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Devotions for Survivors of Sexual Abuse

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Comment from BeasPeas
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Hi Mel. You writing is very good. I have seen myself in various aspects of each of your case studies, although nothing "bad" happened to me. Maybe we all have some of these traits to varying degrees. You explain yourself very, very well on a complicated topic. Marilyn

 Comment Written 08-Jan-2018


reply by the author on 08-Jan-2018
    Hi Marilyn, thank you so much! It's easy to write about it, as so much of it was me too. Maybe, we all do have some of this in us. I thought it was just the abused ones, but we are all flawed people in a flawed world. Thanks for your wonderful comments! Mel
Comment from l.raven
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HI Melissa, oh so very true sweet angel...it's so easy to lose your self worth...from physical and mental abuse...it is so important to know your worth...or you never heal in life...a very good written chapter my sweet friend...and the picture...perfect...Love you...Linda xxoo

 Comment Written 06-Jan-2018


reply by the author on 06-Jan-2018
    Hi Linda, thank you so much! I appreciate your kind words, friend. How are you doing? I'm sure you are back home now. How's the house coming? Love you, Mel
reply by l.raven on 06-Jan-2018
    HI Melissa, you are so welcome sweet girl...I am doing better...I am still in Florida...I was at my daughters...but I am back to my brothers now...helping with my mother...I won't be home for awhile...love you...Linda xxoo
reply by the author on 06-Jan-2018
    I know it's been cold there too, but you are still better off than here. It's supposed to be 27 tomorrow. That is going to feel like a heat wave, compared to the last two weeks.
reply by l.raven on 06-Jan-2018
    my friend in Illinois told me how bad the weather is...burrrrrr....LOL...cuddle up you...it's in the 30's here at night...LOL...xxoo love
reply by the author on 06-Jan-2018
    I'm sitting in front of my little heater right now. I hate the cold, so I live by this thing in the winter. Enjoy the nice weather!
Comment from Thomas Bowling
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If I read you correctly, every girl is a victim of abuse. This may be true. The one girl you have left out is the obese girl. She has lost her self-esteem. In an effort to prevent abuse from ever happening again she has chosen to make herself unattractive.

 Comment Written 05-Jan-2018


reply by the author on 05-Jan-2018
    Hi Tom, According to the National Center for Victims of Crime, 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused by age 18 (and those are the reported cases). So, maybe not every girl, but darn near. I did talk about the obese girl and other things girls do to look unattractive, so that abuse won't happen again. It was in the post, where I talked about being in the tower. Thanks for reading! Mel
Comment from Ben Colder
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Well said and well written. Right on. It fit my Mary and how she would try and keep peace within the family. Yes, a good girl is all that is written here. Thank you for sharing.

 Comment Written 04-Jan-2018


reply by the author on 04-Jan-2018
    Hi Ben, it's a huge burden to take on keeping the family happy. I know, because I did it too! How freeing to let them go and let God have it all. Thanks for the wonderful review and six stars. Mel
Comment from Ulla
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Hi Melissa, yes I can see how this type of personality could open up to be taken advantage of to ultimate end in abuse. I would say any kind of abuse. Psychologically and/or physical abuse. Well written and well structured. All the best, Ulla:)))

 Comment Written 04-Jan-2018


reply by the author on 04-Jan-2018
    Hi Ulla, thank you for the great review. How are you doing? Mel
reply by Ulla on 04-Jan-2018
    Hi Melissa, I'm doing fine. I'm back from France tomorrow, and then next week I'm finalising the purchase of my house. Can't wait. Of course there's a lot of other practicalities to take care of, but all in all I'm doing well and quite stress free, considered. My time in France was a godsend. Louise is a very good friend. Thanks a lot for thinking about me, dear friend. I really appreciate it. Hugs. Ulla:)))
reply by the author on 04-Jan-2018
    I'm glad to hear you are doing well. I've been thinking of you often. Sounds like you had a wonderful time in France too:)
Comment from Tier V. King
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Good morning, Mel: I apologize for not reading your posts lately. I have been so busy but I really enjoyed this part. I guess in one way or another some of us do have some of this good girl in us and then we have some of the other ones also. I see a lot of me in this part, the way you explained it. Yet I saw my self as the tough girl too. I was always the good girl at first but as I continued to be taken for granted and abused and used sexually, I became a meaner person, drawing my line in the sand for good.

Mel, You are so wise. I really enjoy the way you write. You are an exceptional and extraordinary writer. This one deserves a six but I ran out. Exceptional!

 Comment Written 04-Jan-2018


reply by the author on 04-Jan-2018
    Hi Tier, thank you so much for the wonderful review and virtual six star!. I appreciate your faith in me. Most of this comes from 'The Wounded Heart', but there was so much of me in all these styles. I think there is some of each of them in every survivor, whether they realize it or not. Blessings, Mel
Comment from GWinterwin
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This is sad in that many people never know or understand this person or what makes them this way. Good information for others to know. Thanks for sharing and God bless.

 Comment Written 03-Jan-2018


reply by the author on 04-Jan-2018
    Hi George, thank you so much for your kind review and generous stars. Much appreciated! God Bless:) Mel
Comment from Teri7
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This is another very well written piece to go into your devotional book my friend. You hit the nail on the head with me every time. I must be a really messed up person! Thought I was o.k. , but I guess not so much! Thanks for posting these my friend. They do help a lot. love you, Teri

 Comment Written 03-Jan-2018


reply by the author on 04-Jan-2018
    Hi Teri, your not a messed up person. Just a person who was harmed by a messed up person. Abuse does a great deal of damage and so much more than we think. Most people take years to heal. I went through 3-4 years of counseling, and I couldn't even wrap my head around how much it messed me up. But, I healed! We're all on a different journey. I'm so thankful and I'm so thrilled that you think these will be helpful to others. This book has been on my heart for a year or so. Thanks friend! Love you, Mel
Comment from patcelaw
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Melissa, this is so important for the girls who are abused sexually. I know my granddaughter had a lot to do after her abuse, but now she is quite stable and is going to graduate this year with her BA in accounting and then going to study for he CPA. She is doing so well and I am so proud of her. Patricia

 Comment Written 03-Jan-2018


reply by the author on 04-Jan-2018
    Hi Patricia, I'm so glad to hear she is doing well! That's exciting about her graduation and degree. I'm sure her family is all proud and she will be a great inspiration to many. Thanks for reading. I'm glad you think this will be helpful to others. It's been on my heart for a year or so. Mel
Comment from Gert sherwood
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Hello MelB
Only one that as been abused knows how to express themselves of trying to be be their own therapist that believe they can bring peace to themselves
Very good
Gert

 Comment Written 03-Jan-2018


reply by the author on 04-Jan-2018
    Hi Gert, I have the best of both worlds working for me here - being a survivor, but also a counselor. Thanks for the great review. Mel
reply by Gert sherwood on 04-Jan-2018
    Oh I'm so glad MelB
    that you are a counselor.
    Gert
reply by the author on 04-Jan-2018
    I love the work:)