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RE: Yes or No
Reply on October 3, 2017 05:18 AM << Modifed October 3 at 5:31AM >>
I agree with you, Mikey. There are definitely situations in which we are faced with seemingly impossible choices - where avoiding harm completely seems impossible. In these situations, there are a couple of things we can keep in mind:

1. The important thing is that we avoid causing harm wherever we can, and especially that we don't seek to cause it. If it's inevitable, then we have to deal with that as best we can.

2. If faced with a lose-lose situation, I would tend to try and pick the path that causes the least harm.

I respect your decisions with regard to career choices. There are definitely cases where it comes down to looking after our own interests or the interests of others.

My neighbours all think I'm insane (they're probably right) because I have around forty head of livestock on my property, all of whom have a safe home for life. Not only that, but it costs a fortune to feed them with each year getting drier, and the soil less productive. Of course, they are all making a nice income from their stock. But it's my choice, and I'm happy to put the livelihood of the animals that live here above my own interests. I don't give my neighbours a hard time for their decisions (although I'd be quite happy if they joined the party). And in the end, it's really in my own selfish interests anyway. It's a case of financial interest versus peace of mind. I'll take the latter any time, as I presume you have in your musical career.

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Of course, it's all well in theory, and as something to aspire to I think we can do worse than follow the "no harm" idea. In practice, all of us will from time to time behave hypocritically, and put ourselves first. That's human nature.


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RE: Yes or No
Reply on October 3, 2017 05:29 AM
Agree. I must say that peace of mind is a cool thing and I know that it isn't a common thing either.

But I do think I'm overly unkind to myself and perhaps I should consider myself a little more anyway. Maybe not. But I look back and I see sooooo many times that I should've taken charge and didn't. It may have hurt the one IN charge, but it would have been better for the enterprise so to speak, and more JUST for myself.

But then, I do have the peace thing going and mega karma. LOL


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RE: Yes or No
Reply on October 3, 2017 01:07 PM
Well, guys, if I may join the peace, love, harmony movement for a moment...

I've also stuck to the 'do no harm' mantra, but I can't honestly say I hid my light under a bushel for it, because I haven't got one (a light, that is. Or a bushel, come to that).

Mostly I've lived a life of trying to be useful and decent because there isn't much else to do when you aren't particularly beautiful, talented, or clever. I get employed because I am reliable and thorough. I've been a backstage gal, literally and metaphorically in my career to date. My job in the theatre was, basically, dealing with the needs of those whose stars shone rather more brightly.

Would I have been a bitch if I'd have thought for one minute I'd ever get away with it? Who knows. I've seen them at the theatre, showy arsehole actors who treat the crew like shit on a shovel, and get away with it because you can do a show under houselights with no set and props, but you can't do it without actors. There are, mind you, some lovely actors.

I don't have much to offer the world in terms of talent and mental capability, so I do nice. It makes my day better. I'd love to say it was selfless, but it really isn't.

If I'd had talent, I'd probably have been a total wanker.

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RE: Yes or No
Reply on October 3, 2017 05:16 PM
Welcome to the love-in, Emma. Pull up a beanbag and make yourself comfortable.

You speak of beauty, talent and cleverness. I've found they can be incredible assets... so I hooked up with someone who has them in abundance. As for myself, I'm a proud member of the plain, mediocre underachievers club.

Nice is something it's impossible to overvalue, so congratulations on getting it right. Speaking of which, someone pointed me to this a few years ago. I think it's very appropriate material for our love fest:

https://6thfloor.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/07/31/george-saunderss-advice-to-graduates/




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RE: Yes or No
Reply on October 4, 2017 04:09 AM
Yep, that guy covers it pretty well. Not sure about the getting nicer as you get older bit, mind, since I know a lot of cantankerous old buggers, lol.

Oddly enough, it IS the times I've been a less-than-stellar person to someone else that bothers me more now than the missed opportunities.

As you may have noticed on these threads, I am drawn to the more practical aspects of Buddhism, because I like the selfless philosophy. I struggle to do the selfless bit, as well as the bit about living in the time you're in, not yesterday or tomorrow. 'Do no harm' is pretty big in Buddhism. But I try. And making the effort, even if you don't always succeed, is much more fun than not bothering at all.

We live in the 'me' times. But the 'me, me, me' people don't seem any happier for it. The 'celebs' seem to have pretty godawful lives, if one believes the tabloids.

Hey, these bean bags are pretty comfortable ...


   
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