- The Good Girl - Day 12by MelB
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: The Good Girl - Day 12 by MelB

Christian Devotional for Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Day 12

~ The Good Girl ~
The Good Girl is kind-hearted, gentle, and a wonderful helper.  She is a peacekeeper and will do whatever it takes to keep others from becoming angry and abandoning her.  Finding out others are upset with her will cause anxiety and make her lose sleep at night.  She is the professional apologizer, needing constant validation and proof of her worthiness.  Internally, she keeps her emotions in check, by not allowing herself to experience too much pleasure or pain.  She appears controlled, but is numb.
The Good Girl is organized, dependable, loyal, and a hard worker.  Her hard work is generally to dazzle others with her commitment, but it is seen as subtle manipulation.  She has a tendency to be taken advantage of, as she has a hard time saying no to others’ demands.  When others become upset, she will blame herself for allowing it to happen.  It’s hard for her to accept help from anyone, as she believes no one could do it as well as she could anyway.  She would rather work herself into the ground, than to admit defeat and ask for help.
The Good Girl wears a plastic smile on her face, and takes good care of her outward appearance.  However, on the inside she is filled with critical hardness and self-hatred.  She has handled the abusive action of others by remaining pleasant, but emotionally detached.  The Good Girl has learned the hard way not to trust others, and would like to put faith in herself, but she is not able.
The Good Girl is destined to live a life of loneliness and suffer repeated abuse, if she continues down the same path. 
She is more prone to depression, and will recoil in her own shell if attention is drawn to problems in a relationship with her. 
Jesus spoke these words on the Sermon of the Mount, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God” (Matthew 5:9). Peacemakers strive to create peace and attempt to reconcile things and people that are at odds with one another.  Peacekeepers, on the other hand, strive to keep peace at all costs.  The Good Girl will need to make peace, instead of paying the price to keep it. 

Our self-worth often comes from what other people tell us about ourselves.  “Knowing that you were not redeemed with corruptible things, like silver or gold … but with the precious blood of Christ” (1 Peter 1:18, 19).  God was willing to pay the highest price to redeem us – with His Son’s blood.  We must be important to God to give that huge of a sacrifice! 

“Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God!” (1 John 3:1).


Author Notes
Various issues and emotions that sexual abuse survivors go through are covered in this devotional. Devotionals are small books, so a lot of information is covered in a small space. This is a series and each day builds from the previous day.


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