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Viewing comments for Chapter 16 "Minneapolis Adventure - Part II"...musings on us
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Comment from Dolly'sPoems
Patty, this is such an honest write with your open heart you are wishing the best for your son and I sincerely hope that it goes your way and he goes into rehab. Unfortunately you don't have control and he has to be the one who wants it and he is the only one who can help himself. Humans are creatures of habit and by forming new habits you can move on. One very poignant part of your story is your sons question about how his life would be without drugs? This is a very important point to make because he needs to see his future without the drugs and what he plans to do instead. This may be an area you can help him with some suggestions of how he can change his life and have a different future. I am not suggesting this is easy Patty, because I know it isn't. As a Mother myself, I really feel for you. This is a brilliant piece, heartfelt and warm, kind and caring, love Dolly x
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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Patty, this is such an honest write with your open heart you are wishing the best for your son and I sincerely hope that it goes your way and he goes into rehab. Unfortunately you don't have control and he has to be the one who wants it and he is the only one who can help himself. Humans are creatures of habit and by forming new habits you can move on. One very poignant part of your story is your sons question about how his life would be without drugs? This is a very important point to make because he needs to see his future without the drugs and what he plans to do instead. This may be an area you can help him with some suggestions of how he can change his life and have a different future. I am not suggesting this is easy Patty, because I know it isn't. As a Mother myself, I really feel for you. This is a brilliant piece, heartfelt and warm, kind and caring, love Dolly x
Comment Written 17-May-2017
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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Hi Dolly; thank you so much for your thoughtful and kind review of this story. Being a mother is the best job I've ever had. I love my kids with every fiber of my being - so, this trip was very important. I do realize that I can't force him or wish him into rehab, and I'm content with the conversations that we had, and the seeds I planted.
Your kind words of encouragement mean a great deal to me,
~patty~
Comment from apky
"He seemed taller than I remembered, but it is probably because I'm starting to shrink."
- had a good laugh at this, Patty, but my husband told me it's indeed true that we shrink a bit as we get older.
There might not be concrete answers for a while, Patty. But there again you two meeting and spending the time together gave you many answers to some of the
questions you had in your heart. Just remember that your answers/questions may not be quite Gregory's.
I'm grateful that God gave you this time together and he was not zonked out or hurt or gravely ill. Together, and with a lot of patience, the Grace of God, you and your family shall overcome someday, somehow.
Thanks for sharing.
Bless & hugs,
Aki
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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"He seemed taller than I remembered, but it is probably because I'm starting to shrink."
- had a good laugh at this, Patty, but my husband told me it's indeed true that we shrink a bit as we get older.
There might not be concrete answers for a while, Patty. But there again you two meeting and spending the time together gave you many answers to some of the
questions you had in your heart. Just remember that your answers/questions may not be quite Gregory's.
I'm grateful that God gave you this time together and he was not zonked out or hurt or gravely ill. Together, and with a lot of patience, the Grace of God, you and your family shall overcome someday, somehow.
Thanks for sharing.
Bless & hugs,
Aki
Comment Written 17-May-2017
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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Hi Aki; thank you so much for reading this second part of the story. I will take your words to heart. He did do a lot to spend time with me, and he gave me the best of him. We talked about so many things, and I found 'my Gregory,' which is something I needed. The trip was a success - just not the way everyone was hoping for. Thank you for seeing that,
~patty~
Comment from rtobaygo
Good morning, Patty
Heart warming moments yet undercut by the knowledge that your son was not ready to commit to rehab.. I can only begin to imagine the range of emotions you must deal with to keep yourself sane.
Take care and stay safe,
Ray
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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Good morning, Patty
Heart warming moments yet undercut by the knowledge that your son was not ready to commit to rehab.. I can only begin to imagine the range of emotions you must deal with to keep yourself sane.
Take care and stay safe,
Ray
Comment Written 17-May-2017
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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Hi Ray; thank you so much for continuing to follow this story. In writing the pieces of the story, I have been able to process all that happened. I have a peace about it all - thank you for your warm and kind thoughts,
~patty~
Comment from Sankey
This is another great chapter. I hope with you that some good will come out of all this. Thanks for sharing and the picture is lovely too. Just one spag.While I could tell[,] he wasn't high,
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This is another great chapter. I hope with you that some good will come out of all this. Thanks for sharing and the picture is lovely too. Just one spag.While I could tell[,] he wasn't high,
Comment Written 17-May-2017
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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Hi; thank you so much for reading along with this. I appreciate your warm words of encouragement - somehow I know that God's plan will see us through this one,
~patty~
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I had a friend acceptance today from someone who also is friends with Melissa Brown here in FS. Was that you under another name Meaghan something?
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oh no - everything I do is under my name, Patty - I just don't feel the need to 'mix my worlds.' FanStory is my creative outlet,
~patty~
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That's fine Sis. God Bless.
Comment from Pearl Edwards
The great thing is Patty that you and your son can talk about everything,
You can't make me better by wishing for it - unfortunately true, but he knows he has your support and love. I do hope it all works out for your son and that he gets the help he needs.Thanks for sharing this story Patty, very brave of you.
cheers,
valda
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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The great thing is Patty that you and your son can talk about everything,
You can't make me better by wishing for it - unfortunately true, but he knows he has your support and love. I do hope it all works out for your son and that he gets the help he needs.Thanks for sharing this story Patty, very brave of you.
cheers,
valda
Comment Written 17-May-2017
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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Valda; thank you for your thoughts on this piece. I have come to realize that I'm blessed to have the relationship I have with Gregory - this was a learning experience for both of us,
~patty~
Comment from pbomar1115
You are the best loving mom a son could have. Greg knows it and loves you. The open and honest communication is true love both of you share. You do not get that kind of love as a basic. It is a bonus. The love you and your son share requires no thoughts on what to do to keep it alive. It never faded. You seeing him is all you needed to satisfy your yearning to be with your child. I hope you can rest, knowing everything will be okay.
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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You are the best loving mom a son could have. Greg knows it and loves you. The open and honest communication is true love both of you share. You do not get that kind of love as a basic. It is a bonus. The love you and your son share requires no thoughts on what to do to keep it alive. It never faded. You seeing him is all you needed to satisfy your yearning to be with your child. I hope you can rest, knowing everything will be okay.
Comment Written 16-May-2017
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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thank you so much for the sentiments you've shared. I appreciate your warm and kind words - it IS important to remember that Gregory loves me,
~patty~
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You're welcome.
Comment from Sallyo
Interesting conclusion. The comment about what life would look like after is a powerful one. I've never understood drug, alcohol, smoking or gambling addiction because I have no interest in this kind of habit. I drink the occasional cider, and that's it. However, and it's a big however, I do have an addictive personality. I'm addicted to writing, creating worlds and routine. When I'm tempted to think, Just stop it! about other people's habits, I need to think about how I would feel if someone told ME to "just stop it". Okay, my habits are not illegal and they're not harmful to health or to anyone else, but still--if I just stopped, I would no longer be me.
This may sound as if it's nothing to do with your piece, but your piece made me think hard, and that's the sign of good writing. I suspect the only way is never to start habits, but then, how can we prevent others from doing that?
Below are a couple of points.
It is (IN) my heart of hearts to say that the rest of the visit was perfect in every way, b
While I could tell, (CUT COMMA) he wasn't high, I knew he was controlling his intake to accommodate my visit.
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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Interesting conclusion. The comment about what life would look like after is a powerful one. I've never understood drug, alcohol, smoking or gambling addiction because I have no interest in this kind of habit. I drink the occasional cider, and that's it. However, and it's a big however, I do have an addictive personality. I'm addicted to writing, creating worlds and routine. When I'm tempted to think, Just stop it! about other people's habits, I need to think about how I would feel if someone told ME to "just stop it". Okay, my habits are not illegal and they're not harmful to health or to anyone else, but still--if I just stopped, I would no longer be me.
This may sound as if it's nothing to do with your piece, but your piece made me think hard, and that's the sign of good writing. I suspect the only way is never to start habits, but then, how can we prevent others from doing that?
Below are a couple of points.
It is (IN) my heart of hearts to say that the rest of the visit was perfect in every way, b
While I could tell, (CUT COMMA) he wasn't high, I knew he was controlling his intake to accommodate my visit.
Comment Written 16-May-2017
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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Hi; thank you so much for your time to read and review this piece. Thank you for catching the NITs - I went and made the changes.
I can relate to your thoughts on this; I never smoked and my experimentation with drugs and alcohol stopped at the first few times. My addictions come down to shopping and spoiling my pets. However, those are addictions. How would I feel if I was told to stop?
You are right - I wouldn't be me. Thank you for sharing your deep thoughts on this subject - I was able to see things from a different perspective.
You are a good friend - in spite of never meeting one another, and the distance between us,
~patty~
Comment from Gert sherwood
Hello
strong,patient and determined Mom getting your additive son and taking time to talk and listen to your
sincere concerns.
I'm was impressed of how you told us of you to me a great start for Georgy to get back on the right track
Gert
Gert
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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Hello
strong,patient and determined Mom getting your additive son and taking time to talk and listen to your
sincere concerns.
I'm was impressed of how you told us of you to me a great start for Georgy to get back on the right track
Gert
Gert
Comment Written 16-May-2017
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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Hi Gert; thank you so much for your encouraging words. I feel that the trip was a success, and I will continue to pray for Gregory to see his way through this,
~patty~
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Hello ~patty-
Keep praying we did when we knew our son-in law was very addicted and he, himself put himself in to rehab
our daughter told him no way she would marry him until he got straighten out
He did.
Gert
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thank you so much for the encouragement,
~p~
Comment from Gypsy Blue Rose
Hello my friend,
I think that you are making serious progress. He was willing to see the counselor, and talk with you about his drug problem. You are helping him a lot. I think he must feel loved.
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Hello my friend,
I think that you are making serious progress. He was willing to see the counselor, and talk with you about his drug problem. You are helping him a lot. I think he must feel loved.
Comment Written 16-May-2017
reply by the author on 17-May-2017
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Hi Gypsy; thank you for continuing to read the story. I do believe that Gregory came away from my visit with the absolute knowledge that he is loved. I feel the trip was a success, because I know he loves me, too.
~patty~
Comment from Teri7
Patty, This is a great and very well written story from your heart. I almost cried as I read it because I know the feeling of disappointment from a child that is so loved. He is a very nice looking young man. You used great descriptive wording and imagery. Great job. prayers for you and your son my friend! love, Teri
reply by the author on 16-May-2017
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Patty, This is a great and very well written story from your heart. I almost cried as I read it because I know the feeling of disappointment from a child that is so loved. He is a very nice looking young man. You used great descriptive wording and imagery. Great job. prayers for you and your son my friend! love, Teri
Comment Written 16-May-2017
reply by the author on 16-May-2017
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Hi Teri; thank you so much for following the story. I appreciate your time and your prayers. I believe that the uplifting prayers I had from my fellow FanStorians sustained me last week. I had all of you in my heart,
~patty~
