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RE: Suicide Amid Molestation Inquiry
Reply on December 24, 2017 12:15 PM
"I could tell stories that would make you blush"

O, wait, wait, wait, mrsmajor! ... (getting my pink powder puff, some popcorn, and a pack of diet Pepsi) ... Okay, let 'em rip! :-))

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RE: Suicide Amid Molestation Inquiry
Reply on December 24, 2017 01:15 PM << Modifed December 24 at 1:50PM >>
If something happened 50 years ago & it wasn't dealt with
then, why is it being brought to light now? Makes me wonder
if some big name lawyer got hold of it & wants to pad his/her
pockets if the person accused is a rich celebrity. Oh, I know
there are many good & decent lawyers. So don't throw me to the
wolves over that comment. Now if the person that was 'abused'
was underage, then that is different in the way it MAY have
happened. But 50 years ago? 40? 30? 20? 10? 5? 2? 1?
6 months? Get with the program people. If it's there & true,
then report it immediately.



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RE: Suicide Amid Molestation Inquiry
Reply on December 24, 2017 01:34 PM



Even 10 years ago is too long for me, Jan,...why now!

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RE: Suicide Amid Molestation Inquiry
Reply on December 24, 2017 01:45 PM


Now, Now, Dis, I don't want to shock you, at least not in front of everyone...but if you meet me around the corner, in the dark, alone, then I'll whisper all I know in your ear, well how about it...(do you realize to some people, I just insulted you)..see what I mean.

Just asking you to meet me in the dark, alone, to tell you something, I couldn't in public...I bet some would get insulted by that...I wouldn't though, all I'd say is go to hell...unless such a word hurt one's tender ears.

Just Some Thoughts!





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RE: Suicide Amid Molestation Inquiry
Reply on December 25, 2017 03:42 AM
Emma, I also think the situation with the woman asked to withdraw from a Congressional race is way overboard for zero tolerance. Especially given she'd adhered to due process immediately following the firing and the charges were summarily dismissed.

It seems the government's harassment policy wasn't legislated before now. In my view it's neither fair nor legal to write legislation and then retroactively penalize perpetrators in the present for something done years. So other repercussions for bad behaviour should be looked at in some instances. Retroactive legislation opens the process to significant abuse of power which is the crux of sexual harassment. The charge of harassment shows a pattern of behaviour over a period of time. For example, a single incident of one person expressing interest in another person by touching their shoulder or hand or extending a crude invitation for a rendezvous is not sexual harassment if the spurned was told no and that was the end of it. It only becomes harassment when the person spurned carries on with a campaign of abuse.

Here is a short-list of power moves a senior manager can use against a subordinate. The senior person might start rumours and have them spread widely in the workplace so the creator of the rumour can't be identified. They might start criticizing their subordinate's professional work they'd previously given the highest praise. They might start giving them poor performance evaluations whereas previously they were all exceptional. They might change work hours making it difficult for a single mother to arrange her child-care schedule. They might start excluding that person from seasonal social events, important meetings or telling targeted jokes to humiliate that person in front of their peers. Ruthless people in positions of power can and do, blacklist the person who refused their advances from ever working again in an entire industry, such as we've seen examples of in Hollywood and the civil service. The insidious ways one person can brutalize another person are only limited by the vindictive rage and unrestrained power of the perpetrator coupled with the willingness of people who know what is going on to remain silent and look the other way.

That said, these acts of emotional violence are vastly different from a single act of sexual assault such as rape, or molestation involving children. But typically these attacks also show up as a pattern of behaviour in the abuser and there will be multiple accusers. But all are abusive, all are horrible abuses of power, but they are different. Sadly the feeding frenzy that's going on with the METOO movement is loosely-knit and haphazard and because of that lack of clarity in direction might cause more harm than good. Let's hope that doesn't happen because something does need to be done, but extreme care should be taken so that innocent people aren't crushed in the process.

Rightly or wrongly, politics is a vicious, blood-sport and absolutely anything in a person's background can and will be used to compromise them in a bitter campaign.

It would certainly help if political parties did a better job of screening their nominees.



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RE: Suicide Amid Molestation Inquiry
Reply on December 25, 2017 02:10 PM << Modifed December 26 at 9:10AM >>
There will always be those men/women that find pleasure in hurting another human being...whether it be in the workplace or in general...Through-out many years there have been laws established that protect the working public...Federal, State, City, and then we must note that one of the reasons for Unions, (when available)...is for the protection of workers, both professional and ordinary.

These agencies can only work, when there services are used...indeed, they are time consuming, and difficult, but do serve us with some place to air our grievances...are all these cases settled to the satisfaction of the complainant?... I can't say, but they are there.

Of course its a fact that those in power can use that power to their advantage, to be cruel, hateful, and downright mean...but, to say that the workers have no recourse to this kind of behavior isn't completely so.

What I have seen is fear, fear of reprisals...and in many cases no action is taken by the one being harassed, whether it be sexually, verbally, or otherwise...So to bring up such behavior after many years is going to be questioned...and rightly so.

For that reason, I believe, and its just my personal opinion, each case has to be dealt with on an individual basis...yet when we hear the cases of abuse, and harassment, without specifics, all are put into the same category and I don't think that's at all fair.

Not every case of abuse is valid, not every case of harassment can be substantiated after some of the very long periods of time mentioned in the news.

However, if in the case of moore, there was information given, that would lead the average person to believe he was guilty...surely he doesn't belong in any office of government.

What kind of regulations can be established is the question...and personally I just don't have the answer...and it seems that those in authority do not have the answer...yet...but I hope something can be done...

Just Some Thoughts!


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RE: Suicide Amid Molestation Inquiry
Reply on December 26, 2017 02:26 AM << Modifed December 26 at 2:28AM >>
In my opinion the accounts of sexual misconduct are coming out now are an equal and opposite reaction to Trump's stunning and total rejection of women. Patriarchal injunctions promote silence and denial of the extent of male violations in women's lives in particular. The cultural context determines not only which accounts can be told but also which ones will be heard. Prior to the election of a self-confessed sexual predator to the highest office in the world sexual abuses were too often relegated to powder room warnings and whispers in boardrooms. Today there is a waterfall of revelations.

Why were we not hearing these stories decades ago? Did our culture previously deny victims the right to even remember these assaults? Was sexual aggression seen as an inalienable right of powerful men and if anything happened, it was the woman's fault and not his? Were the victims remembering and not telling, or were the victims telling and being beat back into silence? I think it's a combination of all these things, and a few others, but however one wants to understand it, the cultural climate has shifted to allow for honest incidents to be publicly aired. And kudos to the genuinely strong, moral men who support equality and respect for and from all.

Regarding Moore, under Alabama law his actions as a 32 year old assistant district attorney against a 14 year old girl steeped in trauma of a family divorce and custody hearing constitutes sexual abuse in the second degree. Even though we should be disgusted by Moore's behaviour we shouldn't be surprised because he's never been one to follow the law, not even the Ten Commandments that he broke the Constitutional law for. "If you want an example of a politician who lost support and was arrested for less egregious behavior, how about the former Democratic member of Congress, who is now in prison for sexting a 15 year old girl?"

What is in equal measure heartbreaking and angering is seeing some evangelicals downplaying child molestation or Trump's boasts of sexual assault under the auspices of needing Moore to pass a tax cut for the wealthy. That claim clearly wasn't truthful either because the law passed easily without his vote. In the aftermath of losing the election, the Judge remains a challenge for those who see themselves as good and decent people of faith. If you find yourself excusing child molestation, then it's reasonable to conclude you are driven not by morality or faith, but by partisan politics for financial gain.

Moore's continued denial of having even met these girls/women is wrong and he should clean up his misdeeds and misunderstandings and step aside from any bid for public office instead of deepening the divide.



   
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