesus. I defy any child molester to endeavor to overshadow THAT!
Much love,
Karenina
Comment Written 20-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 20-Dec-2024
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Karenina,
Thank you for the wonderful review. I appreciate you. I do feel safe on this website, hence why I told my story. I am not not ashamed of what happened to me and I have really good friends on here, such as yourself who have my back. Other than the douche bag and his douche comments I have felt nothing but love and support on this site.
You are the best. I know there are a number of women on this sight with similar problem. I have have heard their stories and I have a really close bond with a couple of them.
Jesus is always by my side so I am okay.
Thank you again my friend
Cecilia
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I'm happy to be counted as your friend!
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You have always been very supportive and giving me suggestions for a better poem.
Comment from Ric Myworld
Sadly, your story is more common than you'd ever believe possible. Christmas season is not a happy time to celebrate and rejoice for many, it's just a lonesome, miserable flashback to memories better forgotten, if they could be. There is no holly, jolly, time or joy and cheer, and Santa Clause as never been real. But we can be thankful, and praise His name. Happy Birthday, Jesus! Thanks for sharing.
reply by the author on 20-Dec-2024
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Sadly, your story is more common than you'd ever believe possible. Christmas season is not a happy time to celebrate and rejoice for many, it's just a lonesome, miserable flashback to memories better forgotten, if they could be. There is no holly, jolly, time or joy and cheer, and Santa Clause as never been real. But we can be thankful, and praise His name. Happy Birthday, Jesus! Thanks for sharing.
Comment Written 20-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 20-Dec-2024
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Thank you for the great review. I know I am not alone, sadly. Jesus walks beside me everyday. I know he is the reason for the season.
Cecilia
Comment from joann r romei
I am so sorry that happened to you, hugs, I pray you receive the healing you deserve, only a low life coward would take advantage of someone smaller, he will rot in hell, God bless you.
reply by the author on 20-Dec-2024
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I am so sorry that happened to you, hugs, I pray you receive the healing you deserve, only a low life coward would take advantage of someone smaller, he will rot in hell, God bless you.
Comment Written 19-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 20-Dec-2024
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Joann,
Thank you for the kind review. I've decided that my mother and him both will rot in hell. I chose to be a survivor and not a victim, otherwise he would have won.
Cecilia
Comment from CM Kelly
A very straightforward story. It must have been tough on you to write it. I liked your writing style. You were able to express your issues and related pain very clearly, without trying to seek sympathy. Obviously, you are a strong women. Happy Holidays
reply by the author on 20-Dec-2024
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A very straightforward story. It must have been tough on you to write it. I liked your writing style. You were able to express your issues and related pain very clearly, without trying to seek sympathy. Obviously, you are a strong women. Happy Holidays
Comment Written 19-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 20-Dec-2024
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CM,
Thank you for the wonderful review. I've had many years to deal with it. I chose to be a survivor and not a victim.
Cecilia
Comment from Alexandra Trovato
I believe you. In fact, I was a victim of acquaintance rape at 18. I've also believed my students over the years and caused .molesters to leave their homes, go to jail etc.
I can't give you advice but I can say it was not your fault. Adults are adults and kids are kids. Adults must protest kids not harm them.
No matter what, whatever feelings you had or have surrounding this were not you being bad. You survived. You made it to adulthood. You triumphed. That a hole knew your relationship with mom was bad and he created a criminal act on a minor. You were most likely confused scared and any other feeling in between.
What you went through no one deserves and you do not need to spend your life reliving it. OWN your vert own new Christmas traditional. Whether you are with others or alone, do simple things traditionally each year, movies, decorate, write a Christmas Journal Ebtry each year. After dome years publish the entries. Take your childhood back!
Please keep well,
.Alex
reply by the author on 19-Dec-2024
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I believe you. In fact, I was a victim of acquaintance rape at 18. I've also believed my students over the years and caused .molesters to leave their homes, go to jail etc.
I can't give you advice but I can say it was not your fault. Adults are adults and kids are kids. Adults must protest kids not harm them.
No matter what, whatever feelings you had or have surrounding this were not you being bad. You survived. You made it to adulthood. You triumphed. That a hole knew your relationship with mom was bad and he created a criminal act on a minor. You were most likely confused scared and any other feeling in between.
What you went through no one deserves and you do not need to spend your life reliving it. OWN your vert own new Christmas traditional. Whether you are with others or alone, do simple things traditionally each year, movies, decorate, write a Christmas Journal Ebtry each year. After dome years publish the entries. Take your childhood back!
Please keep well,
.Alex
Comment Written 19-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 19-Dec-2024
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Alex,
Thank you for the kind review. My mother was a gem. That's all I got to say about that. I have had some good Christmases along the way. This is a tough one for reasons going on in the background. I didn't let that kiddie diddler define who I am as an adult. I chose to be a survivor and warrior.
Cecilia
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Good for you. 🙏
Comment from Pearl Edwards
These are such terrible memories for you to live with Cecilia and I think it is brave of you to write about. I don't think it is something you would ever forget but learn what helps you to cope, which you have obviously done. I hope this Christmas brings some joy for you. Thanks for sharing,
Cheers
Valda
reply by the author on 19-Dec-2024
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These are such terrible memories for you to live with Cecilia and I think it is brave of you to write about. I don't think it is something you would ever forget but learn what helps you to cope, which you have obviously done. I hope this Christmas brings some joy for you. Thanks for sharing,
Cheers
Valda
Comment Written 19-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 19-Dec-2024
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Valda,
Thank you for the wonderful review. Writing helps with it. I didn't let it define who I am today. Holidays are a little tough sometimes.
Cecilia
Comment from davisr (Rhonda)
Hi Cecilia,
I know this must have been hard to share. It would have been for me, but you do so with such sincerity that it is touching to know you can reach out to us on this site. People can be cruel, but God is good.
Take care,
Rhonda
reply by the author on 19-Dec-2024
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Hi Cecilia,
I know this must have been hard to share. It would have been for me, but you do so with such sincerity that it is touching to know you can reach out to us on this site. People can be cruel, but God is good.
Take care,
Rhonda
Comment Written 19-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 19-Dec-2024
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Rhonda,
Thank you for the wonderful review. I appreciate it. I love this site. Everybody on this site has been kind and supportive, with the exception of one douche bag I have muted.
Cecilia
Comment from Sandra Stoner-Mitchell
I'm amazed at how many on FS have been abused as children. That your mother blamed you for his leaving, is awful! I can quite understand why Christmas doesn't bring any cheer for you. She wasn't a good mother, but you have been to your children. Be proud! I'm sure they are.
I do hope you have a nice Christmas and see your children. Sending love and hugs my friend. :)) Sandra xx
reply by the author on 18-Dec-2024
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I'm amazed at how many on FS have been abused as children. That your mother blamed you for his leaving, is awful! I can quite understand why Christmas doesn't bring any cheer for you. She wasn't a good mother, but you have been to your children. Be proud! I'm sure they are.
I do hope you have a nice Christmas and see your children. Sending love and hugs my friend. :)) Sandra xx
Comment Written 18-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 18-Dec-2024
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Sandra,
Thank you for the wonderful review. Yes, I have heard many stories since I posted this. It must have been the generation or so it seems. A different time. My children live with me so I'll see them. Some Christmases are better than others and this just seems to be a bad year. Thank you for the encouragement my friend I really appreciate you.
Cecilia
